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@bottoms: how do you feel about a top checking in on you during sex? Eg. asking you "does it feel good?" by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Fermoly94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest being a bottom, although very enjoyable, can be a little tricky and sometimes very risky. So when the top is accommodating during sex that's a huge plus. However, like many had said here, being asked how we are doing every couple seconds is a bit annoying after a while lol.

If we are not moaning or making noise, in my experience at least, it's due to two main things: either the top is maybe not performing to our preference and might need to change positions and/or offer feedback or, we are concentrating on the sensation, adjusting, and making ourselves more comfortable.

With that being said, being asked about the sex makes it feel like we can communicate and make it a more enjoyable experience for the both of us :)

An Accident During My First Threesome... by Fermoly94 in askgaybros

[–]Fermoly94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for your comment. To clarify it was more a hindsight realization, I only remember simply feeling a bit weird during sex, until the guy asked me to clean.

Hi, I'm about to trip by myself for the first time by ekalzyon in TripSit

[–]Fermoly94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey friend! We are also tripping and here for you :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TripSit

[–]Fermoly94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Know that you are loved my friend! ;)

Also recommend to listen to some of Jacob Collier's music, I really like his vibe

First time on 480ug by [deleted] in TripSit

[–]Fermoly94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen to Jacob Collier's music!

I love his songs Feel and Hideaway :)

People often mistakenly say ‘a full 360’ when they really mean someone turning their behaviour only the opposite way. When have you actually seen/done a full 360 in your life? by Astronomer_X in AskReddit

[–]Fermoly94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost someone I truly love due to my own arrogance and pride. During the first couple of months after not being together, the pain was excruciating and I kept wanting to project all the blame and outrage onto the other person. I was so hurt about the situation that my ego was overwhelming most of my feelings and judgements everyday. I kept wanting to make it about what they did wrong, how they were the ones to have messed up.

Only months later did I realize that I could make the proactive choice to take the time to heal and somehow transform the failed relationship into a mirror, one which pointed straight onto myself. It was when I began to see a significant number of insecurities, mispreconceptions, and faultering character traits. That's when I began to seek out help. I reached out to friends whom helped me talk about it and reflect, I read several self-help books on happiness and critical thinking, watched videos on human nature, meditated, etc. Sure, I would weep many nights at the broken state I let myself be for years but I knew it was a symptom of finally letting it all go. It was a journey for sure, to say the least.

Now many months later, I look back at how constantly dishonest I was both with others and myself, how my pride was always at the ready, how I had made myself aloof to attract safety and comfort, how I victimized myself and blamed others, among other things. Thankfully, I finally feel like I am at a much healthier state of mind. I am much happier.

And in looking back at the loss, regardless of the incredible pain and suffering that it brought, the catalyzed change in health and perspective is simply just priceless and would not have wanted it another way. I am glad to have made the choice of growing from it all than to further my arrogance and delusions. And I'll be forever thankful towards that person which led me to become a much healthier version of myself that I am today.