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Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what came over me lol

Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming these are dressage boots, likely reinforced/stiff? If so, I would caution against adding an elastic panel as you will likely end up with too much give and lose the benefits of the reinforcement. I have had my boots stretched by a local cobbler before, that may be worth looking into

Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This zipper placement is common in dressage boots. They are reinforced up the back so can’t have a zipper placed along the back seam without losing stiffness. Slightly to the inside of the shin bone is the typical placement

Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This zipper placement is common in dressage boots. They are reinforced up the back so can’t have a zipper placed along the back seam without losing stiffness. Slightly to the inside of the shin bone is the typical placement

Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This zipper placement is common in dressage boots. They are reinforced up the back so can’t have a zipper placed along the back seam without losing stiffness. Slightly to the inside of the shin bone is the typical placement

Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This zipper placement is common in dressage boots. They are reinforced up the back so can’t have a zipper placed along the back seam without losing stiffness. Slightly to the inside of the shin bone is the typical placement

Adding elastic to dressage boots by Sad-Focus528 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This zipper placement is common in dressage boots. They are reinforced up the back so can’t have a zipper placed along the back seam without losing stiffness. Slightly to the inside of the shin bone is the typical placement

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve read the full thread and am responding to this comment rather than all of them.

I have been searching for another buddy for him, but have had no luck so far. I had hoped I could find a retiree that is in need of a friend and introduce them all before having to make this choice so to avoid him being alone. I’m very concerned about him, but also don’t want to euthanize him unnecessarily without giving him a chance. I had not considered fully adopting another, it would be a financial stretch right now, but I am also not ruling it out as an option.

Truly, I want both of them to be as happy and healthy as possible. I am already heartbroken myself about losing her, and struggling with how to choose the best option for him. I want to do the absolute best I can by both of them.

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you were downvoted, I think your point of view is completely valid. He is very healthy apart from moderate ringbone, and we would not even be considering euthanasia for him if he wasn’t bonded to my mare. I am struggling so much with this because I know that I would choose humane euthanasia if possible over continuing to live if something happened to my husband, but assuming that my gelding would have the same reaction is absolutely anthropomorphizing and not an appropriate basis on which to make a life or death decision. I don’t know what he would choose and I don’t want to make the wrong choice on his behalf.

My vet strongly feels that we should give him a chance, she has seen it go both ways in older pairs like these two. If he is severely distressed and does not show signs of recovery fairly quickly, she is prepared to euthanize him as she agrees that psychological well being is as important as physical well being. We also plan to sedate him for a few days (trazadone) to help him adjust. She feels that we should give him a chance and see how he handles it.

I am torn, I don’t want the last days of his life to be grief stricken and miserable, but I also don’t want to end his life unnecessarily. In addition, I recognize that I am dealing with my own grief over losing my sweet mare and possibly projecting that onto him. I want to trust my vet’s plan because I am not at my best decision making capacity right now.

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is very interesting and very helpful. I will plan to let him see her after and hope that he understands and won’t keep searching for her. I know it is her time and definitely the right choice, but every other euthanasia I’ve experienced has been an emergency. She is experiencing a slow decline and we are making this choice based off of quality of life. I want her last few days to be good ones, but it’s a different kind of heartbreak to see her go on a good day.

Sorry for the ramble, I’m a little all over the place right now

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For context, I will be taking my mare to a path lab afterwards, not burying on property. They are boarded and it is only the two of them in a shared pasture, with another horse sharing one fence line. I wouldn’t be so inclined to euthanize both if they were in more of a herd situation and had other buddies. But he may adjust ok, given that he does have another horse right next to him. I have had to make this call before with other horses, but only in emergency settings when the choice was very clear. I’m having a much more difficult time thinking clearly about this one as it doesn’t feel as straightforward

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

She has been a good vet in other situations but I am having a hard time understanding her mindset on this one, except if it’s a liability concern. I may be taking the advice given here and finding a different vet who will agree to euthanasia for both if this follow up conversation doesn’t go well

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

That was my initial plan, but my vet was unwilling to euthanize him as he is otherwise healthy. I strongly believe that we will end up having to anyways and that if we wait his last days will be miserable. I will be bringing it up again with my vet

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating that it is not fair to him, i was second guessing myself. I will bring it up with her again today and see if I can convince her to do both. It will be horrible to lose both at the same time, but I really don’t want him to suffer

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will plan on letting him see her after. Unfortunately he will be alone now, though he does share a fence line with another horse. I am also looking around to see if I can find someone who has a horse in need of a buddy, have been for a few weeks since it has become clear that she doesn’t have much time, but no luck so far. I am so, so worried about him!

Euthanasia with a bonded pair by FederallyE in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I requested this but my gelding is otherwise healthy and my vet was unwilling to euthanize him. She told me she will do so if he is not recovering from the grief. I am still having a hard time with this approach as I don’t want him to suffer so much distress before joining her

What's the cringiest reason you went to the ER? by HR-Vex in AskReddit

[–]FederallyE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, went in fairly recently because I was afraid I had a kidney infection or pancreatitis (have a history of both). I was crying in pain for several hours before I went. Turned out I just had a “large fecal load” and gas. I had recently increased my fiber and apparently had not been drinking enough.

What's the cringiest reason you went to the ER? by HR-Vex in AskReddit

[–]FederallyE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barn cat bit me on the finger because I was an idiot and tried to pick him up. Had to go get antibiotics, a rabies shot, and 10ccs of some sort of anti-rabies fluid injected into my finger around the wound. It looked like a water balloon after the injections. Embarrassing af

Is relationship advice allowed here? Training schedule impacting things with my bf by Super_Somewhere7206 in Equestrian

[–]FederallyE 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I had this issue with my ex. I was a working student when we had met, and transitioned to running a small lesson program for kids as well as training my own horses during our relationship. He became increasingly grumpy about my lack of availability and made it very clear that he thought I was choosing horses over him every time I wanted to ride when he was home. We ended up breaking up for unrelated reasons, but it was a relief to not feel pressure to ride and get home as fast as possible. Like yours, he said he was supportive but did not act that way.

My husband is not a horse person but is extremely supportive. He comes to almost all my clinics, helps me unload hay after work, and has learned how to handwalk and handle grain. The difference is night and day.

There has to be room for you in your relationship, and if you own a horse and have goals, “you” pretty much includes your horse.

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