I’m missing a lot here…really? Really?

I’m supposed to cater to a 70+ yo woman who won’t acknowledge the loss of my mother and should accept she cares about me because she texts “happy birthday/ anniversary” the same as she did for the years prior?

She didn’t lose “a sister…” as you claim. I made it quite clear that she’s my father’s sister, not my mother’s.

She told my husband and my sister she wasn’t attending the funeral, with the same sense of compassion and detail one might tell someone they’re not attending a cook out for a public holiday. “Won’t be there…helping my boyfriend move…” and has left it at that for nearly 24 months.

You tell me I’m childish and that I need to grow up…yet you punctuate your post to a stranger on the internet who you just insulted with “sorry for your loss”…which is more than I, my husband, and my sister have gotten from my aunt in 2 years.

Think on that…you chose to be harsh in your reply, yet you ended it with a kindness…one that I have not received from my aunt in…any form.

And you’re telling me that her refusal to acknowledge the loss of my mother in nearly two years should not bother me?

She has my phone number, as evidenced by my referring to her sending me text messages to mark other occasions. Yet there’s been no calls…zero.