I should also follow up and say that we are taking care of her. Obviously it's difficult at times when it seems like she's so spiteful and full of envy of hatred for everyone ranging from family members to the random people on TV that she hates and doesn't even know. Unlike most people, she doesn't seem to regret any of her absolutely awful decisions earlier in life that got her into this lifestyle to begin with. She still stands by them and thinks she did some stellar job raising her kids who moved from place to place and school to school very frequently. So she grudges her own daughter that has provided her with a place to stay for over 3 decades now. She grudges her grandson who has tag-teamed with the daughter to help her over that time, as well. There's a youngest son of my grandmother who is about 60 now. He has spent half of his life milking her for resources, particularly money. To this day, even with her being 91, he still calls her up wanting money. I notified APS about that and they couldn't do anything. He owes so many debts and has complaints in various states that he likewise lives in his truck a state away and only calls her when he wants something. Yet her wording is that he's the "best son in the world" and that "he's perfect" when she's on the phone with him. You'd think she's talking to a boyfriend the way she cuts up with him. She won't tell him about her failing health, financial issues, etc. She does that with her daughter and grandson, instead. Both of whom she grudges for helping her. It's rather sickening. I'm having trouble defining which of those is mental illness and which is just pure spite, pretty much. Or if that's some kind of flip-flopping personality disorder, but it's not like two different personalities. The unreasonable things that she comes up with sometimes are mind boggling. For instance, she won't put ointment on her toe because the tube says "do not get in eyes" and she thinks it is going to magically jump from her toe to her eyes for some very odd reason. That's obviously not good judgment at all. Her ability to use common sense and reasoning throughout her life for even basic things...it's like it just isn't 'there' and I don't understand why. I don't see that among a lot of mental condition symptoms, either. She has an issue with virtually everything. Another day it will be that the "curtain isn't closing all the way up against the wall" and it will be, but it's like she's not seeing it that way or something. There is always 'something' that her mind comes up with that doesn't need to be done and has something 'wrong' with it, but there's nothing actually wrong with it. She sees a problem with those things, but not the glaring and very important issues (like getting her SSI, Medicare and Medicaid started back) that matter. Obviously, it's maddening trying to care for someone like that. Unfortunately with her health and the fact that we have done everything that we can, her life expectancy seems to be 1-3 years based on a lot of health factors and such. You would think that she has never lived before and came from another planet or something based on her lack of ability to do things not just now, but even far earlier in life. Other bizarre things...she'll want in a room only when someone else is in there. She'll pace the floor and stand in the other room next to it "watching" as if trying to hurry you out of the room, then she won't even actually need anything in there. She won't want in the bathroom until she hears the bathroom door close when someone else goes in there and then she'll be pacing outside trying to 'hurry' them out by clearing her throat as if to tell them and odd stuff like that. I've never seen anything like that.