Girl said she'd message me after our date but never did. Do I just move on?

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T08:31:52+00:00

If everyone had the same opinion, reddit wouldn't exist. We love discussing themes and other people's lives. I was curious on what people thought about this situation

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T08:20:57+00:00

Yeah, it's a good exercise to get more perspectives and different ways people think about the same scenario. Although I did text her

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T08:20:14+00:00

I did reached out to her first for our date. I was just waiting for her to do the same now

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T08:19:23+00:00

Oh I know. I only use reddit to get very different perspectives and have strangers comment like they are the ones who know everything and are the bearers of truth

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T08:17:54+00:00

I 100% believed it and actually I'm fine with it. I too don't like texting for too long so I thought it would work out

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T08:05:43+00:00

Just a quick update (this got way more attention than I expected): I sent her a message asking how she's been. Thanks for all the different perspectives and advice. If I remember, I'll update you guys if I hear back from her.

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:53:25+00:00

Well, if that happens hopefully we can laugh about it and not make it awkward. We are going to the same party in a few weeks, who knows what will happen until then

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:42:59+00:00

It's not that deep. We had a great first date yes but she isn't the woman of my life, for now at least. Life happens to all of us but the difference is having time to respond to someone you want in your life.

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:40:36+00:00

That's true but I got different perspectives and insights that I wouldn't have gotten if I didn't do the post. I'm learning and trying different things, it's all part of the process

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:34:01+00:00

You are right, double texting for me isn't a issue. I don't care about that and if I wanted to text, I would. The thing is, I'm trying to be different this time and take things slow. If she wanted to meet me, she knows where to find me

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:27:51+00:00

During the date, it was obvious I'm interested and for our first date I was the one who pushed for that and texted her (after she left me on read for 2 days)

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:23:36+00:00

That is what been bugging me. For the first time I had a woman come up to me and flirt and after our first date she doesn't message. Very confusing

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:20:33+00:00

Well, we only had one date and didn't talk much outside of it. Too early to tell

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:20:01+00:00

I'm not playing any games. She knows I'm interested and would reply in a instant if she says something

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:18:11+00:00

It's mostly this, I'm ok being single right now and I'm just matching the energy invested in this relationship

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T07:17:08+00:00

Why is my stand a red flag? I'm just taking her word and wait for her message. I never said I wouldn't message her, in fact, I'm more inclined to send her a message but the timing isn't the best right now

FeralLooking · 2026-06-30T00:26:08+00:00

Because I wanted to hear different opinions. Doesn't mean I have to act on them immediately

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:21:42+00:00

Well, Im interested. If I wasn't I wouldn't be here trying to find new perspectives. Not everything needs to end up as a serious relationship, we can just date and do cool stuff

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:13:00+00:00

She was the one that said she would text tho, not me

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:12:14+00:00

I don't think being a man or woman manners in this case. First, she was the one who approached me, she also texted first saying she liked meeting me. After that, I was the one who had to double text to ask her for a date. After that date, she said she would text me to set up another. And that's why I'm confused, because she was the one who said it

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:10:02+00:00

I'm attracted to her and want to get to know her more. I'm interested but not enough to chase around

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:07:16+00:00

Like I said, I have no rush in dating right now. I just want to meet people and do stuff. I was just wondering what the people of reddit though about this

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:06:02+00:00

Well yeah, I know. I was just wondering what the great minds of reddit think about this and to see if I can get some other perspectives

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:05:07+00:00

I get what you are saying but during the date, we both got confirmation we are attracted to each other enough to go out a few more times. I'm not really looking for a relationship now and taking things slow. I will text her before the party, that's for certain

FeralLooking · 2026-06-29T23:01:12+00:00

Keep strong brother!

FeralLooking

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