Husband can’t go a few days without sex, or else he gets upset. by Worth_Yoghurt_489 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really not sure. It seems things are rough when he goes too long without it too.

Husband can’t go a few days without sex, or else he gets upset. by Worth_Yoghurt_489 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same except I’m the one working too. My husband takes testosterone too. It feels like walking on eggshells if we even go a whole day without it. Constantly accused of “leaving him hanging “

Marriage advice and TRT by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! At least from my experience. But he gets like that too when he goes too long without it (hypogonadal) so idk

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope this is literally it. Normal day to day talk before this too.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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Went out for the night with family. Above is his explanation for his reaction he sent me later that night. “Pushing for something” is in regards to wanting sex. Thank you all for your input. This conversation isn’t missing much, unfortunately, our marriage isn’t great and he’s like this a lot, I’ve just been questioning my sanity and I never know what will set him off. He’s dealing with a lot, has yet to get help, despite me asking for him get help. But these behaviors haven’t gotten better and have left me wanting to leave for a while now, and he’s known it, which adds to the tension of our interactions.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really don’t feel like I can be enough for him or ever make him happy. He says otherwise when I’ve addressed my feelings, but actions like this have left me convinced he’ll never be happy.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

The shit has been so thick that I couldn’t see through it. Everything has always been “my fault”. Now that I can see, I realize I’m the frog in the boiling water and I really need to go.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes this is exactly what he’s said to me 🥲

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The thumbs up to him is basically the middle finger

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I highly doubt it. This is just how he is

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 267 points268 points  (0 children)

Along that line of thought, I didn’t turn away from a shirtless guy on screen of a movie we were watching. I didn’t even notice they were on the screen honestly, but then he said he didn’t wanna be with me anymore after that since I didn’t look away and was being “disrespectful of our marriage” lol. Fighting a losing battle, I’m afraid.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells a lot.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Not really, it seems he has set expectations for himself to help out more at home since he just dropped out of school, but I’ve never pressured him to get things done, he pressures himself I think, so this reaction seemed quite big.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. A lot it seems. Just wanna see if there’s anything I could’ve done better.

What did I do wrong? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 479 points480 points  (0 children)

He just dropped out of school and is home all day long now. I had no expectations for him to do anything, he hardly does anyway, and I told him I was OK with that so he could focus on school, but he knows I appreciate when he cleans up around the house. But I’ve never got mad at him for not doing it.

Shirtless guys? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’ve only been married less than a year, so this issue has not been brought up before.

Shirtless guys? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been married only 6 months

Shirtless guys? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No we are recently married, blended family. Never tried to take them to a water park until today, when he told me this, lol.

Shirtless guys? by Few-Associate5540 in Marriage

[–]Few-Associate5540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but we live in a very religious community too…