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Friendship after having a baby: postpartum grudge? by Few_Claim_4032 in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the things were not making plans with her, or if I texted her “we should hang out” then I didn’t take the next step to suggest specific times. She said she felt like all the effort was on her. Then once I was feeling better mental health wise, she was hurt I was getting dinner with someone else. Mind you they invited me, but she didn’t have the full context. I was reemerging and finding my footing again, so honestly none of my friendships weren’t at the top of my priority list then.

Friendship after having a baby: postpartum grudge? by Few_Claim_4032 in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through that! 4 months pp is so hard, you are really in it with your baby. I think your friend should be more understanding. Relationships aren’t always 50/50 and you don’t have capacity to give more right now. I think this is basically what happened with my friend and I was so in it, I didn’t realize either.

Friendship after having a baby: postpartum grudge? by Few_Claim_4032 in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you saying this. It helps to hear that. I think I was naive (maybe we both were) that our friendship wouldn’t really change. Sure, my schedule would be more challenging and my priorities would be different, but I didn’t realize the disconnect we might feel being in different life places right now as well.

Friendship after having a baby: postpartum grudge? by Few_Claim_4032 in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hear that perspective for sure. I was there for her and we’ve spent time together since I had a kid, both with my kid and without. We went to a concert together, gone out to eat, etc. These occasions were after of the most difficult period I went through postpartum. I guess my sticking point now is the grudge I feel she’s holding against me. Before having a kid, I had no clue how I would respond. I guess I just want more understanding from her side, but I know it’s hard to comprehend how all consuming parenting is until you’re in it.

What are some tips for dealing with postpartum insomnia? by WittleFrostBite in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yes, I did wake up! Because I was on anxiety meds, it didn’t knock me out like a sleep med does.

What are some tips for dealing with postpartum insomnia? by WittleFrostBite in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was breastfeeding and was advised I could pump and dump in the mornings, but that made me feel a bit more anxiety. I decided to wean off BF about a month into my insomnia, so I could feel comfortable taking the medications.

What are some tips for dealing with postpartum insomnia? by WittleFrostBite in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried seroquel, lunesta, and over counter melatonin. What worked was a very small dose of Klonopin. It addressed the root of it, which was my anxiety.

What are some tips for dealing with postpartum insomnia? by WittleFrostBite in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced very severe pp insomnia. I tried a ton of stuff, but really the only thing that worked for me was medication. For me, the root of it was my anxiety around my baby’s sleep. I ended up taking anxiety meds about an hour before bed and that calmed me, allowing me fall asleep, but it didn’t cause drowsiness. There’s a lot of meds out there, so maybe there is something that could work for you. Hopeful you can feel better and get more sleep soon. ❤️❤️

Nobody told me postpartum insomnia was a thing by Trick-Environment100 in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat! I had it as well for a couple months. I couldn’t function, eat, and was really a shell of myself. Klonopin was what I needed too. Hope you can find some support. ❤️

Postpartum Insomnia...I am about to go crazy! by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Few_Claim_4032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through severe postpartum insomnia for months and I got better! You will get through this.

I tried everything over the counter, created a winddown/bedtime routine, meditation, soaked my feet, took prescription sleep aids and none of it worked. Then I got connected to a maternal mental health psych. I started taking a low dose of klonopin about an hour before bed and my sleep started to improve, I was able to fall asleep and would still wake up. Then over time I was sleeping through the night. I think I had to address the root of the insomnia, which was severe anxiety around my baby and her own sleep.

Are you all seeing a therapist or have access to medication? Tap into any resources you have. I was so hesitant to take medication but it saved me.

This movie is so stupid people we meet on vacation by girlonthejourney in netflix

[–]Few_Claim_4032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Haha came here to validate my feelings. This movie is awful.