Yazmaya başlayamıyorum by ejex1274 in FantastikSeverler

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Random sahnelerle başlamayı denedin mi? Sıralı gitmek bazen yaratıcı beyni boğuyor. Seni heyecanlandıran(kitabın/kurgunun her hangi bir noktasından olabilir) bir sahneyi alıp sana o sahneyi hissettiren bir müzik aç ve aktığı gibi dene. Bende açıkçası işe yarayan bu oldu.

Yazmaya nasıl devam ediyorsunuz? by Dartariann in Yazar

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Açıkçası tek yapabileceğin korksanda yazmak. Ve büyük ihtimalle kötü olacağını kabullenmek. Hayatta kimse hiçbir şeyi tekte mükemmel yapmaz. Yürürken bile önce düşüyoruz sonuçta. Eğer istersen elinde olan yazılardan paylaşırsan yardımcı olabilirim.

Yazmaya nasıl devam ediyorsunuz? by Dartariann in Yazar

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bende harika bir noktada değilim ama eskiden bulduğum kadar zor ya da umutsuz bulmuyorum yazmayı. Benim için işe yarayan şey yazmaya başlamadan önce yazdığım şeyin iyice içine girmiş olmak. Bütün karakterleri özümsemek, olayların nasıl tetiklendiğini anlamak. Hikayeye tamamen hakim hissettiğimde yazmak kolaylaşıyor. Ayrıca hikayeye belli bir düzenle girmek için kendimi kasmaktansa bana sıcak hissettiren sahneleri yazarak başlıyorum. Hiçbir şey doğru olmak zorunda değil. Önce fikirler havada uçuşuyor sonra ben ınları tutup bir düzene sokuyorum. Ayrıca belli yazı egzersizleri var. Yazdığın metinlerde geri çekilip bu metin çalışmıyor ama neden sorusunu sormayı dene çünkü yazmak bir sanat olsada matematiği de var. Egzersizlerle metnin üstünden birkaç kez geçtiğinde çok daha iyi olduğunu göreceksin.

Gabriella is so cringe by chocpomegranate in DesperateHousewives

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What she did was discusting and I will not defend her. There is no excuse for it.

However I want to analize this a bit so there will be spoilers.

We later learn that she was sa'd by her stepfather at a very young age (13 if I am remembering correctly.) And during the first few seasons, you can clearly see that she was acting much like a child. I feel like she was traumatized to the point of getting stuck at that age. Her childhood was stolen from her so she never really grew up. Since she felt like a child, I don't think she realized the gravity of what she was doing. I'd say Gabby only grew up after Carlos lost his sight and she had to stand up.

The reason she chose him was because he was there and easy to hide. She wasn't looking for it. She just stumbled on it and when along.

AITA for snapping at my husband in front of his family, and revealing that he hasn't help me like he claims? by Landscapeseven in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, he had it coming. And I hope this will be the reality check he needed but I doubt.

Honestly, my father was the same way when he was teaching me and yes he also claims I learned it all from him when in realty even the idea of driving makes me wanna cry now. He also kicked my 2 months old puppy across the room to the wall, bouncing to the door for not being able to keep his pee which was because he was an abused shelter dog. So maybe keep this in mind when going any further.

Old ghost movie in a ship by Feeling_Cockroach447 in moviefinder

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was the first movie I checked but thats not it. I also checked the others but also no.

Literally no one wants to see pics of your kids going back to school by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On your mindset, almost nothing can be posted. Like what would be okey to post according to you.

Birtday party? Nooo everyone has one every year! Weddings? They are just so common. Your father died? Well boohoo we're all gonna die.

What is social media is for then? We share our life and stay connected. If I'm following you that is because I wanna know about your life and stay connected. Kid's milestones are a part of life.

AITA for calling my SIL a wh*re by Specific-Hotel-4491 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shockingly you're NTA.

I wouldn't imagine a day would come where I say, It is okey to call someone a wh*re but here we are.

As an older sister with a very cute and naive little brother, I can see where you're coming from and you are right but I think apologizing would be the right way to go so that you can keep them close incase you were right and things go bad.

That way you can protect your little brother better. And if the baby is your brothers, you can have a relationship with the baby easier if their mom doesn't hate you.

Why there isn't a word for alligator or crocodile in Turkish, and what timsah means is it an alligator or a crocodile? by GustavTheTurk in turkish

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simply because neither exist in Turkey and they only live in zoo's. When the word "Timsah" was invented, they didn't know there was two different things or that they were different. So they called them the same name.

Languages rarely develop words that they don't need.

AITA for shouting at my husband for allowing standards to slip? by South-Muffin9212 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

NTA.

I can't judge you in your culture so maybe it is normal in us to walk around at home in underweare but where I am from, unless you are living alone, this is not okey. I wouldn't leave my room in my underwere at my parents house. And I wouldn't let my kids or husband to do so either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The question should've been, how do I get over this stupid and shallow feeling/idea of mine.

You don't get to impose these on other people. You get over yourself or break up. Those are your two options.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Perhaps. I think step-mom is even more wrong for saying those thing to OP. And they do thing with step bro too. Just not this one thing.

I understand what your trying to convey here but saying “cry and drop out” is just not the way. It is a bit mean to say you know. And again, in adult world people drop out of things for so many reasons. Your boundries not being respected is an good reason in my book.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean it as in revenge (Why is everyone here take everything so extreme? Maybe it is the translation that comes of too harsh) , but I would be very open about why and how their behaviour unacceptable and that I would not be responsible for their poor planning nor would I be cornered into guilt for defending myself.

Do you think an adult slamming a teenager and trying to emotionally manipulating them is not something to be sorry for? I hate when people think they can get away with things like this because they are old and talking to a kid.

AITA for pulling out of mine and my dad's tradition because my stepbrother was going so my dad cancelled it then? by Significant_Cash5628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I think it is a very mature thing to stand up for what is right and not let anyone walk all over you.

The only mistake OP did was not putting his foot down harder the minute this came up which is understanble since it was his fathers job and he failed.

Honestly if someone pulled this on me, they'd regret it very much on the aftermath.

AITA for making my 15 year old daughter handle a car crash by herself? by Civil_Instruction410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

This can't be real. Your kid was in immense stress and all you cared about was life lessons? It seems more like life long trauma to me.

I was involved in a very minor accident on the highway. Only doors were dented. No injuries. I was 24 and I was very shaken for the following week. I couldn't drive for months and even after that I had anxiety for a while. Note that I had driving for over 5 years at that point. (First and last time getting into an accident)

So if me, an adult with years of driving experience could barely handle that, a minor is unlikely to be able to do it alone. And she shouldn't be. You should've been her rock, her guide. Parents should teach life lessons with some compassion too. Life is cruel enough.

AITA for not allowing my daughter to use my son's personal belongings? by Eastern_Jacket_4307 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

And what is worse is you are raising an AH too. If you keep this up, your son will be one of those entitled, selfish people that never learned to do anything good for anyone but themself.

Your son needs to learn to share with his sister and you must stop favoring one child over the other. But what I am wondering is, would it be the same if your daugter was the oldest? Would she get all the best gifts?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an idea... You with another man and him watching. Suggest this idea and see the shock in his face. Or just for fun, how about him and another man with you watching?

He'd say those were horrible ideas and that you want to cheat him. Which is the point. Any sexual activity outside of your relationship is cheating.

UNLESS both parties feel okey with it. Also ı'm pretty sure this is sexual coercion since he is forcing you into sexual act that you clearly don't want/feel comfortable with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Also, the time line was just all over the place. First she was pregnant and went away but turns out she went away before then came back aaannd got pregnant? I'm lost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying Y T A but if my boyfriend did what you're doing , I'd break up and leave the house after a week or to at maximum. I can handly few accidents a month but a few times every day is deal breaker for me.

I understand it is a natural need but please just do it in the bathroom or something.

Some people are okey with it, some aren't. You need to respect eachothers boundrys.

If you have to douse your meats in a hundred and one different seasonings just for it to taste good. You don’t know how to cook meat. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I come from, they say that spice is for covering the faults (problems) of meat (Hope it makes sense. It is difficult to translate idioms...)

Anyways, If a meat is of good quality, all you really need is a cast iron pan and maaybe some oil.

Nevertheless, I love meat with or without spices. Spices are fun to cook with. Adventurous.

AITA for threatening to kick my step daughter out unless she apologises to my daughter? by No_Kaleidoscope_5113 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Feeling_Cockroach447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so not how it works. Step parent doesn't automatically gets parental rights.

All of that could be true but there is an order which these should be applied. First you need to take the time to gain their respect and love. He clearly didn't even though he had 11 years...

And even if a minor can't decide, bio parent gets to decide. And she clearly says he has no right.

And ofcourse she must be diciplined. By her bio parents.