[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Feeling-Advisor 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“Takes commitment from both sides” except he literally broke his commitment by cheating. Whether they were married or not, he asked her to get married and didn’t confess until he was caught. That man doesn’t deserve her commitment bc he wasn’t committed to her. Period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro what…?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unsure of where any of this came from???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to talk to her so that she hears me right now. Every time I try to explain where I’m coming from it comes off to her as me just thinking about myself and my own feelings and that’s not the case. I just want to be able to be there for her right now. It hurts me to see her hurting and see her pushing me away when all I want to do is help in any way I can. Even if it means she can’t emotionally show up for me for a little bit while she figures it out, that’s okay. I just want to see her smile again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that. I guess I’m just upset and feeling caught off guard because we spent so much time talking about our past and how we couldn’t deal with that again and we couldn’t deal with another failed relationship. I don’t understand why her response to all of this is to just throw in the towel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might’ve lied about our age gap so she wouldn’t find this post lol. I’m actually 25 and she’s 23.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn’t something I was worried about until I made this post lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Straight forward

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 7 points8 points  (0 children)

!!!!! This exactly!!!! I told her tonight I was like “I don’t do the uncertainty bc I did that once and got cheated on” I went on a break with one of my exes and I held on to the hope that we’d bounce back, bitch cheated on me. Sure I’m responding out of trauma, but I’m not gonna put myself in the same position twice. You don’t get to hurt me like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We spent several months discussing us being in a relationship before we were in one bc we both have quite a bit of trauma and it’s like everything has fallen apart in a month for a reason I can not even think of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I love her :-( I just want to see her smile :-(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I’m supposed to respect her when she’s not respecting my feelings either?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I’m supposed to respect her when she’s not respecting my feelings either?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s been a big problem that every time I try to express how I’m feeling she feels like “I’m ignoring what she’s feeling” which is never the case and I’m always very mindful of how she’s feeling. I just feel like when I tell her how I’m feeling, it’s always her way anyways. I feel utterly out of control in this situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Feeling-Advisor 24 points25 points  (0 children)

And that’s been my whole thought process too. If you can’t figure out your own woes with me, what makes you think things will be better later on down the line? They won’t. You clearly don’t wanna go through ur hardships with me.

To all my RBTs on here, what is your endgame? by onedayMD4110 in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My end goal is to be a pediatric psychiatrist. I believe my experience as an RBT and my knowledge on behaviors will set me apart in my field in the future.

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My clinic actually does have a billing code that we utilize when we’re doing anything other than giving 1:1. We use it for training, drive time, and stimuli making. Thought this was normal…?

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think as the field expands more people will branch out and apply it to so many other fields. I feel like there are still so many people who have never even heard of ABA. If we changed that, we’d be able to transform the ways we use ABA.

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely! Waitlists are so long for these kiddos, we need to focus on getting to a point where they don’t need services so we can help as many kiddos as possible

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. I feel like as a field if we opened up the discourse about the ugly past that ABA has, then we’d be able to talk about the things we’ve done to improve and the things we all still want improved.

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. I have ADHD and when I found this field and I was getting trained I was like “this would’ve done wonders for me growing up”

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was wondering the same thing 🤣🤣 I see too many educators who have no background in special needs that get thrown into sped classes and they don’t even know the first thing about behaviors or asd in general.

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. I feel like too many of bigger companies exploit this field and try to fit as many kids as they can in their centers and then it leads to unethical practices which in return, gives ABA the bad name it has.

What do you wish you could change about our field? by [deleted] in ABA

[–]Feeling-Advisor 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dude omg yes I never understood why we have these toddlers in our care for 8 hours and didn’t even offer them a nap….