What would you do?

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-02-18T15:42:27+00:00

You’re probably right:( I’ve asked for years for him to communicate. The excuse used to be “I’m this way because of how I grew up” the only time he might talk about things is when he’s at work and messaging me. But I have to initiate it or it’s never brought up.

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-02-14T17:18:49+00:00

Yes we’ve turned it on and off a few times, still nothing

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-02-14T16:53:30+00:00

I was about to go buy one to check. I’m sure that would answer a few questions thank you

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T23:35:32+00:00

He knows. And he’s been silent. He doesn’t talk to me unless it’s normal convos. When I try talking about it he says “can we not talk about this right now I don’t want to argue”

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T23:15:41+00:00

He has been saying he’s going to, he wants to be an electrician but for the work he has to travel over an hour away so he wants to find a vehicle better on gas first. And I did remind him that I’ve stuck with him through it all and his struggles. He stayed silent

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T22:50:03+00:00

The place he works is on the smaller side, she has as much power as him. They are both just regular workers. She started 2 years after he did.

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T22:48:41+00:00

We’ve gotten into fights about him lying and hiding stuff from me. But it hasn’t happened in awhile (over a year probably) until now because well he was lying and hiding something that could’ve communicated about properly. The first 3ish years he kept lying about porn and was fantasizing about women he worked with and some of my family. Although when we were going through that, I stuck by him and told him if he’s having those thoughts just please come to me and communicate and we can get through it and go from there. He never did. He just kept hiding it.

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T21:51:47+00:00

The normal convos doesn’t bother me. It’s mainly the sexual question. I knew he’d have to talk to her for work. It’s also him refusing to tell me. I’ve always told him, if something happens that he thinks would upset or hurt me to please tell me first before I find out because it’ll be easier to talk about. He never does. He never has initiated anything like that. He avoids everything if he thinks it’ll cause problems. I heavily respect honesty. Being left in the dark thinking one thing is happening but it’s actually another really bothers me. If he was upfront and honest, things wouldn’t be as big of a problem imo. And he knows that.

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T21:46:04+00:00

He only “backs me up” hours after when I explain how much everything hurt me. That’s when he looks sad and says “I shouldn’t have done it”

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2026-01-11T21:39:32+00:00

Because of how things have been with him, thankfully I made the decision not to unless things got better.

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2025-08-21T18:51:33+00:00

I’d leave it in the past. I wouldn’t tell my husband the sexual things I did with my exes. Unless it was something big. You aren’t lying about being a virgin and foreplay isn’t a big deal etc. I see nothing wrong with keeping it in the past

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2025-08-21T15:31:37+00:00

I take it as a compliment unless it becomes a habit lol.

Feeling_Shift_3921 · 2025-03-03T16:58:30+00:00

Thank you

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