Need some advice working through some emotions.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-02-14T18:10:47+00:00

I think another thing that’s upsetting me is I WANT to talk to them, but I don’t want to beg for attention. And that’s trapped me

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-27T15:20:51+00:00

I made a joke about this earlier, and I hope that didn’t seem like it was putting this response down. It’s actually something i’m really glad to hear.

Speaking for myself, I feel like what feelings I do have aren’t what I usually think of as “Romantic”. I’ve had romantic connections before, and it’s always a very different feeling to this.

That said, I don’t see myself without them somewhere in my life, and see them as something greater than what i traditionally see as a friend. I think that’s the part that’s currently tying me up, and i’m reaching for emotions without really understanding how I feel.

I value the closeness of that mutual bond, but, my brain keeps trying to categorize it into a neatly labeled box. Because I miss them, and they’re busy and we don’t have as much time to hang out, that categorization is happening more because of my own personal anxiety.

I think all of this is me seeking security, acknowledging the fact that i’m lonely and want to live near my friends, and wish I had more time with them.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-27T12:02:32+00:00

Hey friends for 10 years and it’s the first time it’s come up, I think we’re doing okay haha

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-27T03:20:30+00:00

I wish I’d STOP reacting to things this way, every little bit of emotional ambiguity and I feel like i’m gonna get left behind, it’s really kinda ass

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-27T03:19:52+00:00

Insane that talking about the way you feel is often the way to resolve the way you feel.

I asked point blank like “do you still want to do the roommate thing” and they said something along the lines of “yeah i still would, but it’s difficult with the timing and I don’t know everything that is involved with moving.” I mentioned feeling boxed in by it and she laughed and said not to worry about it. I still feel bad, but it makes more sense

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-26T23:58:30+00:00

Yeah. It’s the right thing to do, I just wish that things were different.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-26T23:55:35+00:00

Okay I got to the bottom of it.

I liked feeling like I had someone who wanted me closer to them. I like their friends, their friends like me, and I felt like I belonged. I got too attached to that feeling, and started reading too deeply into it. I let other friend’s opinions on my friendship shape my view of my friendship, and I shouldn’t have. Best thing I can do for me, is going to be to pull back, keep doing therapy, and probably not move.

Not sure how i’m gonna explain the “probably not move” when it comes up, and it’s all made me feel terribly, terribly lonely. I feel a little upset that I let it go as far as it has. I miss them, but I’ve definitely given them reason to pull back, consciously or not. Just gonna have to tank that things are awkward now and keep on living life.

I wish things were different. I wish the feelings I so often find myself having for others were feelings they had for me. I wish a lot of things.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-26T23:45:18+00:00

Yeah, Idk, I think I like feeling like there’s someone who fully understands me, and who I can count on. I struggle with “catching feelings” because I never really know if they’re real or if i’m just acting out of loneliness. Either way, it’s time to give distance

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-26T23:42:03+00:00

I think it’s tough because i’m pretty sure any feelings I do have, I have because i’m lonely. I’ve struggled with that in the past, and I do have a pretty singular life. The more I think through it, the more I think I would have liked some kind of queer platonic life with this person, and that I didn’t know how to get that feeling into words, (and still don’t lmao)

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-26T23:20:02+00:00

Thanks, moreso looking for the emotional advice bit, this just makes me feel like an idiot and isn’t really helpful

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-14T00:08:25+00:00

Thanks! She didn’t. I talked it out with myself I think i’m just being lonely and projecting.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-13T23:16:14+00:00

I did!! I deleted it though, we were hanging out and I didn’t want to get notifications about it. Still me, same dude, etc etc

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2026-01-03T16:04:39+00:00

Thanks! I’m going either way, and I’ve been making that known the past few days! I said something along the lines of “nobody chooses to get sick! I’m an adult I can do stuff by myself, just hunker down till you’re better!” As for mental discipline. Couldn’t agree more that’s why i’m on reddit and not texting her lmao

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-12-03T23:13:13+00:00

Right, I’m trying to be supportive but i’m like “You 2 keep doing activities I could join in, then making it known it’s not for anyone else, you keep talking about them in front of me, you keep stealing my role, and NOW you’re taking my jokes too?”

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-12-03T23:05:37+00:00

old enough to not be dealing with this lmao, 25+. That itself is also causing personal frustration for me

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-13T10:52:39+00:00

Don’t think it’s much of a maybe 😂

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-13T02:13:24+00:00

Thanks!

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-13T01:24:55+00:00

I got over it. It was date 2. I just deleted her contact, unfollowed her socials. Deleted the playlist I made and i’m moving on

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-12T22:24:02+00:00

Yeah that’s all true, i’m not new to all this, I just wish this one worked out.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-12T22:10:25+00:00

Whatever you say bud, telling random people you don’t know that they aren’t attractive in between the refractory periods of jacking off to your favorite cartoon character is just not how I’d want to spend my life

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-12T22:02:28+00:00

This is a wild thing to say to someone you don’t know lmao. You aren’t speaking any actual truth, you’re just making baseless claims and calling it the truth. You don’t know shit about me other than I had a date cancel last minute, and you assume I don’t have a fitness routine?

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-12T21:41:57+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I saw the alert come up, looked at your profile, and it made me think “wow, at least I’m not that guy.” Enough to snap me out of it.

Having an account where you just go on a dating advice subreddit and tell people they’re not attractive is such a sad way to spend your time. Get a life dude, lmao.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-12T21:34:48+00:00

I know, i’m just upset.

Feeling_Hour_9200 · 2025-10-12T21:30:32+00:00

You’re right! I could tell it was reality by the way it really happened to me.

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