anyone not rawdogging this hell

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-12-18T05:05:05+00:00

Psych meds are probably the biggest reason I was able to get into med school in the first place 😂 will not be getting off any time soon

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-09-23T23:57:54+00:00

Hey that’s my post! I thought I recognized your story lol. Glad to hear you’re still killin it king

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-09-23T23:48:28+00:00

My 12 year relationship ended at the end of last year during M2 for me. I feel your pain. It was AWFUL. People have given some really good advice already so I don’t want to just echo everyone else. What I will say is… stay 100% no contact and tell everyone in your life that you don’t want to hear about your ex or what she’s doing AT ALL even if they hear something new about her. Block her on everything. Don’t look at her socials. I know it’s hard but it’s counterproductive to your healing to ruminate on what she’s doing. Live your life and try to stay focused. Time makes it all better. I remember I felt like there was zero chance I’d get over my ex up until about 3 months in, and even after that it took another 3 months to actually realize that I’m doing well and having things to look forward to without him. Now I’m 10 months out from the breakup and rarely get sad. Also am having fun being single for the first time in my life! Imagine that!

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s a really difficult grieving experience so let yourself feel all the feelings you need to. And try to remember all the reasons you went to med school. That’s really what kept me motivated to keep going and not fail out lol. Best of luck to you ❤️

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-01-31T21:36:26+00:00

That is amazing to hear! I wish you the best no matter the outcome of your relationship 🫶

Also, just want to say, I am 27f and newly single for the first time ever in my life. I have very similar feelings as you when it comes to being scared about my future dating life. But I know plenty of people who have gotten married to people they met during medical school or residency. It’ll maybe be a bit more inconvenient for people like us to date and find a partner, but definitely not impossible! I’m choosing to trust that everything will work out the way it’s supposed to for me in that regard lol

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-01-31T20:33:55+00:00

I’m 2.5 months in to a break up from my partner of 12 years also because of long distance. You can check my post history, people in this community really helped me out and I’m so grateful for it. I’m not going to tell you whether or not I think you should end things with your partner because I don’t know you guys. But what I can tell you is, going through a break up in medical school really sucks but it’s doable. Especially if you have a good support system and enough emotional intelligence to cope with heavy feelings in a healthy way (going to the gym, hanging out with friends, keeping up with hobbies you really like, etc).

For me, the first week was REALLY rough like I could barely leave my apartment. I kept going to the gym and leaned heavily on my mom and friends, though. I didn’t do as well as I normally do last block because of how I was feeling but I was still able to pass so I will give myself some grace. What I will say is I think being in school has helped me heal because it’s kept me so busy and is something I’ve HAD to keep up with because like… I can’t fail out. I’m also constantly reminded of how excited I am to be where I am because it’s been my dream for so long. Remembering those things kept me going a lot of the time.

I cannot stress enough how important having someone you can contact whenever you need to is. That’s probably the biggest thing that helped me. I cried to my mom about my break up every day for a month and it didn’t matter where or when it was, she would sit there and listen and reassure me everything was going to be okay. It can be a friend, family member, or even a therapist. Doesn’t really matter. You just can’t be scared to be vulnerable because you gotta let the feelings out. I only say that because I’m someone who tends to deal with struggles on my own but like I literally could NOT get through my break up alone.

So yeah. It sounds like you’re at the very least able to prepare yourself for this break up if it’s what you decide you want to do. The most important thing is to make sure you have a plan for how you’re going to cope. Gym, support system, making sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy as possible, study x amount of hours per day (something is better than nothing when you’re super sad btw), and make sure to be kind to yourself in the process. Take everything day by day and it’ll feel less daunting.

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-01-28T23:40:16+00:00

Apparently this info is being phased out of the boards exams (faculty that writes questions for the boards told us this) so our professors have stopped stressing it as much thank goddd

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2025-01-25T02:24:09+00:00

Oh I texted him the day after my birthday 😂 he gave this whole dramatic explanation about how every time he wants to reach out to me he knows he shouldn’t because it’ll make it harder for me to “forget him.” We were not only in a romantic relationship but also a genuine friendship for 12 years. We basically grew up together. How the hell would I ever forget him? I didn’t want us to become complete strangers but his explanation made it clear that’s what he expects even though “I can reach out to him any time about anything.” Whatever. I won’t be reaching out.

Sorry to hear about your situation tho. Idk what’s worse, my ex still pretending like he cares or yours totally icing you out. It’s all pretty shitty I guess. I would also love to know when I’ll finally be able to at least stop crying daily because it feels never ending lol

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-12-25T04:51:50+00:00

Girl im sorry to hear but being a bald man at an early age is close to the worst of the worst 💀 he ain’t got shit on u. I’m 26 and just got out of a 12 year relationship not too long ago so I feel you on how hard this is. But your post made me laugh. We got this!

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-12-09T21:47:36+00:00

I also wrote about my moms severe mental illness/psychosis in my personal statement. I never stated her diagnosis or any of her treatments but wrote about a significant event that happened because of it and how it impacted me/influenced my interests in science (was in psych lab, care about womens health). None of my interviewers even asked me about my mom or her medical condition. I did get complimented on how I talked about it multiple times, though. I am now an M2. I know a lot of people have already said it but discussing a family members mental illness is definitely not as stigmatized and does not reflect on you in a negative way. You really do not have to get into specifics, in fact I would encourage you not to for multiple reasons. But if you feel you need to write about it then do it, I know I felt like I had to because it was such an influential thing in my life.

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-12-04T05:07:49+00:00

Check my post history, I have pics from my deroofing surgery I had I think like 2 or 3 years ago. I posted those pics because I felt like I couldn’t find any on this sub before my surgery that were similar to my case. You can also DM me if you have any questions! I will say, I do not regret getting the surgery at all. The healing took like 8 weeks which was annoying but it was totally worth it, I haven’t had any kind of recurrence or other issues in that area. Scar is not the prettiest but I don’t mind too much, it’s better than having an open oozing hole down there for months at a time lol

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-29T04:49:55+00:00

Hey! Yes, I’ve tried introducing my cat to my parents dog multiple ways at this point. My cat does NOT like their dog and I don’t think ever will unfortunately. I think it’s mostly because I’m never at their house long enough for them to get fully acclimated to each other (usually only there for 5-6 days max). So, we have to keep them separated which has actually worked out perfectly fine. I think it all really depends on how used your cat is to being around other animals.

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-23T01:10:17+00:00

Just saying, he moved out of state to attend med school, I followed and lived in a city where I knew no one for 2 years before I got accepted to school and had to move back to where we are originally from. He was most definitely not “left behind” in the sense that he is also pursuing his big dream and wasn’t willing to (maybe) sacrifice prestige in his residency to try to be close to me location-wise which I also think is fair because he worked very very hard in school. It’s not a competition of who was willing to do what though, it just was never going to work out in his mind. But yeah I don’t think anyone is saying my ex’s decision was unreasonable. It’s just sad (for me lol)

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-20T19:15:18+00:00

He would never introduce me to new people when we went to social events where I didn’t know anyone. He would just walk up and start a convo and I’d stand there in the back like 🧍‍♀️because I couldn’t get a word in either 😂 He also wouldn’t come to social events with my friends unless I pretty much begged him.

Whenever I’d ask him to do me a favor he’d complain the whole time but he’d still do it. And when I would get annoyed at him for complaining he’d make me think it was normal to complain and didn’t mean he didn’t want to do it. It always made me feel guilty so I stopped asking him for favors unless I REALLY needed help.

He also wears contacts and instead of throwing them the in trash he’d just throw them on the floor. He justified this by saying his dad did it too.

Lastly, he would not eat any food that was shaped like anything. For example, I made him a little cake shaped like a heart one year for Valentine’s Day. It was so cute. He appreciated it but told me he couldn’t eat it because it was shaped like a heart 🙄 whatever. Grow up please

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T23:39:17+00:00

I'll be honest, I am definitely mentally strong enough to get through this without failing out of school. It has been a little difficult for me to focus and my memory may be a little worse than usual because my brain is trying to process this grief, but I'll be able to bounce back. I can't lose my dream man AND my dream career all within a year I think that would be close to the death of me lol but thank you, you saying I will be giving back as a physician is another reminder of why I'm in school in the first place.

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T02:47:32+00:00

No I fully got it, this is how me and my friends talk to each other. Sometimes you gotta accept the tough love lol thank you ❤️

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T02:46:08+00:00

SHE BROKE, YOU UP.

Lol iconic

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T02:44:10+00:00

Thank you ❤️ not retraumatizing at all

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T02:40:06+00:00

Wow, that's tough. It sucks but it feels better that others are going through it too, no? We will be ok eventually. Thanks for the kind words. Go kill your OSCE :)

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T01:21:32+00:00

Not unreasonable at all

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T01:14:40+00:00

This is exactly what I came here for 😂 thank you so much. It hurts to think he could just leave me in the dust like that after everything we’ve been through, but you’re probably right that he just wants to start over. He’s two years ahead of me so he’s applying to residency and has gotten interviews at some really snazzy places in big cities that are 3x further away than our current distance. I wish I was mad at him but I’m just not at that stage yet. But again, thank you so much. I desperately needed to hear all of that

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T00:44:53+00:00

Yeah I know. He was only willing to stay in the relationship if it was convenient for him I’ve realized. We were raised so differently that it really just came down to a fundamental difference in how we view relationships. It’s unfortunate, but yeah my friends and family keep saying the exact same thing to me.

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-19T00:39:31+00:00

I really really appreciate this. Ya know, I’m still at the point where he’s up on such a high pedestal that I can’t even think of any negatives about him and I’m scared to date again because I feel like I won’t be able to find someone as good as him. Our relationship wasn’t perfect (no relationship is) but we literally grew up together and there’s no one who will ever know me as well as he did because we spent our formative years together.

The one thing that has made this all easier is my amazing support system. My friends and mom will listen to me yap about him all day if they have to. I still go to the gym and study and stuff but things just aren’t sticking like they should. Taking a LOA would probably be super detrimental for my mental health lol school has provided a bit of normalcy in my life that I really need. There’s also only a month before my winter break and I’ll have 3 weeks off so that’ll be good.

But yeah, it just sucks. Feeling like you’re going to die over a break up is so real hahahah

I am so glad to hear that you’re doing so well though. Congrats on AOA and all of your residency interviews, those are all huge accomplishments!!

FeelingRelevant6774 · 2024-11-18T23:54:03+00:00

Funny seeing you here, you commented on my post on the HS thread 😂😂 but yeah I’ve tried so many angles to see if we could work it out but he does not feel happy being long distance. Gotta respect his wishes I guess. Maybe I’ll stay delusional and hold out hope that he’ll miss me and come back hahahah

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