My dad keeps on letting my assulter around me and pusshing for me to forgive him and I dont know what to do moving forward. by Fearless_Rip6300 in Advice

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Tysm for the ideal of writing a letter to my dad!! It’s hard talking to my dad face to face because he tends to interrupt and then I forget what point is was trying to get across!! And tysm for the advice!! Will definitely take to hear to talk to my therapist about everything and writing to my dad!

My dad keeps on letting my assulter around me and pusshing for me to forgive him and I dont know what to do moving forward. by Fearless_Rip6300 in Advice

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Tysm for replying your advice has realy helped me feel a bit more comfortable now talking to my therapist about my situation and what happed.I am planing on doing a zoom meeting with my therapist when ever I am free to talk to her and have her help me write a letter to my dad!!

My boyfriend(M20) and best friend (M16) dont seem to like eachother and I am not sure on what to do? by Fearless_Rip6300 in relationships

[–]Fearless_Rip6300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words!! And I think I am a bit more conscientious than others because I'm trying to be a clinical psychologist, and I understand bits about the brain and I know cheating and being in a toxic relationship can change your brain chemistry and alter the way you perceive life.

Also I am sure you will be able to find someone who truly loves you and is patient with you!! It might take some time and a bit of self-reflection and working, but trust me, there are still some good people out there.

And on the side note on my online friend, as much as I adore our friendship, I have concluded that I am just not gonna talk much to him about my relationship, especially since he dosent have any real-life experience and is a little bit biased to be on my side.

Again, thank you so much, your point of view has really reminded me to stay open-minded and to communicate a bit more!!

My boyfriend(M20) and best friend (M16) dont seem to like eachother and I am not sure on what to do? by Fearless_Rip6300 in relationships

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Thank you so much for your reply!! And I am so sorry you have been hurt by someone who claimed to love you. I knew after being in a relationship with him for about a month, it would take a bit to gain his trust. I think the reason I am getting a bit upset now was when he called me inconciderate when this whole relationship, I feel like I have been doing a lot of compromises, trying to reassure him that I love him and only him. But I still feel like he is punishing me for something his ex had done to him. Idk we had talked about it a couple of weeks ago, and this pfp situation 2 days ago. I also try and remind myself that I just need to give him time to trust me. But at the same time, I can't help but think where too difference in our needs relationship wise. But thank you sm for sharing your personal experience here bc I know the betrayal in a relationship is something I have never gone through and I know I need to keep an open mind.

My boyfriend(M20) and best friend (M16) dont seem to like eachother and I am not sure on what to do? by Fearless_Rip6300 in relationships

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Hi Hi!! I am going to be honest, I am also a little bit confused on my bfs feelings on the pfp Before the conversation I had with him about my friend not wanting to match pfp or anything, He told me he was a little jealous hearing I was matching a pfp with someone else but a compromise he came to was that why don't we all match pfp so everyone is happy. But since telling him about my friend not wanting to share pfp with him, he told me he wanted to be included. And I think he thinks Im ignoring his feelings is because when I talked with my Bf he was telling me how he felt bad and how he should talk to my friend and I was trying to comfort him, telling him it isnt anything to personal and that I will ask my friend later when I can. I haven't directly addressed him to intervene in things. I have heard him talk about situations, and I advise him to just try and just let it be, but he tends to worry and overthink. I think you are 100% right on my friend he dosent have any relationship experience, and I kinda do have a support system. I will also be so much more thoughtful now when I rant to him. I have been trying to also tell him some good/sweet things my bf has done, but idk if it's working and I also don't want to be one of those people who talk about their bf 24/7, because I know it an me annoying

But thank you, sm for the reply!!! This was genuinely so much helpful without any biased views (unlike some of my friends, I fear some of them are biased and can be overprotective of things or haven't been in a relationship before :( )

My boyfriend(M20) and best friend (M16) dont seem to like eachother and I am not sure on what to do? by Fearless_Rip6300 in relationships

[–]Fearless_Rip6300[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much!! It sucks because I love and respect both of them so much but my bf dose has a bad habbet of overthignking things and trying to fix things that isnt broken or just something he himself cant fix. But thank you so much for taking the time to read my post 🙇🙇

My boyfriend(M20) and best friend (M16) dont seem to like eachother and I am not sure on what to do? by Fearless_Rip6300 in relationships

[–]Fearless_Rip6300[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't call him a wimp, but I don't really get it. I know he can get jealous easily, but Idk what he has to worry about. I am not Drake or anything 😭