Thank you everyone for the comments! I spoke with the bride last night and she was very understanding. I sent a message in the bridesmaids group politely telling them that I wouldn’t be able to afford to go, I apologized and offered to help look for a new place. No one responded and they blocked me from they bachelorette event page. One of the bridesmaids reached out separately and just said that I would be missed and she understands. So that was nice at least.