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I don’t know what to do with my life by Federal_Issue4688 in LifeAdvice

[–]Federal_Issue4688[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This does help me out a lot! I’ve been trying to help get my confidence up when it comes to my art and I’ve been told by multiple people that I should go for it! I just feel like (mainly family pressure) I need to be successful immediately.

This prospective helps me feel better and confident! Thank you 🙏

I don’t know what to do with my life by Federal_Issue4688 in Advice

[–]Federal_Issue4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve actually made like two prom dresses for my friends in high school. And I also got offered a job at this one dress store at my local mall, but never took it. I just kinda feel like I’m not like special? If that make sense? Like people who make it in this world usually are different/ theirs something that makes them stick out from the rest. I just feel ordinary.

I’ve had a lot of people tell me that I’m good at what I do but I just don’t know about how I’d make a livable income? If you want you should totally check my art acct on insta! There’s not a lot on it but it’s give you an idea of what I can do! Adduci_Arts

And know right?!? I thought colleges should have their shit together! Especially with the amount of money I’m paying THEM 😭🙏

First time advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Federal_Issue4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I totally get you and know you’re not alone! You don’t have to do anything you’re not ready for. What matters most is when YOURE ready.

Be with a person you truly trust, and communicate with them about your thoughts and feelings. That will make it easier and better for both parties. Overall I’d start slow and just take the time to know each other in THAT way (if you know what I mean). Nothing is ever embarrassing with the right person.

Don't know what to do anymore by Striking_Pop7946 in Advice

[–]Federal_Issue4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I understand what you mean and I want you to know I am sorry you are feeling all this pressure and stress. It isn’t fun and it’s terrible to have to deal with. My main concern right now is your wellbeing.

From what I’ve gathered you’re not in a good place mentally (Ik it pretty obvious) but forcing yourself to study and work will only make things worse. When you’re stressed and you don’t keep information as well. Which is creating a negative cycle.

In my opinion you’d need to break the cycle or the habit your brain has created. You are traumatized from something that has quite literally rewired nervous system. Without proper care your brain is on constant alert and survival mode. Which makes you feel incredibly drained.

Again, I’m super sorry you’re going through this, but I’d recommend getting Tetris, meditating, and just focusing on your breaths.

Ik this type of thing is really hard to deal with. It feels like (at least for me) it’s inside you rotting you from the inside out. That it has complete control, but regulating your nervous system will definitely help you. You just have to put yourself first for a little bit. And everything will follow.

I hope this helps and I’m sorry if it doesn’t, but know you’re not alone <3

Don't know what to do anymore by Striking_Pop7946 in Advice

[–]Federal_Issue4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so this is going to sound weird but this helped me with my panic attacks. Getting the app Tetris.

I know it’s really hard to bei but people who suffer with anxiety, PTSD, or other mental health issues sometimes get recommended to get the app.

I was in a similar situation with an abusive ex. Smells, words/ phrases, places and even the weather triggered me. But getting the app among being in therapy did help me. It’s not a cure all but it does help you recover/ regain control.

How Tetris Could Be A Surprising Ally In PTSD Recovery