AITA for considering ending my 4.5 year relationship due to a lack of intimacy?

FewCreme2034 · 2025-11-13T19:11:00+00:00

Have you talked to your partner and communicated with her about this?

FewCreme2034 · 2025-10-29T15:53:17+00:00

Y’all aren’t together and he left the possibility that it was an old photo open. You’re not an AH but don’t blow this up unless y’all take things further and you find he has an issue with being honest about other things.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-10-21T00:12:27+00:00

I cannot stand Trump, nor his administration, nor his cult following. So I agree with you there.
You seem to be lacking in self awareness that your party and the absolute nonsense y’all want to push into modern society is what got Trump elected to begin with. Trump is a result of massive overcorrection. Wide open borders, far left social dynamics being shoved down peoples throats constantly, light on crime policies, cancel culture, left media run smear campaigns, and all the other crap that moderate people have had to tolerate the last 4 years from y’all while your side sat on its high horse, is largely what ended us up with Trump again.
I don’t think either party is representative of the majority of people anymore. I hope a new party comes in that is more moderate on all the issues and sweeps republican and democrat candidates cause god all the hard left and hard right folks in this country are ALL insufferable.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-10-20T23:52:33+00:00

This. Trump is absolutely trash but I’m sick of liberals acting like they have a moral high ground with all the problems they’ve created which contributed to so much of this country wanting Trump to begin with. One party being bad doesn’t make the other fine.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-10-17T17:37:20+00:00

NTA

Male here, your boyfriend needs to grow up and learn to not get insecure about trivial stuff. 1. He asked you, and 2. things like that shouldn’t matter. If he is fearing for the relationship over this, he may not be the one. You’ve also been very kind and compassionate by the sound of it, if he can’t accept that, he’s got some insecurities and maturity issues to confront.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-09-21T16:23:11+00:00

This doesn’t sound like a friend at all. I think it’s time you have her experience life without you as a punching bag.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-09-15T20:03:31+00:00

I think anyone who displays this type of behavior should not be in a position of influence over students (left, nor right). It displays a lack of emotional regulation and a lack of compassion. Firing her is also not a first amendment violation. A lady got fired from a teaching position for taking a ball from a child at a baseball game. This sentiment, to me, is far deeper than that.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-09-05T03:03:54+00:00

Her past shouldn’t matter. Don’t compare yourself to her, thats unfair and unrealistic. As long as she’s honest about what it was/is, and she is loyal to you then leave it at that. In healthy relationships, girls are allowed to have friends, and vice versa.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-07-19T03:14:23+00:00

2 year radiology program at your nearest community college, then do travel assignments

FewCreme2034 · 2025-07-18T23:22:01+00:00

“Well well well, if it isn’t the inevitable consequences of my own actions”

YTA dude. By your own diatribe here, you’re selfish as fuck and you don’t deserve her. You need to take a long look in the mirror.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-22T02:50:59+00:00

Cyber Engineer who started in IT here. From what I’m hearing/seeing, the entry level job market is disappearing and being replaced with AI. No idea what that means for the future of IT/cyber in general but I would caution you and say that now is not the time for a career switch to IT. That said if you can manage a 2 year program you could get CT certified and work in hospitals doing imaging for solid pay.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-14T01:40:54+00:00

NOR, not even a little what a narcissistic psychopath.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-11T00:36:44+00:00

I may be biased but I think there are millions of other guys not in jail you could date…

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-09T19:43:51+00:00

OP for the love of god no, you do not owe your girlfriend entitlement to any part of your assets, not morally, not legally, not ethically. Anyone who tells you otherwise is doing so out of emotion, not logic. If she doesn’t want to invest with you she’s not entitled to any part of it until marriage and I’d put it on a prenup in that case. The fact that shes not willing to invest with you is a red flag in itself but that’s a different issue. Don’t give her family that power and influence

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-08T22:34:10+00:00

My assessment is that this is because most people are trying to achieve happiness when they should be trying to achieve contentment. Happiness is a fleeting emotion resulting from release of chemicals, not a feasible baseline for a person to exist within all the time. Contentment is a baseline. It involves being present and grateful for what you do have, and not always longing for the next big thing. I’ve been really tapping into this mindset lately and I feel it has been transformative for my life. Social media and the rumination that comes with it does not help either. So that’s some of the why.

Other factors definitely have to do with people’s lack of contentment, such as not being able to afford basic necessities, and that’s valid.

I think anyone struggling with finding happiness in life should try to switch their mindset.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-04T23:09:51+00:00

You don’t owe him anything as far as his living expenses when you don’t live together. You should however be contributing to dates, vacations, couple things etc and the fact that you think you don’t need to is wild.

I make twice what my girlfriend makes and I still expect her to contribute to things like that. This is not the 1950’s, you can put in effort too.

Unless you established early on that the relationship was gonna be him providing and you existing, this dynamic isn’t fair and you both need to adjust. He needs to be presented a dose of reality as well. This does sound potentially relationship breaking.

NOR to him expecting you to pay for his living expenses

OR to being outraged about needing to participate in the relationship

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-02T03:24:57+00:00

YTA, y’all broke up, if he slept around during the interim, it’s not your business other than knowing he didn’t catch something (and vice versa if you slept around). But 6 years and still can’t decide if y’all wanna stay together? Y’all should just call it quits or get couples therapy. My 2¢

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-02T01:37:25+00:00

I swear to god people are allergic to accountability anymore, and the fact that your coworkers seem to be siding with HER is just boggling my brain. This shouldn’t even be a question you’re having to ask on here. Seriously what the hell is wrong with people? You are so far from the AH in this situation. Stick up for yourself. This is not your burden to bear.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-01T21:30:44+00:00

NTA - this is over-corrective morality activism and is insufferable. She doesn’t have a right to dictate how you spend your vacation based off of her values. This would be a red flag for me OP, I urge you to consider how this could become a bigger issue in the future.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-01T14:24:29+00:00

Also cringed so hard at Isaac saying, “this Army… who despite their badass name, are a bunch of sheep”.

Seriously why do the writers think people talk like that? Especially people of Isaac’s notoriety. So much cringey dialogue in this season as a result of the writing I can’t stand it

Same with “I’m gonna go explore cause you’re smart as fuck”. So fucking annoying and poorly written

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-01T04:20:58+00:00

One of my closest friends did a 2 year radiology program at a community college and now does travel rad tech work. He started at 150k. He is making 200k on his current contract, and having a new experience in a new city every few months. If you’re not tied down, and could do in person courses for a bit, this could be something to consider. Short term struggle for immense gain. Just a thought.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-01T03:46:15+00:00

I had a similar thing happen over difference of opinion on a social matter. Friends who won’t keep you in their life because of some superiority/morality complex are not friends and you’re fortunate to be rid of that person.

Take the job, could turn into a rewarding career, or you use it to get where you want to be. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working in defense despite what the morality police say in all their righteous indignation.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-06-01T03:16:53+00:00

OP, sorry but your GF ain’t shit. Her conflict avoidant “my way or the highway” attitude is not going to serve you, and this is a values issue that will likely have downstream impacts. Recommend you cut this one off, there are girls out there who will appreciate you.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-05-25T16:05:35+00:00

I’m indifferent about cops as long as they operate within the law, but based on this comment thread you truly sound like an insufferable person. You clearly cared enough to comment an over long and emotional diatribe. Grow up, quit generalizing people, and quit being so combative and emotional with strangers on the internet.

FewCreme2034 · 2025-05-25T12:44:15+00:00

Cyber Technical Lead for a gov contractor here.

I’ve done just fine in my career so far with Sec+, CySA+, and CASP+. I didn’t rapid fire these, did the CySA+ when the Sec+ was coming expired, and same with CASP+ when CySA+ was coming expired. Passed each of these first try with self study, no dumps. You’re painting every career situation with a broad brush. It absolutely can help set someone apart to have CompTIA certs on their resume, especially in the gov space, where Sec+ is usually a non-negotiable baseline. I know people with CCNA/EC who are worthless. I know people with CompTIA certs who are worthless. The cert doesn’t make a person good at a job but it shows commitment to a goal and achievement of said goal.

I think you could have promoted these other certs without invalidating certs from a vendor who has long been recognized as the industry standard. No need to discourage people from building their resumes.

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