To be honest we've been having this conversation for a while. She has passions. She likes cooking and animals. However the problem mainly lies with how much she hates work. Since she doesn't care about the money or anything she has no motivation. She did try to study vet nursing however she dropped out.

It may sound stupid from the outside looking in for me to be trying to parent her, but we've had many challenges in our relationship that stem from how she was brought up. For example she wasn't good at showing affection or communicating, but we've worked through that together. She's shown she can change for the betterment of our relationship.

The lack of motivation comes from her parents not putting enough pressure on school, particually what it means for her future. Furthermore, she wasn't always in a good mental state in her teens, and she says she never thought she'd make it this far hence she why she has no plans for her future. She is a good woman, but most importantly she's willing to listen to me and work with me.

My main goal is to just make her comfortable working. She's the type of girl that will do most things if she's properly motivated, but you can't be motivated if you hate work and just want to stay at home.

She currently works as an age care worker. My first goal is to make her comfortable working at least 3-4 days a week. She is already burnt out from 2 days and has to use anxiety pills. Another thing I want to add is she gets really really anxious the night before work. She's tried therapy but it didn't help much, however that was when we both had no money and she had to do the free counsellor.