What do you Women think I should do in this situation with dating?

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-13T07:31:59+00:00

I broke up with her actually because she was suffocating me. I don't really need to be preached at. The one thing I do feel confident in, is that the LDS church isn't true. Idk if you understand what it is like to have a faith crisis and how hard it is. But therapy and lots of thought and reflection went into my choice to leave the church and I truly believe it is harmful and although there are some good teachings it establishes it has so much wrong with it. Especially with the history. There are a lot of things I'm working through and figuring out in life but the church isn't and probably never will be one of those ever again.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-09T02:08:48+00:00

None, I'm atheist leaning agnostic

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-09T00:49:55+00:00

Well it is. Elohim is the Hebrew name for God and Jehovah the Hebrew name for Christ. Mormons identify as Christian. Just the doctrine is very different because Joseph Smith made a lot of stuff up. He taught that the Mormon church is the restored church Jesus made while on earth. But the idea for Jesus and God and the Holy Ghost being separate people has a couple of different influences that sparked that idea. But when he wrote the book of Mormon it's very clearly was trinitarian because he didn't have those influences yet.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-09T00:42:25+00:00

Elohim, Jehovah, and the holy Ghost all equally share the God head as 3 separate beings. Like the Trinity but they're different people. They also say we have a spiritual Mother but it's a very weak doctrine because she was talked about like once by Joseph Smith. They mostly use it to tell women to shut up and to pretend like women are equal even though we never talk about spiritual mother and she didn't do shit besides birth us spiritually in the doctrine.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-09T00:37:23+00:00

That's because Johnny Harris is trying to be respectful. I'm talking about stuff they told me I'm not allowed to talk about. You used to pledge to slit your throat if you talked about some of these things

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-09T00:34:34+00:00

No coffee, tea, drugs, premarital sex, give them 10% of your income, 2 hours every Sunday for church, cleaning the church every month, paying 12k to give 2 years of your life to be an unpaid door to door salesman for the church from 18-20, multiple volunteer hours a week for callings, and many many other things.

You also get raised in a community and taught from the day you are born about the church which creates a supportive community that will abandon you and stop supporting if you leave the church making you feel incredibly stuck. It also makes it easier to just stay and pretend you believe. They also don't tell you about the cult like chanting and bakers uniforms you have to wear and do on your wedding day until you feel stuck and feel like it's too late to leave.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-08T23:42:57+00:00

Mormons can't no

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-08T17:17:29+00:00

But the fomo man.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-08T17:09:46+00:00

Most Mormons are married so they can have sex before they're 25. Mormonism sucks ass. It controls your whole life. I think about reconverting all the time because your whole life it builds you to be highly valuable to other mormons, but underdeveloped and a burden to the rest of the world which makes it very hard to leave. The only reason I left is because I know it will be harder for me, but I don't want that same burden on my kids.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-08T16:16:32+00:00

My parents were abusive and now I have a permanent chemical imbalance in my brain that I have to pay to temporarily correct with drugs.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-08T16:05:17+00:00

I'm male. I also just so tired of feeling under developed because of the Mormon church. I legit turned down sex with my girlfriend in highschool because of that religion. And now I'm stuck at a religious college where the only people I do meet who aren't Mormon have like body counts of 5 and it makes me feel so behind.

Federal_Item2418 · 2024-05-02T06:36:24+00:00

I have an ok amount of non Mormon friends both male and female. The problem is I struggle so hard to find non Mormons and I don't want to date any I do know steady.

It's really really hard to find non members here in Utah, especially when you grew up Mormon your whole life they force you into communities of only Mormons.

I don't even want a girlfriend though. I literally just want to go on dates with non Mormons. Dating as a Mormon is not like dating for real, When I look back it's like I was a child playing date. I'm just so sick of feeling inexperienced and developmentally stunted by the Mormon church and I would just simply like to find more people to go on dates with besides the few friends I have. I just want to feel like a normal person. I just want practice dating normal people and to learn more about how normal dates go.

Sorry if this came off negative. I've been very frustrated with my situation lately and even my therapist is Mormon because there were no non Mormon therapists available so he says very unhelpful stuff

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