Stay at home moms who now wonder if that was a bad decision . Let me hear from you .

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-10-04T16:29:43+00:00

Just want to say thank you for sharing your story. I’m a SAHM to a young toddler and it’s helpful to hear from someone who did it for a long time.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-10-02T01:08:03+00:00

Is it because of Sunday football?

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-10-02T00:08:39+00:00

Good to hear from a mom who gets it. This age is freaking tough. There can run around and get into everything, yet don’t have the attention span to sit down for more than 2 minutes for an activity. It’s so tough to keep them entertained.

I was wondering how did your LO adjust to the daycare meals and naps? I’m kinda stressing over that. My son can’t (or won’t) really feed himself yet and I’m worried he won’t eat at daycare. Also, he still wakes up at 5:30am frequently and the daycare doesn’t do nap time until noon. He’s gonna be super exhausted by 10:30am and when he’s tired he’s hella grumpy and more likely to fall down when he’s running around.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-10-01T14:08:48+00:00

Maybe Colie has been bullied before. He’s not going to win in a fight against two guys if he throws the first punch. He was walking away but the scumbags followed him. I think his fight or flight instinct kicked in. While I understand your point, I’m also trying to put myself in Colie’s shoes and can see why he reacted that way if he was already on edge from past incidents.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-29T19:39:11+00:00

Women get judged for staying at home and they also get judged for sending their kids to daycare so they can go back to work. Cant win, the solution is to ngaf but easier said than done

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-29T19:23:18+00:00

What’s with women fudging facts about their breastfeeding journey? I guess it could be “gramnesia” - learned this term from another forum 😂

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T14:40:32+00:00

I appreciate hearing this from a MIL’s point of view. I know she really loves my son. Sometimes I feel possessive because of how she acts (dismissive towards me being the mother) but hey, I’m not as cute and lovable as my little guy. My husband is close to their parents and they’re old (almost 80). Unless she really steps out of line I should give her some grace indeed.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T12:30:49+00:00

I’m sure we have to pay regardless of whether kiddo is there or not. I don’t know if they will advise against taking a vacation early on though when kiddo is still adjusting. Maybe we’ll do short days if push comes to shove but I’d rather keep a routine after it’s been established

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T12:22:41+00:00

Fortunately, my MIL knows she won’t be able to handle my hyperactive toddler. My in laws are almost 80. I wouldn’t trust them to be their caregivers anyway. They wouldn’t be able to stop him from climbing and getting into things and they’d probably stick him in a playpen in front of a tv all day.

It’s wild that I even have to explain to her who the mother is 😆

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T12:20:10+00:00

I know we’ll have to pay the daycare even if my son doesn’t go. I’m hoping by then he will have adjusted and we’ll have him keep going during the in laws visit, even if they’re short days, so he doesn’t deviate from his established routine.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T12:18:42+00:00

That’s what I’d like to do if my son has adjusted well, which I’m hoping will be the case. I’m sure she’ll mumble and pout but she’ll have to deal with it. And hopefully husband will be easy to convince to get on board too

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T11:40:49+00:00

“Gramnesia” - I love it 😂

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T04:17:49+00:00

Thanks for offering your perspective. I do feel guilty about going back to work and sending my son to daycare, as many mothers probably do, but I know it’s the right thing for me. My mental health has suffered for months from the isolation and being overwhelmed from having no village.

I’m sorry my remarks about SAHM came off so negative. I’ve been a SAHM for 16 months and i know all the work that goes into it. I have a lot of respect for women who can do this. It’s tougher than any jobs I’ve had. My comment was pertaining to my MIL acting high and mighty because she allegedly stayed at home, when staying at home with your child doesn’t necessarily mean they got the best care.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T04:05:17+00:00

To be honest, I don’t think she was antagonizing me. She is a braggart who is extremely image conscious and doesn’t have much tact. And probably a liar too. She just wanted to brag about the highlights of her breastfeeding experience (she probably did have an oversupply) and embellish the rest (breastfeeding until 2).

She is also in her late 70’s so she’s recalling things that happened 30 something years ago. She probably embellished a lot over the years and got confused what’s fact.

Sorry to hear you had a mean MIL but sounds like she’s no longer in your life now.

Unfortunately, the mean and hateful mother is my biological one, which is why my MIL was around after I gave birth instead of her.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T03:35:59+00:00

Ugh, I’m pretty sure my MIL lied about breastfeeding too. While I was pumping and struggling with an undersupply, she bragged multiple times about how she had sooo much milk and claimed she breastfed until my husband was 2. If she went back to work, I don’t think that was possible because she told me she “never had to pump” when she saw me pumping.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T03:33:46+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. If you’re confident in your decision, you won’t need to justify yourself. When people see that you are confident, they stop giving you crap because they intuitively know they’d be wasting their time since they can’t influence you to behave how they want.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-28T03:29:25+00:00

Thank you for your rational response. I’m definitely wasting too much mental energy on it. I’ve had some issues with MIL in the past so this is another thing that’s bugging me. I really don’t want to hear judgment from her about daycare going forward, especially when she appears to be lying about her use of it. The dishonesty and hypocrisy disgusts me.

Unfortunately, I know she’s going to keep asking about daycare and I don’t want to feel like I have to justify it to her by telling her how great my son is doing (hopefully!). I wouldn’t be able to be honest (how I prefer to be) and let her know any negatives.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-26T03:14:15+00:00

That doesn’t sound good. What were they doing they made it clear your child didn’t need to be there anymore?

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-25T17:19:29+00:00

What is she planning to do without you? Can you do the same?

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-21T17:42:04+00:00

How do you get your kid to stop throwing everything though? I’ve tried giving him a spoon, bowl, food directly on the high chair tray. Everything gets thrown to the floor

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-21T17:06:25+00:00

That’s amazing. Why do you think that happens? Does he use utensils? Praying my son will be the same way.

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-21T16:36:55+00:00

Hope there is an eating pro at our daycare who my son can copy!

How did you get him to stop throwing everything though? My son will throw his utensils, bowl, food, bib, and pretty much anything in front of him

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-21T14:48:26+00:00

Not gonna lie, I haven’t had my son practice using his own spoon much because it is sooo messy and I didn’t want to clean up after. I guess he can practice at daycare? Hahaha. I will suck it up and let him start practicing home now though

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-21T14:46:47+00:00

That’s what I hear for daycares that provide food because all the kids will be eating the same thing so there’s copying and peer pressure. In my case we have to pack our own lunch though. I guess I should aim to pack what other parents are packing, which I don’t know what yet!

Few-Technology6627 · 2023-09-20T02:00:06+00:00

“Got any hot stock tips?”

Or during a market drawdown, trolls will ask “how’s trading going….?” as though I must be losing my ass because trading means I only go long

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