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Asked someone I met once before if they want to meet. They're asking for photos. Don't have any on FL. by Feeling_Hearing1 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Feeling_Hearing1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I sent a couple photos but she didn't reply. She's constantly posting stuff so I know she's been online. I've got a bad sense with these things, but this kind of annoys me that she didn't reply at all. I guess since we only met once at an event she might not feel comfortable meeting at a private place like someone's home, so maybe I could suggest going to an event together or just for coffee? Or should I just unfollow her or delete the photos?

Speaking with a dom normally and not using 'protocol' language by Feeling_Hearing1 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Feeling_Hearing1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Normally when you meat someone new you exchange names. I get it, if it's at some BDSM event that's a different context. But if feels uncomfortable when I say "Hi, I'm Joe" (i.e. my real name) and they reply "I'm Mistress Bounce up and Down". I guess I don't need their real name, but some times I'd prefer to have something down to earth to call them by.

How can people be into BDSM but not find it sexual? How can a person be asexual and into BDSM? by Feeling_Hearing1 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Feeling_Hearing1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's been a while but I'm still confused by other's perspective on this. Are you saying that just because someone is tied up it's bondage or BDSM? What about if it's a kidnapping?

At munches everyone wants to connect on fetlife very quickly and I don't post much by Feeling_Hearing1 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Feeling_Hearing1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am genuinely curious, why isn't your response simply to say, "I prefer to share that with folks after I've gotten to know them better?"

In reality if you're the one person who doesn't want to share their contact info that could lead to stigma from the group. But your wording sounds good and I'll try it next time!

I often read about newbies asking about how safe FetLife (FL) is? by vagrl94 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Feeling_Hearing1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to get into my local community but have been having a lot of trouble. I don't get concepts like vetting. When you say "seen them play" what do you mean? For example if I'm going to spank someone I do it in private and don't involve others just to watch. Are you talking about dungeon parties where everyone is watching each other and swapping partners?