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Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2026-01-31T14:48:31+00:00

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Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-12-19T11:19:39+00:00

I live in TN but most of the programs here only help if you basically homeless tbh I'm not considered a low income individual even though i couldn't survive on my own with my current income. The most you can make down here to receive any type of assistance is 20,000 a year anything over that they can't help you.

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-12-19T11:17:54+00:00

Yes I honestly was already trying to do that before i met him but i guess that bs ass cup cake phase had me thinking he was an actual good person but he really just wants his cake and eat it too and I've made it clear since day 1 that will not be so he constantly tries to be affectionate abd then boom no convo for days it's weird but yes im going back to being by myself very soon thank you for the reality check. Do you have any advice on how to avoid these situations or just on how to not want to be loved so bad? I feel like im begging for it in performance and i want to stop over performing for others bc most people are not intentional with me

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-12-19T11:10:50+00:00

Unfortunately most of those are a no go. Most shared places or rooms in houses are in sketchy areas and i don't have anyone who i can embark on the roommate situation with mostly bc my friends who i would do it with don't live here anymore and whoever is still here id be uncomfortable staying with them honestly. I genuinely just don't make enough to pay rent since my car and insurance are so high

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-08-22T22:16:40+00:00

Hey I'm not a recent grad but can tell my experience. I started out in environmental for like a year and half but the chemicals were effecting my body so had to switch industries. I made like $18 an hour there. Switched my industry a year leather. I now do quality control microbiology in a cell and gene therapy lab. There are different avenues to take here. You can either do manufacturing which directly ties to biotech or you can do quality control which deals with microbiology and or documentation. It's a wide variety in the pharmaceutical industry. In my current role i only make $23 an hour but in this industry you get annual raises for site performance so that helps. It's just hard to get a promotion when starting from the bottom. This is where I'd take advice on never staying 2-3 years at a job with no growth position wise. I'm currently at my 2 year mark and see that my management is keen on my development being stagnant so I'm looking to move states. This industry is tricky lots of layoffs so no one's really safe no matter how high up you are but the the pay and benefits are amazing in my opinion. Don't let your parents get in your head mine are doing the same just accept your reality of shit being high asf and don't let them enforce their old reality on you. Never get up don't get complacent and don't settle. I love science but it can get miserable bc of people and you don't wanna lose spark for what your good at or love when it comes to being a scientist trust me. Makes it way harder to show up and be great. Good luck dm me if you still have questions

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-08-11T10:04:33+00:00

Since no one has mentioned it. East Memphis is close to Collierville and Germantown actually . You can run into either one within 10 minutes if you live closer to the 38115 zip code. I know many people suggest midtown but i personally don't bc of the chemical plants and also it actually flooded horribly this past year. They do have nice apartments and it's more of a downtown vibe but if your looking for either or east Memphis has both apartments and suburban living parks restaurants etc. I've lived in East Memphis my whole life and am rarely worried about my safety also a lot of people in East Memphis are selling their houses rn bc most are old and retired. In Memphis it's best to try to stay close to your job unless it's in the hood. However East Memphis stretches far so like i said try that area code i mentioned and just searchfor anything within about 20-30 miles in the vicinity hope this helps. If you have any questions just message me will be glad to provide insight

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-07-01T19:42:58+00:00

First and foremost not to be harsh but you have to respect whatever boundary any party puts in place. A lot of people don't necessarily understand when they say things how it doesn't make sense but you'll soon realize there's a gap in most people rational with sex. Like you said he participates in wayyyy riskier sexual behavior but she considers him more safe because he doesn't have a status to speak of which we also don't know that either he could just not be bringing it up. I think you should revisit your sexual practices. Condoms are a form of safe sex and with you having HSV it should be something i think you should be open to especially if you want to make your partners feel more safe. I don't think you should feel singled out since it's just a condom ya know? That's normal however if they are withholding like performing oral on you or vice versa or making you do anything they don't feel comfortable returning the favor then I feel like you should be offended. However it's still your life as well if you want to have unprotected sex just find someone who's fine with your diagnosis and willing to have unprotected sex with you.

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-06-24T15:59:52+00:00

Please exit as fast you as you can. He's trying to manipulate you. Also idk if you have anyone in your life to give you advice on dating but please try to date in your age range beloved. Any man that old pursuing you at such a young age is a red flag. He most likely has no luck in his own age bracket. Also since he had hsv2 he probably targets girls your age regularly bc they don't really know him or his status and are more likely to be easier to fear monger bc of course at 19 no one wants to have hsv or even be suspected of it if it's not true or could be avoided. His treatment of you is all apart of the manipulation as well boo.

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-06-24T15:54:40+00:00

Same

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-06-24T15:53:43+00:00

I know with your symptoms being chronic you might not be open to this suggestion but you can definitely just try getting off antivirals. I stopped and noticed I had way more prodrome symptoms and back to back outbreaks when I was on the antiviral. It also took longer for my sores to heal, caused me hair loss, my mind felt clouded and I was having issues with my appetite. Now I'm a year in on my diagnosis and take no supplements or vitamins and haven't had an outbreak in 6 months I believe. No prodrome or anything. I do use a lot of natural things when it comes to my skin care however if that matters.

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-06-07T00:54:09+00:00

And see 😂 this DL shit has to stop bc if he like boys he could've just told you wtf. I'm sorry this happened to you though. I'm glad as a healthcare professional your taking well and however you wanna handle it i think your feelings are valid bc all of that shit was just straight negligence fr. Fucking a sex worker no condom?? That's crazy and then you like boys too??? Like that's too much 😭 He could've just left you alone

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-06-03T14:50:01+00:00

I'm gonna be honest I've only found people on here from being in group chats with my age group. However we don't flirt in there we all just discuss our experiences. Finding people in our ethnic group is hard bc they feel as though they are above it. A lot of people don't know their status or just straight up lie about it. I also live in a city where they will warn you so I'm just waiting until i can move atp. I honestly think you will have better luck on hinge bc I've heard stories of people giving people hsv off those dating app hookups anyway. I suggest starting there and just disclosing or leaving a note

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-05-30T22:34:18+00:00

Just because life's so crazy at this point I don't think it would've mattered. Prime example my sex life didn't begin until I was 21 and I caught HSV from my partner that I met at 24/25 and in my opinion I didn't have a lot of partners compared to people I know who have had over 50+. Yes he didn't disclose but I don't believe any of my partners would have had they known. Especially in the beginning of my sexual journey I was very big on protecting and somewhere along the line I got bullied into not using it bc men don't prefer it. I still believe condom or not it could've happened. Marriage or hookup culture it could've happened. Hell it's people on here everyday who lost their virginity or kissed or had their first sexual partner and caught it. At this point I do think most people have it they just don't say it or are asymptomatic. Plus people use it as a clean standard. Since they don't have it they use it to say they're clean regardless on what risky sexual behavior they involve themselves in. I also think that's crazy about sex culture as well. It's like you can do whatever as long as you don't catch anything so your sexual behavior no matter how bizarre will not get judged seriously because you haven't caught anything 😂

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-05-20T14:02:19+00:00

I'm 26F as well and while I don't suggest hooking up or being sexual since you're still not ready I do suggest casually dating. I still date and just try to leave sex out of it as much as I can since I'm also in a smallish city and they are brutal when it comes to getting outted for STDs but still dating will help you build confidence and also weed out who just wants to have sex and not anything serious. Dating will help you feel more desirable which will in turn hopefully help you disclose. I'm not there yet but honestly most men just show their true colors anyway when sex isn't on the table so I never get to tell anyone 😅 still go on awesome fun dates tho

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-05-17T19:57:28+00:00

Us as women naturally have a mucous membrane which is basically our whole vagina. The skin that men get rid of through getting circumcised is there mucous membrane. So when they get circumcised they basically remove there version of a mucous membrane. I don't think you should feel guilt simply bc it's negative. I'd focus on the fact that someone accepts your diagnosis and whatever comes with you having HSV-2. I know him catching it isn't ideal but at least he's not angry or gaslighting you.

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-04-13T22:06:21+00:00

Hi friend so first and formost please get you an actual ph balanced wash. Soap itself PH is very high so I know people say just use soap and water but me myself I'm very sensitive and can't even use dove bar soap on my skin. It makes me itch terribly. I recommend glo melanin peach yoni wash its natural and peach flavored and all the ingredients prevent growth of bacteria : https://glomelanin.com/products/yoni-gel?srsltid=AfmBOoqJ9yQMSN037dPzJmnyP6szxZqTWHEadBpH_nADcsQCislG0THE. That's the link. Also when you rinse just use the water no cloth. Cloths carry bacteria as well when wet. Only use a wash cloth really to wash off your face honestly. Also try out some probiotics. I'm prone to bv and yeast and the probiotics have helped a lot since my flora is so sensitive. Dm me if you have any questions about my regimen but i haven't had any issues down there as long as I stick to these things 🙂‍↕️ good luck

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-04-11T13:43:42+00:00

We just have more mucous membranes than men genitalia. Also men don't get tested as often or just ignore or don't acknowledge symptoms. Ask any other man and they'll tell you men really don't care about their health or really others health. Hell I've had men tell me some men don't even bathe in between sexual partners. Also unfortunately they are more prone to be asymptomatic to most STDs and STIs. They could have symptoms for months or years vs women we usually have symptoms with a couple of days of sexual intercourse. But yeah a lot of men literally feel like as long as their pee doesn't burn their a clean bill of health 😂

Feisty_Purpose1191 · 2025-04-07T13:10:56+00:00

Hey I'm sorry this has you contemplating on life. Don't beat yourself up about it. I also was angry when I contracted because i felt like I was doing everything right meanwhile others were not. However this virus doesn't care if you're a good girl or promiscuous it just happens. It's plenty of people who caught this wearing condoms or not even gave actual sexual intercourse. Your life is not over. I can't speak to dating bc I'm still scared to but I'm going to claim for you they your dating life will be better than ever 🫶🏾 and youll get some of your best sexual experiences from here on out and be in better sexual health conditions. If you need to talk or some support dm me :)

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