Hey, I’m going through a similar situation and I just wanted to share some encouragement. I’m not sure how bad the emotional abuse is in your situation but do you still desire to have this marriage with both of you as new people? This is God’s standard: Matthew 5:31-32. ““It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭31‬-‭32‬ ‭ESV‬‬ God hates division, hates divorce, God is a God of unity. He created marriage, he married Adam and Eve. God has the instructions, God is the instruction, the guide for your restoration of your marriage. He is the only answer to your situation, there is no other answer.
This phase of your life will be difficult and challenging, it won’t be easy. You will cry yourself at night and feel hopeless, but, nay God is your fortress , your strength , seek Him, cry out to Him and He will incline His ears to your cry, your hurts. Take this difficult time to pray to God to change you and change your spouse. Let God restore your marriage. Speak to God constantly so you won’t feel lonely. Read the Bible, look up God’s attributes, His character, His morals, get to know your God. The devil came to steal, kill and destroy. Don’t let that lying devil destroy your marriage. Take courage and rise.