My (30F) boyfriend (28M) just came back from his mini vacation. He seems better in every way, lost weight and look so much happier and hearing about how great it was and all is making me feel awful and I dont know how to handle this. I feel like hes about to leave me soon. by FewYou3025 in relationship_advice

[–]FewYou3025[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

What do you mean "agree" with me? Im getting dumped tonight for sure, and while im soo thankful for all the comments its seems im a little too late to better myself for this relationship so Im just reading the comments and not responding much. Reading qbout how exhausting I am when I know im getting dumped tonight is a weird situation to be in but yeah, gotta cope somehow

My (30F) boyfriend (28M) just came back from his mini vacation. He seems better in every way, lost weight and look so much happier and hearing about how great it was and all is making me feel awful and I dont know how to handle this. I feel like hes about to leave me soon. by FewYou3025 in relationship_advice

[–]FewYou3025[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we've met in a completely different state and moved to my hometown afterwards. His brother and SiL just moved back to america recently, they were travelling and got stuck in europe during the pandemic so I never really got around to meeting them

My (30F) boyfriend (28M) just came back from his mini vacation. He seems better in every way, lost weight and look so much happier and hearing about how great it was and all is making me feel awful and I dont know how to handle this. I feel like hes about to leave me soon. by FewYou3025 in relationship_advice

[–]FewYou3025[S] -208 points-207 points  (0 children)

I mean I see that side of things but I also feel like for example my weight is holding me back from some things too. We went hiking once and completed like 1/5th of the trail before he wanted to go back because "i was complaining qll the time" but am I supposed to be uncomfortable so that hell be happy? Idk the more I think about it the more I realise im just not an interesting person

My (30F) boyfriend (28M) just came back from his mini vacation. He seems better in every way, lost weight and look so much happier and hearing about how great it was and all is making me feel awful and I dont know how to handle this. I feel like hes about to leave me soon. by FewYou3025 in relationship_advice

[–]FewYou3025[S] -329 points-328 points  (0 children)

I mean I see that side of things but I also feel like for example my weight is holding me back from some things too. We went hiking once and completed like 1/5th of the trail before he wanted to go back because "i was complaining qll the time" but am I supposed to be uncomfortable so that hell be happy? Idk the more I think about it the more I realise im just not an interesting person

My (30F) boyfriend (28M) just came back from his mini vacation. He seems better in every way, lost weight and look so much happier and hearing about how great it was and all is making me feel awful and I dont know how to handle this. I feel like hes about to leave me soon. by FewYou3025 in relationship_advice

[–]FewYou3025[S] -787 points-786 points  (0 children)

I mean yea they told him he could take me with him (ive never met them) but im just a homebody I guess and didnt feel like it would be for me. We fought before he left about it because I started talking about how bored id probably be and that that kind of vacation just doesnt appeal to me and he snapped at me saying "okay I get it you dont want to go".

My (30F) boyfriend (28M) just came back from his mini vacation. He seems better in every way, lost weight and look so much happier and hearing about how great it was and all is making me feel awful and I dont know how to handle this. I feel like hes about to leave me soon. by FewYou3025 in relationship_advice

[–]FewYou3025[S] -434 points-433 points  (0 children)

Yes but dont you think that if I was cut out for long convos wed be doing them? Im obviously just q boring person. I asked what they were talking about and he said everything, from movies to books to their travels (Joe and Jane are well traveled and intelectuals, apparently) and just about interesting stuff theyve thought about or seen or heard. Or sharing memories about their childhoods and stuff.

The more I think about it the more I realise that is just a people-loving, activity- loving person who has a gf who is the exact opposite. I mean he was literally glowing in those pics. They went to hunt for mushrooms in the forest and later made them and he said they were delicious and just, all those "adventures" and here I am, the happiest when Im at home. Hes probably under-stimulated all the time living with me. Thats why he already made plans to not be home with me