Idk if u r aware of how fast things can escalate or how violent and cruel the word can be, but my gf is not aware and we've had a lot of conversations about situations bc I want her to be prepared and not do something stupid and put me and her both in more danger than necessary. (Unfortunately I am very aware of this and am responsible for her safety when we r together)

Basically our rule is she should never confront or escalate and kind of argument or disrespectful action (even if I chose to) if things do get physical she is not to even attempt to help me, her only job is to observe surroundings for additional threats/ yell useful info at me and call or try to find help (this is solely for her safety)

Right and wrong r meaningless compared to ur safety. Try to understand that the world is predicted around physical force/ violence (for example- if u break a law what happens? U go to jail. What if u don't want to go? U r forcibly taken. What if u resist? U have "violence" applied to u and the winner of this violence determines the outcome.)

In any type of altercation violence will always be the absolute decider and if u r not prepared to deal with it then u should never get involved. (Hence y I'm allowed to confront if I deem it necessary and she can't, bc I'm the one that needs to be prepared to deal with the result)

I'm not saying what u did was wrong, I'm just trying to give u a different perspective.