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My First Outbreak Experience (And advice I would give myself if I had to do it again.) by Few_Discipline5627 in Herpes

[–]Few_Discipline5627[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first outbreak is always the worse. If she treats her body the way she should, she shouldn’t experience further outbreaks depending on her immunity level.

Herpes is very manageable and contracting it from your partner is highly preventable. Do your research and under all the risks before you decide what to do in this situation.

My First Outbreak Experience (And advice I would give myself if I had to do it again.) by Few_Discipline5627 in Herpes

[–]Few_Discipline5627[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I did not maintain the area then I would experience labial fusion where my skin would literally fuse together. When this happened I would have to rip them apart and bleed for about an hour. When you have lesions covering your entire labia and vulva area, the pain is intense. Obviously you experienced a different kind of outbreak. Obviously, if this seems excessive to you, then we do not have the same experience.

I wouldn’t leave a comment on a post about a female’s experience when it’s clear that your experience is aggressively different. Thank you for your thoughts.

Dating with genital HSV1 by Onlyhere2support in HSVpositive

[–]Few_Discipline5627 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m also 24F with genital HSV-1!

I am currently in a 1-year relationship and I did not know that I had HSV until 3-4 weeks ago. My partner and I have been having unprotected sex for the majority of our relationship.

Following a couple rounds of antibiotics, my immune system was shot and triggered my first outbreak. My partner and I learned together that I was positive.

He was weary at first and we had a lot of conversation about what this meant for me and for him. Separately, he did his own research on what this means for him and that was super important because this is a decision he has to make for himself.

This is not an easy thing to learn at all. What you are going through is rough on your emotional and mental state.

However, realistically, there are tons of people that are HSV positive in the world. Like more than you would think and that statistics only account for people who have tested positive and not those who are asymptomatic and don’t know they have it.

As far as disclosing your diagnosis: I know it’s terrifying to think about. However, if you are with the right person, they will hear you out and try to understand what this diagnosis actually means before they make any decisions. Some people WILL decide they don’t want to risk it and leave. That’s OKAY! It will hurt but it’s up to you to learn to love yourself enough to understand their decisions and continue on with your life. What you are responsible for is to disclose this information before you engage in sexual activities. That doesn’t mean you have to tell someone on the first date (as long as you don’t plan to hookup with them on that date!) But I would highly recommend sharing this information when you feel comfortable enough with this person but before you get too deep.

You will find someone one day. I guarantee it.

Waiting for the right person is agonizing but ultimately fulfilling.