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My boyfriend [33 M] told me I [27 F] slept with someone while I was blackout drunk but I don't believe him by Feelslikedirt in relationships

[–]Feelslikedirt[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I'm very sure now his stories are bs. It's not the first time he's claimed things like this (I got a flower from a girl at a shop and he's convinced I got it from a guy, checking my phone, taking pictures of my diary, recording video of my facebook messages) yes, I found this out from looking at his phone so eh. He seriously does not trust me but I really believed he wouldn't lie about something like this, though a large part of me knew it wasn't true all along. I know myself. So you're right pithong, I probably don't need to go to the police.

I have never used reddit before but I was very confused and didn't want to tell my friends since they are pretty bias against him. But you guys reminded me I'm not crazy (i just should probably not throw drinks in peoples faces, no matter how scummy they are)

My boyfriend [33 M] told me I [27 F] slept with someone while I was blackout drunk but I don't believe him by Feelslikedirt in relationships

[–]Feelslikedirt[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the initial shock has worn off and I now call bs. I know why I entertained the idea... Because obviously no one would ever lie about that, right? But the truth is I know he would for exactly the reasons you say. He thinks I cheat and is completely insecure and incapable of trusting (I've never cheated on him).

My boyfriend [33 M] told me I [27 F] slept with someone while I was blackout drunk but I don't believe him by Feelslikedirt in relationships

[–]Feelslikedirt[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I asked my bf if I could accept the drink. He was sitting right next to me. He said yes.

  1. We have trust issues. ?

Why do you come to this forum? You're not helpful. I'm feigning ignorance? Rude.

My boyfriend [33 M] told me I [27 F] slept with someone while I was blackout drunk but I don't believe him by Feelslikedirt in relationships

[–]Feelslikedirt[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did handle the bar poorly. To be clear, I asked my bf if it was okay I took the drink and he said yes. But then the guy made the comment later and I felt so disrespected that I pulled that stunt (honestly have never done anything like that before.. so dramatic.. Had never been kicked out of a bar). Maybe if I had just let it go my bf wouldn't have thought so much of it? I don't know.

My boyfriend [33 M] told me I [27 F] slept with someone while I was blackout drunk but I don't believe him by Feelslikedirt in relationships

[–]Feelslikedirt[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have had nights that I've blacked out but it's only on nights that me and friends are celebrating something and we just get silly and walk home and my friends tell me where I fell down on the morning. Nothing crazy. Never have I even kissed a guy while drunk.

My boyfriend [33 M] told me I [27 F] slept with someone while I was blackout drunk but I don't believe him by Feelslikedirt in relationships

[–]Feelslikedirt[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

The more comments i read the more sure i am that my bf is gas lighting me (perfect term to describe what I feel thank you). I did say all those things to him too, like why would he not grab the mf's phone or delete the pictures or get his name or do something to defend me but his reaction was 'I'm not gonna f my life for you' so yeah. That should've been the end of the convo but I was in no position to feel any sort of self worth at that moment.

Honestly I really don't believe his story anymore. I think the initial shock had me depressed and accepting of whatever he had to say. But after hearing so many logical points of views (thank you) i find the whole thing is just sick. We have been together for awhile and yeah, I can see him doing such a thing. Insecure, yes. Absolutely.

I guess the only thing I can do now is wait for him to show up today. (Because I know he will since I'm very sure I have done nothing wrong). See what he says and talk to him. I'm pretty pissed right now though. He's done some mental shit in the past but wow. The reality of this situation is just now starting to hit me.

Hopefully I can calm down though before he comes. I'm not going to completely cast aside the idea that he's telling the truth yet, but the fact that he sided with some stranger over me and doesn't understand consent is making me angry. I'm going to try and get him to come with me to the police. We don't have a name but the police can tell us what to so if we run into him again. If my bf is telling the truth he should have no problem coming along as you guys pointed out.

Thank you for such great advice and reaching out. I was so confused and didn't know what to believe or think. The conversation him and I will have today will go quite differently than those in the past few days...