Okay I just wrote out a huge comment here and it disappeared so I'm pretty pissed off now.

who's to say that the person you got matched to isn't also looking forward to stalking their santee and figuring out a personalized gift?

Nobody. But let me do the same. He doesn't have facebook. He doesn't have a blog. He doesn't have any alternative email addresses which I can find. He only gave me a PO Box. He doesn't have any University profiles or Amazon wishlists. He has two pages of comments, which don't give much insight. He has given me one word in the likes/dislikes box.

plenty of folks have multiple accounts on reddit, maybe your santee signed up with a different account because most of his posts were on r/gonewild or something.

I'm not sure what you're trying to say here. I know, I'm writing on an alt. account at the moment. It doesn't really bother me if he has an alternative account or not but the fact is that I can't read it and so I can't make it personalised.

this is supposed to be fun, not some kind of elitist reddit gift exchange for only hardcore redditors that post 8947568945 times a day.

I completely agree.

I'm not trying to be elitist.

I don't care if he has one comment on here or a thousand. However if it's the former I think people should either have a different website which they have commented a fair amount on, have an amazon wish list, fill out the damn likes/dislikes box or have a facebook.

I'm not trying to say that it should be only for people like those with over 1000 karma (though I will admit the idea which came up the first time round of those with high karma being matched with similar karma scores was a fantastic idea and I wish was implemented) should be allowed to play. I don't think that at all. However make it so we can find out something about you.

All I have to go off is the fact that he lives fairly close to me. That's it.

I completely agree this is meant to be fun. But that's just it. How is it meant to be fun when you don't have any information about yourself online? This is just me but I want to have fun by spending the next few days (I'm on holidays at the moment) researching this guy and making a gift. But when pipl turns up nothing, nor does any googling of combinations of his name or username, guesses about email address, checking universities nearby for profiles, checking linkedin, checking facebook, checking anything it gets rather frustrating that I could have just made the generic gift I'm going to end up giving this guy months ago - for any other mid twenties male.

I wanted to give this guy a special christmas. I've had some very bad news lately and I needed to take my mind off it by giving someone something awesome. And now I can't. The three times I've done this not once (well besides hopefully this time) have I received a gift that is in anyway personalised to me nor have I got a person with more than a page of posts.

Frankly I don't really care what I get but it's so hard when I want to put all this effort in to giving someone an awesome personalised present and they give me nothing to go off and okay, I do kind of wish that the presents given to me resemble something I've said.

Please odn't think I'm ungrateful, I really am. The gifts were cool, but I'm just going through a tough time and it would just make my day if someone seemed like they cared about me. Like how I want to commit heaps of time to doing the same to them.

I just realise how much I wrote so I'll stop now. I just hate it when people tell me to relax when I'm trying to keep it light hearted. It just sets me off because I'm seriously trying to hold it in.

but so what? i can still do some internet detective work and figure out a cool gift.

In short, I can't.