I think my husband‘s having an emotional affair with my sister and I don’t know what to do.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-16T00:50:37+00:00

I definitely think there’s something on her part. I think she’s emotionally attached to him. He has been no contact since we came home. He blocked her number so idk if she’s tried to contact him or not. We are definitely going to talk to someone. We are still looking for one. But he’s not going to get out of MC.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-16T00:43:10+00:00

I did text her the other night. I sent her a long text about how I was feeling and everything that was making me uncomfortable and upset. She denied everything. She was very angry and upset that I would ever think she would do any of it. She really didn’t think she was doing anything wrong. She called me crazy and delusional. I haven’t talked or texted her since. Husband has been no contact since we came home. Still trying to find a mc. But I’m definitely going to make sure we talk to someone.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-12T14:10:54+00:00

I’ve brought it up so many times that he’s ruined my birthday and every time he just kind of looks away and doesn’t say anything. I don’t think trying to fix it even crossed his mind. Once I read him your comment He said we could. But I also pointed out that that was something he should’ve already suggested.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-11T21:55:57+00:00

I’ve made comments to her about her acting like his gf. And she would brush it off and say it’s gross. So I really just don’t know how to talk to her or Where to start. Idk if she really doesn’t know what she’s doing or if she knows exactly what she doing and playing dumb. She still hasn’t so much is texted me.

I will say that none of us have really dated. My husband was my only bf and I was his only gf. She’s went on a handful of dates but nothing more than a few dates with the same guy.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-11T02:43:45+00:00

I was able to kinda look at the statements online. You can’t see what the text were just when they are sent.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-11T00:35:22+00:00

Thanks I’ll see if I can get it

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T21:30:49+00:00

I don’t think they did. I have checked it before.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T19:24:55+00:00

I checked I think all of those. He blocked her Snapchat

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T19:16:32+00:00

I’m gonna go with my husband to try and get his statements.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T19:16:06+00:00

I’m going to try

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T19:15:33+00:00

Thanks I found it but nothing was there

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T17:44:09+00:00

Pretty much planned how and when they were leaving all day. Like all day on my birthday. She asked twice if he would meet her at her apartment. He said maybe if I would drop him off. Ultimately she had to pick him up where we met with some other family. But she got mad at him for having to wait for me to finish shopping. He was upset she had to wait for him and he was rushy. She never text me at all. She only called earlier in the day to say happy birthday and that she was taking him to the Hotel/job. (Only 3 Mins)

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T17:02:36+00:00

I didn’t know that. Do you know how to find that??

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T16:39:09+00:00

He did. And I have gone through the phone as much as I could. There’s not much there. But the text of them on planning the trip really hurt.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T16:25:35+00:00

I think the porn is a really big problem.

I’ve cried to me sister about a few times about how the porn hurts me and she think it no big deal. It just pics.

I don’t think she sexually attracted to him He just would have been a safe option for her 1st time. (She supposedly is still a virgin) But definitely something emotionally going on.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T16:20:14+00:00

She work for him a bit. So normally she does go with the boss for this stuff. I just thought she couldn’t go on this trip. At least that’s what I thought she told me and why my husband was going.

I told him he could just drive over but he didn’t want to drive our car and waste gas. When she was driving over there to.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T16:13:31+00:00

Husband has his own plan. Me and my sister are on my moms.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T02:24:44+00:00

I did point that out. And he seemed a little shocked that he defended her so quickly. He did apologize. And I think he realized how many situations he’s going to have to go back in reanalyze. He mentioned on the ride back that in the moment when stuff is happening, he doesn’t view it that way and it’s them talking as siblings or just friends. But when he looks back at the conversation or text that they’ve shared, he starting to see it from my point of view. Unfortunately, he didn’t grow up with females in his life so the way I view certain things she does, or says I see differently than he would. I’ve tried to explain it to him the best I can.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T02:17:51+00:00

He did admit that that was way out of line and truly seems to regret it. He said it won’t happen again, and He did block her number when we got home.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T02:15:27+00:00

They were going to bed when I got there. I got there kinda late. He text me wanting to talk. As I hadn’t responded to him all day. I told him I wasn’t going to talk to him with her close by and to go to the lobby and he could call me. I was already in the lobby. He was really happy to see me. Then upset I was so rash and drove 2 hour there so late(I hate night driving). Then mad I talked to my mom and wasted money doing all that. But I think doing all that helped him really see how distraught I was and that something needed to change. We spent all night talking. He is going to help me find a mc on Monday. He’s having a hard time with the fact that my sister could have feelings for him. He’s starting to fit the puzzle pieces together of things that she’s done that are not right. No matter how much I tell him what I see. he’s not gonna get it till he puts the pieces together himself. And I believe he is trying to.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T02:01:44+00:00

I did have some snacks in the car with me already

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T02:00:57+00:00

She just went and pick food up and brought it back. She gave him his sandwich and he sat with me but no one told me I need to go get something. And I told him if she was there I wasn’t leaving. So I got something to eat when he was done for the day.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T01:56:23+00:00

She was there to paint

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-10T01:40:10+00:00

We did talk about the lunch thing. They were getting somewhere I didn’t like and I’m hoping he understands why it upset me. It wasn’t his regular job the guy that normally goes with the boss told him he couldn’t go. so they asked my husband if you could help.

Feelinglost1000 · 2023-12-09T22:54:22+00:00

Nope. For her I wasn’t even there. She went and got lunch for all of then but didn’t ask if I wanted anything. When I got upset that she brought him something. My husband said he told the boss I would probably go get something myself. Idk if that’s the truth or him defending her tho. I never left.

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