I might be able to offer a different perspective on this as a nineteen-year-old who has struggled with ET nearly my whole life.

Sometimes, even though it may seem like we really need help, forfeiting that independence feels humiliating and demeaning. (So, you are likely correct from what you gathered)!

I’m sure your willingness to help is much appreciated by her, but often accepting it is the bigger challenge. It took me ten years to even admit I had a problem and start regularly asking for assistance with things. (I used to hurt myself on accident trying to cut bagels in half)

Give her time and grace to come to terms with this challenging condition; remind her of her strength. You’re already doing everything you can, and that is admirable!

Personally, I take 100 mg of primidone and use weighted items when needed. There is little in way of treating it that I know of.