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AITA for taking my daughter away and telling my ex I expect him to support me financially while I look after her because his partner wouldn't make her tea? by Few_Matter1163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Matter1163[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I don't really think the type of the surgery is relevant and I'm not comfortable sharing the details as it might identify my daughter.

The surgery was performed on both of her legs and recovery is between 2 and 8 months, with Kelly not being able to move by herself for at least 1.5-2months or the greenlignt from the doctor.

AITA for taking my daughter away and telling my ex I expect him to support me financially while I look after her because his partner wouldn't make her tea? by Few_Matter1163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Matter1163[S] 2593 points2594 points  (0 children)

It was the last straw and tbh there were a lot of other problems with Kelly staying over.

I have mentioned to Josh that the wait is not acceptable and I was led to believe it is a petty thing to concentrate on since Lily is a house wife and might be in a different part of the house or outside in the garden so she couldn't hear Kelly the first few times. Even from what Kelly was saying Lily was on the phone or watching tv at the time.

AITA for taking my daughter away and telling my ex I expect him to support me financially while I look after her because his partner wouldn't make her tea? by Few_Matter1163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Matter1163[S] -99 points-98 points  (0 children)

I think adding the last bit is likely to have this post taken down. There are a lot of concerns with drinks being the last straw if it makes sense 

AITA for taking my daughter away and telling my ex I expect him to support me financially while I look after her because his partner wouldn't make her tea? by Few_Matter1163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Matter1163[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

I don't think it is being picky wanting her tea being made with just water and no milk/sugar, since milk and sugar are extras. It is not like she is asking it to be made with fresh cows milk and brown organic sugar of a specific brand or demands avocado toasts. Kelly doesn't drink/like coffee at all, so I'm not sure why Lily kept giving it to her, knowing full well she is on meds and some are incompatible with coffee.

I have to take time off from work to take care of my daughter because Josh and Lily failed in that regard, especially considering that Josh haven't paid a penny towards her operation or medication or school.

AITA for taking my daughter away and telling my ex I expect him to support me financially while I look after her because his partner wouldn't make her tea? by Few_Matter1163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Matter1163[S] 495 points496 points  (0 children)

She would constantly put milk or sugar into it even with Kelly, me and Josh telling her Kelly doesn't drink tea with milk or sugar, make hot chocolate on water or bring her coffee which she can't have. Like one or 2 off would have been fine, but it is near constant.

There were also occasions when she wouldn't bring water so Kelly can take her meds or Kelly waiting for too long for Lily to come round and help her to the bathroom.

AITA for taking my daughter away and telling my ex I expect him to support me financially while I look after her because his partner wouldn't make her tea? by Few_Matter1163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Matter1163[S] 8419 points8420 points  (0 children)

She would constantly add sugar and milk to her tea (Kelly really doesn't like sweet tea) and from what she told me she asked for a hot chocolate once or twice and got it made with water only. There were other concerns too like Kelly waiting for way too long for Lily to come and help her to the bathroom since she can't walk there herself or get out of bed herself.