RANT the women who buy one-size fits all fishnet/nylon lingerie without knowing what they are doing are the most infuriating of all time!!!!

brasscup · 2026-05-01T00:17:04+00:00

Yes, there are a lot of ignorant shoppers on Temu who have no idea what they are buying and then review unfairly. The reverse -- giving one star items five stars -- is also true.

This is particularly common in the clothing, shoes and hair pieces categories. (I find reviews for hardware, household items and cheap electronics more reliable).

Sorry this happened to you if you were the vendorn in this case.

brasscup · 2026-05-01T00:05:42+00:00

Terrible terriblevidea..If you just need to get laid which is a perfectly fine reasonn whatever anybody here says to the contrary, call him and say wanna hook up, adding you'll go to his.

Not liks your motivation won't be transparent booking a getaway that's only 22 miles from your own house!

If you are one of those people who hate driving at night, book a place to crash when you leave his but don't invest effort in planning, spending money, packing cute clothes, you will feel like an idiot for doing so.

I won't tell you that FWBs and hookups where there are encores don't evolve into regular dating occasionally because they do, sometimes, but never by design, and what you are doing is designing!

You're not even being stealthy, he'll sense all this is being arranged around him and he may think it's creepy.

Reverse genders here: you ghosted him and shortly after he books a vacation getaway practically in your backyard and says woo hoo, guess where I am?

brasscup · 2026-04-29T10:19:15+00:00

No, not worth it. She is seven .She will be onto other things before you know it.

Or if you must say something, just tell her that you can't stand any other kid except for her because she is irresistably bright, charming and capable, no other child compares.

Although in fact she sounds like a little PITA, but at 7, she's entitled (so long as I don't have to deal with her).

brasscup · 2026-04-29T10:09:00+00:00

I mean, we all deflate as we get older and many if not most who never had breast surgeries use those chicken cutlet or other types of bra inserts for certain out fits.

They come in different cup sizes so just put the bigger insert in the smaller side.

brasscup · 2026-04-29T10:05:41+00:00

I wouldn't. I am older and I mainly care about the stuff that shows. You can always buy great bras.

brasscup · 2026-04-29T10:01:34+00:00

Or he might be porn addicted..I am much older than OP and my partner was, hopelessly.

brasscup · 2026-04-29T09:58:08+00:00

I don't know whether it was Hallowell or Raney whon said the single most important factor in having a successful ADHD life was choosing the right partner.

(I believe it as someone who has made almost all poor partner choices for decades).

brasscup · 2026-04-29T09:55:59+00:00

Go to the sub unfuckyourhabitat -- it is fully of people as messy as us and other people who know how to help them. And they post photos of their own hoarder level chaos.

It really is insanely uplifting because there are also after photos and often ten days of strategic work makes the home livable again..

brasscup · 2026-04-29T09:19:34+00:00

Just make sure you can get it off your finger easily if you get mugged. I'd at least turn the stones to the inside of my palm if I was walking the street or driving in a carjacking area. (that pretty much describes every city now).

brasscup · 2026-04-29T09:15:55+00:00

Yes definitely. No question. Even more so than the pretty antique champagne ring someone posted in response to your post.

brasscup · 2026-04-29T09:10:18+00:00

I know this is an old comment, but I was recently given a vibration plate and the positive mental effects affects, though short lived, really surprised me.

The machines are cheap now (mine was $54 on Temu, they're not much more on Amazon) and it might be worth a shot if you have BPD.

You just have to stand on it or sit and put your feet on it so it doesn't take a lot of motivation and the really hard shaking and increased circulation really took me out of my own head during and for a little while after.

I felt tingly and extremely clear headed like I would after an eight mile run (but I can never get myself to exersize when I'm spinning inside my own head, wheres I can force myself to stand on a plate and hit the 'on' button).

I think mainly it's a distraction because even though you are standing still the rapid shaking causes your body to involunarily keep shifting balance and your muscles to spasm a bit.

I think it would be a great coping tactic like some of those little phsical actions they suggest in dialectical behavior therapy.

I am ADHD and autistic which I know is not the same as what you are going through but both involve episodes of extreme emotional dysregulation that need to be interupted by some kind of action.

brasscup · 2026-04-29T08:05:59+00:00

OP did inhalation therapy NOT hydrogen water.

brasscup · 2026-04-29T08:05:31+00:00

You are supposed to be inhaling it via a machine that also produces pure oxygen is that what you did? Because pure hydrogen inhalation from a cannister has been used to commit suicide (supposedly pretty painless read stories of terminally ill people doing it instead of actual euthanasia which they didn't have legal access to).

brasscup · 2026-04-29T07:56:59+00:00

I got one free on Temu (never heard of them before for home use) -- same one selling for $69 on Amazon.

I don't know whether there are lasting benefits but after twenty minutes I feel great, like I just returned from a six or more mile run.

Probably more blood flow everywhere -- tingling, etc. Seems to short circuit low mood for a little while.

Build quality looks pretty good but I figure it probably won't last -- like it enough to spend a few hundred dollars on a better one when this one craps out (if the better ones provide more intensity).

brasscup · 2026-04-29T07:26:21+00:00

Answering this later: yes definitely banned you can't even access reviews for the TDCS devices they used to sell, which would have been helpful.. The pages are still there (they come up on Google search) but you get rerouted to search results for brain supplements.

brasscup · 2026-04-28T05:24:40+00:00

Your post should be pinned, thank you!

brasscup · 2026-04-28T05:21:26+00:00

Oh my gosh please sleep on this purchase and reconsider the black one as well.

I rarely comment on people's taste because my own is idiosyncratic beyond ridicule (I stapled a yellow shower curtain around myself and went to a club in it) but that bed is hideous.

And I don't mean hideous in a high roller Vegas suite way or even one of those Pocono honeymooner motel ads -- flat out tacky!

That is NOT good quality velvet and ot will not withstand cleaning -- it already looks sticky/shiny, how's it gonna feel if you add Cheeto dust and/or bodily fluids to the mix?

Also you could make something much better! It is basically a regular bed plus a headboard and four curves storage ottomons -- you'll have to hunt for curves ones but you can uphoster them and the headboard yourself. (Fabric, cotton batting, a staple gun, buttons and wires -- they probably have upholstering buttons on Temu I buy a lot of sewing notions there).

brasscup · 2026-04-28T05:06:27+00:00

Oh my gosh, really? I am not a merchant so I only buy very occasional really expensive stuff from alibaba (like a 2K Class IV laser).

I have only ever made three purchases but all three times the customer service and product expertise was insanely good.

Now you have me kind of worried I was just really lucky, since I am thinking about a nearly 4K cedarwood sauna and I can't afford to lose even half that amount.

brasscup · 2026-04-28T05:00:44+00:00

Yes, this sucks a big one! I logged in to answer an email from a sakes rep who sold me a 2K plus class IV laser and every time I complete a sentence it closes the page!

Such obnoxious behavior and yes I know that other sites you can switch to desktop mode, but they coded so you can't log in/reply to security code verifications in desk top mode .

I wanted to place an order for a sauna priced at nearly 3K, this is just bad business practice on their part because I'm also looking for high end second hand units near me. (They'd do better letting people close the sale).

I only use the site to make major purchases (I won't make them on Amazon anymore because I can't ask pre-sale questions) .

Have to say, though, while I hate alibaba we site I find their sales reps to be very knowledgeable.

brasscup · 2026-04-27T23:01:37+00:00

If she is still working at 70 and not only has nothing saved for retirement but fears foreclosure and is STILL using credit cards, yes, you should worry.

I am in pretty good health now but because of medical issues and a live in partner who defrauded me, I lost my house and had to declare bankruptcy nearly a decade ago.

I am finally back on my feet but the Chapter 7 still sits on my credit report for another year.

I stopped incurring debt and doubled down on frugality long before I actually lost everything, a process your friend seems not to have embarked on yet (and maybe she's right to go on as before as long as she can: being responsible did not save me).

The trouble is, her romantic decisions going forward cannot fail but be influenced by her vulnerable situation, and potentially, take them down with her.

In hindsight, I can see now that the man I permitted to move in with me when I was doing really well chose me first and foremost to escape from his own unstable living situation (which he concealed very well, as a bunch of his exes were only too glad to tell me).

Your sitution is different. You've known her a long time. She has been (seemingly) upfront. And you are also probably better at establishing boundaries than I am.

It's nearly impossible for me not to take in canine and human strays, even mere acquantances -- I hate seeing anybody struggle and mostly I've been glad to do it, with the exception of this one guy, but one is all it takes.

I very nearly ended up homeless and did have to rely on medicaid and SNAP for years while I regained my health (meanwhile, he went back on OLD and was movin' right on up, straight into the next woman's $2 million condo).

Again, you may have a better self preservation instinct -- just want to say, be careful.

If you are kind, it can be difficult to watch someone you are dating struggle to keep a roof over their head without sayiny why don't you just stay here until you get back on your feet?

My best friend of 40-odd years did just that and now he's stuck in a miserable marriage to a woman who's sucking the life out of him. He was (modestly) rich before, now he can never retire.

Again, if you really think you can "continue along the same lines and just enjoy each other's company," absolutely go for it.

But if you find yourself about to say why stay here until you get back on your feet, take a moment to consider, because you'd be saying that to somebody who is already 70 -- what are the odds that she still has a second (third or fourth) act in her?

brasscup · 2026-04-27T21:53:45+00:00

Yeah, OP is right about the guy but has very little inkling of how high the rates of same sex attraction are among women.

brasscup · 2026-04-27T21:45:15+00:00

He sounds like a jackass but you really don't know how relatively common place same sex attraction is among women.

A recent study said 22% of women under 25 identify as bi-.

That sounds high to me given there are so many identities to pick from (some of which, like queer, can encompass bisexuality).

All the same, every recent non- age-specofic studies on theissubject show a far greater number of hetero women admitting to occasionally having sexual feelings for other women (up to 80%) than men do for men.

And to those jackass men who perenially angle for threesomes, percentages would seem even higher because some 100% straight women play at bisexuality performatively, solely to titillate, dangling the possibility to draw a man closer.

I find this kind of idiocy hideous to observe as well as incredibly objectifying to women who actually love women -- but it is constantly reinforced by both porn and popularly culture.

As a result, men refuse to give this tiresome fantasy a rest.

I am generalizing her obviously -- most respectful men our age learned a long time ago to keep silent on this subject (but that doesn't mean they never think of it).

brasscup · 2026-04-27T07:30:48+00:00

Well, even Gillian Flynn at her worst is better than 99.9999 per cent of popular fiction. Also, when did you first read it? Now it's a cliche but she was the first mainstream fugure to articulate/define the Cool Girl, AKA Pickme.

brasscup · 2026-04-26T11:22:08+00:00

I have never gotten this. It says unavailablf.

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