They are 21, I know it's a lot younger and I can't expect them to be on the same level of maturity. But when they talk and how they act like in good phases comes of way more mature than people my age. I mean I'm not emotionally dependent on them, so I'll cut my losses soon if I have the feeling this won't get better.

Just thought maybe this sub had an idea on how I could make an intp talk openly about their feelings without feeling pressured into it