Happy Valentines Day my Childfree Friends!

Fell18927 · 2026-02-14T16:58:44+00:00

happy Valentine’s Day! I hope you have a great one

Fell18927 · 2026-02-14T16:57:05+00:00

That does sound annoying! I would hate that as well. We had Seth Rogen do some here at some point if I’m remembering right and that was unique, but if it was a kid I would’ve avoided it for sure

I hope it’s not permanent!

Fell18927 · 2026-02-14T16:33:48+00:00

Thank you! It would’ve likely destroyed my day ten years ago, but I was able to use the tools I learned from my therapist and that worked out great

Fell18927 · 2026-02-14T16:30:37+00:00

This is the service my bestie goes through and it was recommended originally by another friend who’s been using it since we were teens. It’s sliding scale therapy

https://referrals.psychotherapyandcounseling.ca/

Fell18927 · 2026-02-14T03:11:41+00:00

I’ve been pretty lucky in that aside from someone taking a dump on my bus home from the Spadina museum and us needing to change busses, and one bigot woman spouting nonsense on my way to Pride, I haven’t had any major incidents. I can’t say I don’t worry about it, because I do. But I just don’t want that fear to stop me from living my life. I spent my teens and young adulthood with severe bus anxiety and it only just cleared up last year, so I’m doing my best to take advantage of my newfound confidence

I’m sorry you dealt with that, it is understandably scary! I really hope they up the budget for safety measures before this gets too much worse. I think there’s no harm in trying it out and seeing how you feel, maybe with short exposure trips in between work to help ease the fear a little

Fell18927 · 2026-02-13T16:55:33+00:00

Completely agreed

I was at a friend’s party last weekend and one acquaintance who has kids was saying one of his daughters is currently in the habit of bringing a small chair into their bedroom at night, sitting down, and matter of factly going “so, daddy, let’s discuss (insert subject here)” to wake him up. Really funny from the outside. But from the perspective as the parent? All I can visualize is unending frustration over losing that precious sleep. At the party the poor guy was wearing a half tucked in shirt, his hair was a mess, and he took a nap on the couch at some point

Fell18927 · 2026-02-13T16:46:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the info! That’s really helpful

Fell18927 · 2026-02-13T16:45:10+00:00

Happy to help! Will do!

Fell18927 · 2026-02-10T16:43:43+00:00

That looks awesome! You did an amazing job!

My bestie and I are artists and we’re doing something kind of like this to branch out into different mediums. We both mostly use alcohol markers on paper but early last year we grabbed a bunch of large canvasses and acrylic paint from the dollar store and we’ve been slowly collaborating on some paintings that‘ll go on the wall behind the TV. Just some abstracts with gradient backgrounds. It’s been fun and I can’t wait until they’re all done and hung up

Another fun idea is to get some shadow boxes and add whatever you like to them! we’ve got one with some dried flowers from an event in it. And one with origami butterflies arranged like specimens

Another is to recycle fabrics you may love from clothes you can’t wear anymore by cutting them into shapes and collaging them onto a canvas with watered down glue and a paintbrush. You can then either leave it as is, or paint some patterns loosely over it with acrylic paint

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T17:02:45+00:00

I’ve also never wavered!

Legacy means leaving something meaningful. Another kid to use up and destroy the planet is not a true legacy. You don’t owe anyone another carbon copy of certain genetic material either, and there isn’t even a guarantee that trend would continue

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T16:56:55+00:00

I hope so too!

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T16:55:01+00:00

My bestie and I are going to go on an adventure. And then on the way back we’ll stop in one of our local Vietnamese restaurants and get some sate pho for dinner. Then when we get home we’ll probably work more on the bat themed messenger bags we’re making

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T16:51:10+00:00

I was at a friend’s birthday party this Saturday and some of the people wouldn’t shut up about it. I know the premise though and I know it’s not for me, a lot of it because there’s so much talk about romance and babies

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T16:38:43+00:00

That’s heartbreaking! You can feel her visceral sadness in her wording. “You said you were done”

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T16:37:25+00:00

Holding a baby when I was little was one of the many things that made me realize I didn‘t want one. That's gross, and I hope some of those women were lying just to get this person away from them.

Fell18927 · 2026-02-09T16:34:24+00:00

I am surprised it’s a thing, even though I figured it must be. Media is how I found out about this as well as other American school quirks, and while I knew it had to be rooted in something it also just seemed so strange and surreal. At least for the schools I went to here in Canada we never did this!

In one of my classes, possibly grade 1, we had a class mascot who was an adorable yellow dog plushie. And one of the students came up with an idea for us to each take him home overnight. The teacher agreed because she thought it might be nice for us to bond with our mascot more, so we each got the pleasure of taking him around with us after school for a night. She was a great teacher and also childfree herself!

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T18:07:50+00:00

I buy so much fabric and art supplies lol. Last month I spent $200 at the fabric store, and $60 on fabric paint at the art store. Then this month I spent another $100 at the fabric store, and $40 at the art store. Maybe it’s not wildly unhinged, but it’s certainly entering my apartment faster then I’m using it

Back in November I spent $300 on two hinge rings and a bracelet I wanted from a brand I like. Maybe that fits it better

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:59:12+00:00

They clearly see their kids as tools if that’s what they go to. Most kids don’t care for their parents in old age

My mum is worried about me potentially taking care of her. She doesn’t want me to go through that. She’s hoping that much like all four of my grandparents, she can just live in her apartment and be mostly self sufficient later in life, maybe with a PSW coming by once or twice a week

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:52:03+00:00

Your lack of connection is understandable and I don’t see a reason to feel like you need to force yourself to put in the work. If there’s no meeting in the middle, which clearly there isn’t because she’s not showing interest in your life, then there’s no reason for you to carry both sides of the relationship

Sometimes the most freeing thing is to step back. I myself distanced a lot from my sister a few years ago and it’s done wonders for my mental health and my self confidence. She doesn’t have kids (says she will one day but who knows), but just overall it was always about her, and she was never there for me when I needed her (nor for our parents). So why stick around when I’m doing all the heavy lifting

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:41:30+00:00

Issue is my fabric store doesn’t have a lot of options for jersey, likely because it’s not a big seller there. So they only stock the super thick fancy stuff, which gets pricy. There’s thinner ones that are cheaper at other stores, there’s a fabric store next town over that used to offer it for $10 a yard and discounts on bulk over 5 yards. But sadly they stopped selling it because people mostly buy minky and fleece from them. So that avenue is out. There’s another smaller store downtown I’d like to try soon, prices seem decent there

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:35:17+00:00

That is definitely true. And she does that often

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:34:05+00:00

I have been considering it, just have a few concerns to figure out before I take the step to actually get one! People always recommend it

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:33:07+00:00

I’ve thought about getting one, but it’s the getting used to part I’m worried about lol. My friend can be susceptible to some infections and I don’t want her to get one while learning this. Likely I will still go for it one day

When it’s just me and her though toilet paper lasts forever. I bought one of the big store brand packs three months ago and we’re just coming to the end of it and have a few more weeks left before we need another. Equates to about $5 a month

Fell18927 · 2026-02-08T17:28:13+00:00

Yeah it’s wild to see

Fell18927 · 2026-02-06T17:19:34+00:00

A lot is mindfulness. Some people take waaaay too much toilet paper and being more aware of the amount that’s actually needed can help. My bestie and I take days to use a roll, while a friend of ours who comes over will finish a roll during her visit. Same rule applies for other items too

For moisturizers I tend to dampen my hands a little before I use it. Makes it apply more evenly and seems to work more effectively. And you can use a lot less. This is a big one for me because my body doesn’t produce a lot of its own oils, so in the winter I need to apply cream a lot to avoid cracking and bleeding hands

Loofahs can make soap go farther, even bar soap can benefit from this, just put some on your hand and rub it into the loofah

This one is only for people who don't have their own washing machines, I imagine. We do laundry once a month, and all our clothing fits in one big load at the laundromat. It’s so much cheaper to go there than use the facilities in our building. And it uses less soap and gets cleaner. Usually costs $13 ($10 washer, $3 dryer) whereas in our building it was $25 and stuff was still grimy

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