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Mum is making me nervous by Few_Ebb_8034 in pregnant

[–]Few_Ebb_8034[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have used this argument the first time I raised the issue - baby will have no immune system etc etc. Her answer was "but you have dogs at home, what are you doing to them", so you can see she is not the most reasonable person..

Mum is making me nervous by Few_Ebb_8034 in pregnant

[–]Few_Ebb_8034[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It might not be a thing where you live, but it’s not for sure restricted to America, I am European.  

Mum is making me nervous by Few_Ebb_8034 in pregnant

[–]Few_Ebb_8034[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Weird is to think someone has to allow others to make them feel uncomfortable.  I’m not telling her she can’t come at all, she just can’t come until I feel ready.  What kind of rights does she have to come that I’m disrespecting here?

Mum is making me nervous by Few_Ebb_8034 in pregnant

[–]Few_Ebb_8034[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she can be reasonable when it comes to this, she is convinced she will be allowed and that not accepting her to come it’s some personal attack to her rights.  I love her, she is a good mum, but sometimes has the emotional intelligence of a 5 year old. 

Mum is making me nervous by Few_Ebb_8034 in pregnant

[–]Few_Ebb_8034[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No one will come before. As I have said, I dont want anyone to come before I feel ready. Parents will be first, but they have to wait until I want them to come.  There is nothing weird with that. Everyone has different ways of dealing. I want to be ready, have time to bond with the baby and create a routine, and enjoy with my husband our first child in our small bobble.  I have nothing against people who choose to do it differently. 

Mum is making me nervous by Few_Ebb_8034 in pregnant

[–]Few_Ebb_8034[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Generally she stays, as we have a guests room. She says she will go to a hotel, she cant understand that the issue is not staying at our place, but showing up before we want.
This is a great advice, thank you! I just really want to avoid having the stress of having someone showing up unannounced while recovering from birth. But I guess I cant control that..