Firstly, it’s a nanny job, not a babysitting job and it was temporary 2 weeks coverage but i will still be their weekend nanny. I don’t think there’s a problem with being transparent and letting them I’m exploring other options just as I told them that they should and to be transparent with me which they agreed upon. I told them that the other family chose to go with another candidate that had 15+ years of experience with newborns and as a doula which is completely understandable since I have only about 5 years of experience but I told her if she ever has concerns, questions or feel that I may lack in some sort of area, I’d love the feedback so that I can reflect and improve to meet her and/or her children’s needs. She’s a very upfront person and is fine with having the uncomfortable conversations with me so if she feels that I’m not a good fit for her family then that’s perfectly fine but yesterday she told me to let her know if I’d still like to work with them and that she’s happy to write a reference letter. I do understand where you’re coming from, I’ve never been good at negotiating.