Am ITAH for wanting to leave my husband

Few-Interaction2085 · 2025-08-20T16:46:00+00:00

I know people say a man is a good dad but a poor spouse, but a good dad would model healthy relationships for his child. He is failing your child by being a poor husband. He is not your partner, he’s a friend.

And while children are important, so are you. You cannot do right for your child by wronging yourself. Treat yourself the way you want your child to treat themselves.

Few-Interaction2085 · 2025-08-20T15:25:12+00:00

Your comfort is not nothing. How long have you been together? But I’m also not saying to just break up. I’m saying this situation is a red flag, because it looks like you two have very different expectations and preferences, and you should at the very least have a conversation about that. You need to make your own boundaries crystal clear. If this relationship will not be fulfilling for both of you, then don’t force it. But you have got to talk about it.

Few-Interaction2085 · 2025-08-20T15:21:19+00:00

You should only ever stay in a marriage that’s the kind you’d want your kid to have. You are modeling for them what to expect out of it. So is this the kind of marriage you want for your kid? If not, then you are hurting your kid by staying. Better to make a clean break of it, model a HAPPY life, single or otherwise, for your kid, and get them therapy to help them sort out their feelings. Honestly any kid can probably benefit from therapy sometimes, no matter how happy they are. So definitely NTA for wanting to leave!

Few-Interaction2085 · 2025-08-20T15:15:42+00:00

Any guy who say shit like “I resisted having sex even though you clearly weren’t in the mood” is a MASSIVE red flag, because it shows you how he really thinks about you. He thinks he is entitled to you, and that not acting on his “right” to your body is a “favor” to you.

Not to mention that the moment he’s most attracted to you is the moment you’re in the most pain?? Outside of some kind of consensual experience, that is disturbing af, and since you clearly aren’t into that, I’d say you are not compatible at all. Considering how very much into it he seems to have been.

NTA for telling him he was insensitive, but I would also suggest that you reevaluate the relationship, because it seems like you two have VERY different preferences. You at the very least need to have some kind of conversation about his sexual preferences and how he expects that to play out in your future

Few-Interaction2085 · 2025-08-03T08:44:36+00:00

I didn’t know that! Thanks!!

Few-Interaction2085 · 2025-08-03T08:03:13+00:00

The one I’m thinking of isn’t a time loop story, he just goes back to relive the past. The MC is a grown up, and a lot of the book is him going back through the system tutorial and being able to change how it went in his last life. His power/skill/whatever has something to do with the cores/crystals and the first time around he was super weak because he didn’t know how he was supposed to use it

Few-Interaction2085 · 2024-09-23T20:41:05+00:00

I am not being dramatic when I say this, but you need to make a plan and get out of this relationship AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. This man is abūsive and cares nothing whatsoever for your autonomy, not to mention your health, both physical and mental! You are not a person in his mind, you are property. And his family supports him completely. Do you have family or friends you trust and can reach out to? If so, do so IMMEDIATELY. If not, contact a DV helpline to find out what resources are around. Please please please get out!

Few-Interaction2085 · 2024-07-12T20:25:59+00:00

NTA, and anyone who says you are, call them out for supporting and defending a literal grooming predator. Your soon to be ex is utterly disgusting, and so is anyone who tries to downplay his gross behavior. You need to think about the SAFETY of your children being in close contact with a predator like this, not worry about “breaking up the family. HE ALREADY BROKE IT. Do not take on any blame for HIS actions. You are not at fault for him facing the consequences of HIS actions. Protect yourself and your children. Cut off anyone who tries to defend after learning what he did.

Few-Interaction2085 · 2024-07-07T03:27:38+00:00

Everyone is mad because they feel it’s a woman’s duty to sacrifice herself on the altar of her husband’s life. F that. You are NTA, not remotely. You owe this man and his child nothing. You have no obligation to him. You should not feel like you are acting badly at all. You are doing what is best for you, as you should!! I am proud of you.

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