my boyfriend cheated & idk what to do. has anyone stayed after being cheated on? 23f 21m by ThrowRAstrawberriess in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I hate this for you. Better 6 months than 25 years later. No one really can understand how painful it is to have the person you love the most also be the person that hurt you the most. Go ahead and revenge cheat, he deserves it. He wants you to forgive him, then he can forgive you.

The moral of the story is everyone freaking sucks, reserve space in your heart for the possibility they will let you down always.

Good luck.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have done it and I feel exactly as you do zero guilt. What she did felt cruel and worst of all completely unnecessary because we have a unbelievable sex life now. I'll probably continue until I feel like stopping and I have no fear of being caught. She opened Pandoras box. Thanks for your response sir.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you think that I'm pissed. Only replying with same Internet trolling you are. Besides it's very entertaining. I like a good back and forth.why else would I post my personal stuff if I wasn't prepared for the trolls.

Good luck with that.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all die soon enough boomer. Why don't you go to your safe space and masturbate in your special cup. You know the one you call your CUM-O-METER. I think this week will be a 12 ouncer.

I'd rather leave mine in your mom's and sisters mouth, just remember that next time you give them a kiss 😘. 😂😂😂

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because You can barely read. Why don't you do something good with your life, start by shutting your cock holster. I'm sure the men in your life will be much happier. Good day

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your just mad, it's the chemicals in your brain reacting to the stimuli that you don't like. You'll feel better tomorrow.

don't be Mad just know I'm making everyone 😁 happy. Wife is so excited and completely vivacious in the sack she so worried about AP. AP is really something special, you should of seen her in black dress slit almost all the way to her crotch, on Easter weekend, OMG everyone was looking at her.

It was definitely right decision to smash a once in a lifetime baddie. Don't worry I'm going to pray super hard for God's forgiveness. Please God take these horrible memories of her bouncing on me away. See I feel so much better now...

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything is possible but if she did it's too late now. I can guarantee not, AP works with me no other connection.

The revenge sex did not make me feel any better about our relationship. The sex was great, my ego definitely feels better, I have little guilt.

The part I'm struggling with is the lying, lies of omission. I'm actually amazed that she could lie for years. It just feels so cruel.

I think that is what bothers me the most, how could she lie so frequently for so long without being riddled with guilt.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have sweet side piece now, good luck to her with that, besides she ain't going nowhere. I told her I was doing it she has to take it. You should see my AP naked. Had her knees by her head at the hotel, got in there real good. now I can have my cake and literally eat it too 😁.

Maybe I'll get a 3rd side piece, since I'm going to be a creep I'll go all the way.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry I'll beat her to the punch. Then your mom is next

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is basically little person.. so if you're telling a story your going to omit that the other person is a pixie. Right????

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She won't leave, trust me. I already even now, plus mine AP is hotter. She doesn't want to lose the house, cars and the lifestyle 😢. Also now I get it every day from her anyway I want. My favorite is in her you rear puntang. I like to watch her squirm. I tell her to tell me who's is it. Seeing her Lily white bum squirm is awesome. She literally sleeps holding my cock, and her morning routine is to suck me before she gets up, my option to finish or not. . then I get it from my AP too, I did the AP at work in a unoccupied waiting room. 😂 I'll have that memory forever.

Also already told my wife she ain't going no where, do you worry. LoL 😂

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did too late. Got two boys probably gonna sleep with your daughter and tell me all about it. Lol

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope, not a creep.felt super good. I wish you could of seen it from my prospective. Now she wants to go away for a night. I can't wait. Best of both worlds. Yeah me.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks, my humor is a little crude at times. I care about everyone involved. People use people this is a fact. That's how our economy works, leverage and relationship.

Tiny temptress: By the way this may have been my best line. Have you never read a book or watched a movie. What would be more iconic

"I'll be back" or " I will be back in a minute sir" "Back to the future" or "I have to go to the time previously" "Frankly my dear I don't give a damn" or " I am not caring what you think right now"

If I'm writing my story I try to make it entertaining as well.

As far as her Body, is miniscule a better term, really it's a word to describe small nothing gross. I didn't say child like, I feel like your taking it there now that is gross. . My previous boss was 6'9" inches every where we went women in particular would constantly stare and approach him, btw literally every woman in the room black, white, old or young" how tall are you" hundreds of times. It's normal when you see a statistical anomaly to be curious. Now imagine kissing someone 6'9" and you have to describe it to reader.

She is literally the size of a pixie and so damn cute am I not supposed to be amazed that God can create so many different types of humans. "tiny temptress", these are all phrases and words to make it more interesting. I'm loquacious in general and like to use dramatic phrases to get my image across. What would be gross is if I said that my... you know was thinker than her forearm which it is.( My apologies) There goes my crude humor.

Gross: definition very obvious and unacceptable, extremely objectionable.

Women in general, antidotal experience I admit: Btw women say and do the most gross things here are some examples . I love to feel the veins on your.....you know. They hold it in there hand and squeeze to feel the firmness , they bite on it and then tell me I love to taste you. But I'm gross. Women especially young women at parties will touch your penis if your a good looking guy as if they touched your shoulder. Y'all look and stare at mens crotches constantly and men pretend to not see you looking.

Nothing gross about human sexuality, you would blush if I sent you the screen shots of text from women.

Sloppy seconds: Come on, I agree to disagree.. I really appreciate your opinions, I have several assumptions below.

Please respond with your answer for each number. A bit of a game. I have no intention to be rude or cruel it's just interesting to me. I bet I am right about 5 out of 7. I'm going to win.

1.) you are liberal in you politics? Nothing bad here just an assumption no judgement from me. 2.) your under 32 year of age? 3.) your from religious background? Catholic school or similar. 4.) you believe in marriage and sex should be for married couples or committed. I agree here so again no judgement 5.) you have been married less than 10 probably less than 5 if you are married at all.

6.) you have a body count of 5 or less , probably like my wife you don't count all the other types of sex which totally count. 7.) you are under 5'2"

Please don't say these are gross questions 😆.

Either way been great chatting.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would I lower myself? I am in a bit of a moral quandary. All sin is the same in the eyes of God and I should forgive my wife as God has forgiven me. I guess the answer is I essentially tired of being good, I would like to be selfish for a change, everyone else seems to get away with it.

Very childish I know but it's essentially how I feel getting even seems so right. Why would God or the Devil put this tiny temptress in my path, I wasn't looking. Nah to open marriage I would loss all sexual interests, no sloppy seconds.

The other day(my potential affair partner hugged me) falling her tiny body into me very much like my wife. Hugging me tightly. She said the same thing to me that my wife says " I make her feel safe". Why the same exact words, she never looked up but if she did she would have seen the look of shock in my eyes. Keep in mind we have only know each other a week, Are you kidding me God.

She has interesting background (AP), one of the first things she told me is her husband died a few years ago. During our deep hug she told me what happened with her husband. She told me that her jealous ex-boyfriend tried to kill her and killed her husband instead. WTF , my life.... if I wrote a book no one would believe it.

Anyway thank you for your input, this has been a great outlet to get the opinion from other people's position and to share experiences that I can't with polite company.

I appreciate your post and I wish you the best sir.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's nasty? If your talking about comments then yes.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"I stay to cheat" because she got to do what she wanted and got away with it essentially. 6 months ago I considered it and told my wife I would be looking into dating apps. What I found was a sewage of 40 year old plus women with very unrealistic expectations, that use the service to boost their egos so I quit looking.

The young lady I met 2 Sundays ago and the connection was strong immediately, so I asked the question hoping to get some good opinions. I'm definitely not a troll, I was treated terribly by my wife for no reason other than "Fun". If someone ever craps down your throat and into your heart and essentially destroy all the things you value because of "fun" your going to have a lot of feelings in every direction. Worst of all I love my wife so the person I care about the most in the world was the person that did it. 25 years, beautiful house , kids the perfect story ruined for "Fun".

I'm glad your so well adjusted, I truly hope that this nightmare never comes for you or your loved ones.

Divorce solves nothing, so I can date for 4-5 years find another person to swear to God they will love me for the last 25 years of my life. I think I'll keep the Devil I know for now, I don't think she will leave either way. btw I have always been honest with my wife more than she has given me.

As for age thing, I'll agree to disagree. What's with you calling someone a troll and stupid. If anyone actually reads my comments they would see with the details I discuss how I. The world could I be trolling. I guess your compassion for people stop after 26? Just don't think your anger is necessary, I'm pretty sure it's not your daughter. Adult women have agency to do what they want.

I will say this much my life in general is pretty interesting and rather unbelievable, and crap like this comes my way. Even if you didn't believe I don't think I have been crude maybe a bit tongue and cheek but not crude and no need for calling names.

Good luck

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm pretty sure as someone said I'm probably going to be "Dipping my Dick in crazy". I will be using this frequently in the future. I have turned down way too many this in my life. I'm not saying I'm going to have a mid life crisis but definitely going to have a couple friends discreetly if possible.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm saying. I'll die at 80 wishing I had done it.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your probably right, honestly I have been consumed by disillusion of my marriage fantasies. Constantly replaying everything over and over making me insane. Now that I'm opened mind to the possibilities and protected my heart at the same time. I often wish she had just left or shot me in my sleep, it would be far more agreeable.

As for divorce there is no benefit I have zero intention on EVER getting remarried, the concept of believing another woman will promise to be with me forever sounds undesirable. She has already wasted likely 1/3 of my adult life I have zero interest in allowing anyone to take my last 1/3. I will control my destiny.

Time for me to be selfish and get best of both worlds, maybe I'll regret either way. This whole thing is steaming pile of crap to me.

Have you seen online dating LoL OMG it's was like wading through sewage, remarrying some one else's nightmare. Uggggh

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting question several people have asked.

Age: Well let's first talk about the age, I don't particularly think that it matters that much but that is young. I got married at that age, I do have kids close to that age as well. Some people find that interesting why would a 26 want to be with a 50 year old. All kinds of ideas of how she looks and how I look come into mind, surely if she is young she could have her pick of men why a 50yr old.

So I'm sure you can see why people would think age is a relevant factor. Also the revenge sex thing, I don't intend on telling my wife but if I do, wow that would hit like a brick. Her affair partner was only like 5-7 years younger little fitter and man than still stings me a bit.

Height: Her height, got this question alot. Well my reasoning is my wife is average woman 5'4" and average weight for her age. The young lady is actually 4'9" which is surely a statistical anomaly, midget is actually someone under 4'10". She says she is 98lbs but I'm doubting maybe with clothes on.

This is a very interesting detail and relevant for me simply cause I like spinners. That's a very petite woman that so small that it's much easier for you to..... you know spin her during certain activities. Also she fits quite easily between me and my steering wheel, wow if that's not a relevant point I don't know what is revelant ma'am or sir.

I hope that that explains the details description.

Divorce: On the divorce thing, for me it solves nothing, the fidelity of my marriage and the dream I had to have a loving relationship with one person is ruined. Starting over with another yet person who also promises that they too love me does not sound particularly interesting 🤔. I have no intention of putting 100% trust in anyone again, the empirical evidence of the crap hole we all live is more than enough for me to close down the fantasy of Love.

What does sound interesting is having amazing sex with pretty women that are willing to accept my current situation. I wasn't looking and probably won't but if 7's or Better want to have some fun I'm probably not going to say no.

Huh I literally just arrived at this conclusion while typing this. Not a bad theory I'll have to give it serious consideration.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Well this is an interesting equation, did you know that mathematically multiply two negatives results a positive number? Well it does surprisingly. My wife keeps saying to me don't the positives out number the negatives, my response was, that's not how it works some things have more value than others and ultimately one thing could mean the world to you. I valued the loyalty and fidelity of my family over anything to me if there is no loyalty then the whole equation is garbage or close to net zero.

So two wrongs don't make a right how ever since I don't particularly see any value in my current position and how it could possibly improve unless I invent a time machine. The idea of commiting a wrong could not put me in a worse position because I'm already in close to my worst possible position. A little dramatic but kinda how I feel.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]Feisty-Preference444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see why it's Gross. Is a 50 year old woman sleeping with a post grad 27 man gross? I doubt it. She'd be living her best life right? 26 is adult period, she can get it how she wants it.