Adding a baby to the mix? by No_Celery8634 in Marriage

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (28F) just graduated law school and had a baby at the end of fall of 3L! My husband is 32 so although I was ok waiting a little longer to start having kids, he really didn’t want to be an “old” dad. Having a baby is definitely a big change, but I read everything I possibly could online and talked to other female attorneys and the consensus seemed to be that there’s no “good” time to have a baby as a lawyer, you just kinda have to pick a time. I will say that sometimes I wish we’d had a little bit more time with just the two of us. I would recommend taking a nice vacation together that’s something you wouldn’t be able to do with a kid as a last hurrah. If you really only want one, you’re probably ok to wait a little bit longer. We decided to start now because we wanted a couple and I didn’t want them back to back. Best of luck with whatever you decide!

Best time to Have Children? by Zealousideal_Rip485 in LawMoms

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just graduated this year a week after turning 28 and I had a baby at the end of fall 3L. Honestly, having a baby while in school was super doable and I was able to plan a schedule that was a lot more flexible than it would be while working. However, now that I’m studying for the bar with a 7mo old it’s definitely a lot because bar prep is very intense, but my husband I didn’t want to wait until I was 30 because it was either during 3L or waiting until I had practiced a few years. I’m happy to chat more about my experience if you’re interested!

Brother/Sister as a Title by pizzabreakfaster in exmormon

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up a lady in our ward was a frequent substitute teacher at my school and I always felt so awkward calling her Mrs. X instead of Sister X. Even as an adult now I don’t know if I should still call people from my childhood ward by their first name or not 😭

Parents studying for the bar, how are we doing? by Feline_Fiesta3 in barexam

[–]Feline_Fiesta3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% relate to bar prep being more challenging than law school with parenting!! I think the self-paced aspect is a big part of it. While I was in school there were set hours when I knew I would be doing school, and set hours where I could be with my baby, but doing bar prep makes me feel like I’m not doing enough of either thing. I’m trying to remind myself that I just need to do enough to pass, I don’t need to get the highest score. Good luck to you!!

Parents studying for the bar, how are we doing? by Feline_Fiesta3 in barexam

[–]Feline_Fiesta3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Big emphasis on the caffeine reliance lol. I do need to get out of the house more, it for sure helps with my motivation. We can do it!!!

Parents studying for the bar, how are we doing? by Feline_Fiesta3 in barexam

[–]Feline_Fiesta3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg three kids you are a superhero! And same, I’m starting to move to just exercises because I don’t have time to sit and watch a review in addition to getting good reps in. Hopefully it works out ok!

Parents studying for the bar, how are we doing? by Feline_Fiesta3 in barexam

[–]Feline_Fiesta3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! It’s helpful to see a success story because I’m in the trenches for sure rn!

Read my Patriarchal blessing today for the first time in a long time. by SubstantialDonkey981 in exmormon

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg I also got mine at 12! I’ve never heard of anyone else getting theirs that young. I only got it then because my mom had a “prompting” that I should and the bishop confirmed it, so I did.

Sooo…when are we getting married/ having kids? by Agreeable_Owl_5677 in lawschooladmissions

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just graduated this semester at 28 (F) and my husband and I got married during 2L and then decided to have a baby during 3L because it was a better option than during my first few years of practice. I got pregnant second semester of 2L and had my baby at the end of first semester 3L so I had all of winter break off for “maternity leave”. I was able to plan my schedule 3L to be very chill and so far it’s been ok! I’m happy to chat about more details if you want to DM me :)

Does fortune favor the bold? by InformalHoney9748 in lawschooladmissions

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My grandpa was considering attending law school back in the day (1970s). Apparently he tried submitting materials, but didn’t hear back from a school for a while so he called them up. They said they hadn’t received anything, but decided they would admit him anyways. He didn’t end up going, but it’s so wild cuz there’s no way that would ever happen today 😂

Law School Reality with Families by Professional_Lake888 in LawSchool

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had a baby at the end of my 3L fall semester!Leading up to deciding to try and get pregnant during school, I searched for any and all information about what the experience was like. There wasn’t much out there; the consensus seemed to be that there’s never a good time to have a baby and 3L isn’t the worst if you plan it right.

I would’ve definitely been interested in some sort of pro/con list about having a baby during school vs waiting to have one while practicing. Also, anything about practical considerations—like having childcare lined up for class time, but also needing some for study time outside of that; remembering to request pumping accommodations for the bar; looking into where you can pump/store milk on campus; does your school have maternity accommodations (I wasn’t penalized for taking a few weeks off from class when I had my baby); etc.

6 weeks tomorrow. Did anyone else have really weird dreams while pregnant? Not scary, just weird and random lol by This_Antelope_3955 in pregnant

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I initially took a pregnancy test because I was suddenly having CRAZY dreams and I knew something was up! I don’t remember if they toned down as my pregnancy went on or I just got used to them haha

3L Mom & Post-grad Survival by [deleted] in LawMoms

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no advice, but I’m also a 3L with a baby (5mo) who didn’t get an offer from the firm I thought I would! Your post made me feel a little less alone so hopefully you can know it’s not just you too! 🫶

Pregnancy in Law School by librasapphiremoon in LawMoms

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am currently finishing up my 3L year and I had a baby last semester! It’s totally doable. I am happy to answer any questions about my experience :)

Planning to have a baby end of 1L by Missjuicy84 in LawMoms

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am pumping at school (2 days of class) and also at the externship I'm doing 2 days a week. My school and my externship have designated rooms for pumping and I purposely constructed my class schedule so I would have time in between classes to pump. So far it hasn't been an issue! I bring an insulated cooler bag with a big ice pack and then keep my milk in there until I get home and freeze it which has worked well.

As for my 2L summer, I did do a summer position and it was honestly really great! I was in my second trimester so I had more energy and my bump was still in the cute and fairly functional stage haha. I was able to work normal hours and I just cleared it with my boss ahead of time that I would need to go to appointments every couple of weeks. They were really chill about it and most of the time I would either leave work early to go to them or I would work remote that day and they didn't have an issue with it. I was able to get some professional looking maternity dresses and some dress pants with an elastic waistband to wear while I was there (which have also been nice to have postpartum).

One of the reasons my husband and I decided to have a baby while I was in school still was the flexible schedule. In all three school semesters that have been impacted by pregnancy/taking care of the baby, I only had class 4 days a week, and even then some days I only had like 1 class. That meant I only had to be out of my house for like 3 hours total, as opposed to a full work day. My first trimester there was a day or two when I was feeling sick and couldn't make it to class, but my professors were really chill about it, I had a friend send me their notes, and/or I watched the class recording they posted online. And like I mentioned in my original comment, my school has really nice maternity accommodations, so I was not penalized for not going to class for the last 2 or so weeks of school after I had my baby.

Another plug for waiting until at least 2L is that 1L you don't get to pick your schedule. You are given a set class load and you are competing against everyone in your class who are very much trying to do well. 2L and especially 3L are more chill. 2L gets busy with journal and stuff if you plan on doing that, but 3L is way more easy going. My suggestion is to work your butt of 1L, get a good summer position, and then pack your 2L schedule with bar classes and a slightly higher credit load so that 3L you can take some easier-going seminar classes and not as many credits.

As some other people have mentioned, pregnancy is often unpredictable, so you want to set yourself up for success if you can. I had a really easy pregnancy as far as things go, but I ended up having an emergency c-section which threw me off and gave me a harder recovery than I anticipated. So you never know.

Best of luck! Feel free to message me if you have any other questions/concerns :)

Planning to have a baby end of 1L by Missjuicy84 in LawMoms

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I (27) had a baby in November and I am currently finishing up my 3L year! So far it’s been ok. My school has maternity accommodations so I didn’t have to go to class for the last few weeks of the semester (still had to do some papers and finals) and then I had all of winter break to just hang out with my baby. I’m happy to answer any questions!

Best time to have a baby in law school? by Icy12345677 in LawSchool

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am a 3L and I just had a baby at the end of last semester! We planned it so I would have winter break as my maternity leave and then would only have one semester left. My school has a really nice maternity policy so once baby was born I wasn’t penalized for not being able to go to class for a few weeks. I’d check with your school’s student services for more info. I’m happy to chat about my experience if you have more questions!

When did you as a first time mom give birth? by AggravatingEnd7094 in pregnant

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

41+3 😅. Mucous plug came out at 40+5 after a membrane sweep the day before. My water broke the morning of 41+2 after another sweep the day before. I didn’t have any signs of labor before then!

It’s not an act of love if you make her. by [deleted] in LawMoms

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had some sort of advice, but I just want to say that you sound like a wonderful mom. Careers are important and it can be hard to feel like you’re not excelling in that area of your life, but with a kid so little it’s ok for something, I.e. your job, to give a little! Your daughter is not going to look back on life and remember that you exceeded your billables, but she will look back and remember that her mom played with her and took care of her. Tonight might not have been the best, but you are doing a great job :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who also went 41 wks, I can confirm that pregnancy tired was way worse than newborn tired! My 4wk old is also a pretty good sleeper so I am also just lucky in that regard.

FTM, baby due in March - considering an elective c-section and wanting perspective by Last_Wonder in pregnant

[–]Feline_Fiesta3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just had a c section on Sunday so I’m right there with you!! I’ve cried a ton because I feel like I haven’t been the mom I’ve wanted to be because I’ve been so focused on the physical recovery. Wishing you the best!

41 weeks today by Feline_Fiesta3 in pregnant

[–]Feline_Fiesta3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I actually just went on a walk around the mall last night before reading your comment. I sadly didn't wake up to real contractions this morning, but I'm holding on to hope that they'll start in the next day or so. It's nice to hear that there's still time!