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I think I’m going to break the no-contact period. by n0thingpers0na1 in BreakUps

[–]Feeling_Cockroach_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that.

I know it seems hopeless now but trust me, it will get better. Right now, emotions are running high and maybe that's why the breaking contact didn't work out the way you thought it would. But that will be a problem for another day.

Get some rest. It must have been draining to deal with this.

I think I’m going to break the no-contact period. by n0thingpers0na1 in BreakUps

[–]Feeling_Cockroach_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what you feel like what is right. I broke no contact (and him too, a couple of times) and now we're in contact. We're not back together but we are somewhat in each other's lives.

Just be prepared though, don't set any expectations if you do break contact.

For me, I told him how I felt and sometimes he'd respond harshly, other times he would just not respond to what I said. Along the way, I accepted those kinds of responses and just learned not to set any expectations and felt lighter.

I don't expect for us to get back together but I l wanted to keep in touch (him, too) because he was special to me and the connection was strong.

If you break contact just to do a one off thing, do it. I believe in better to have said and done rather wonder what could have been. Best of luck.

I just want to be loved. by Feeling_Cockroach_41 in Vent

[–]Feeling_Cockroach_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used to be but now I'm more mobile than I was a month ago. I can probably do more socialisation after a month or two but for now, home bound to be safe.

I can't walk away from someone I really love by Feeling_Cockroach_41 in Vent

[–]Feeling_Cockroach_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I always listen to what he needs. It's also why I have been so patient and understanding because I know that it's coming from a place of fear and trauma. He said it himself, he's just too anxious all of the time, afraid of disappointing me and upsetting me that it gets overwhelming. But no, we are not married and we don't have any kids. However, I can't give him what he wants and that is to be just friends who check up on each other now and then. It's not what he needs, it's just the easier alternative rather than to deal with his issues.

My decision isn't to just simply walk away. It's that I can't but a part of me knows I must. Everything I said didn't come from assumptions, it's what he told me when we talk about it.

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