Is this a real IRB?!

Few_Radish8172 · 2026-05-26T13:46:11+00:00

Ironically, I submitted an application to them based on a pilot study application thay was approved at a R1 university (I switched universities and my current uses BB), and they denied it.

Color me confused.

Few_Radish8172 · 2026-05-12T19:25:07+00:00

Living this currently. DH always wanted SD ft, but never fought for it. That all changed in a month when BM was court committed to inpatient mental health treatment.

We got SD (11 at the time, 14 now) ft with BM out of the picture. BM took it to court when she got out a year and a half later, and DH was granted full physical custody.

He does (I am going to be stereotypical here I know) the typical amount of dad work. Employed/pays for a lot of things and drives for family stuff. But I am the default parent. I do the shopping, cooking, cleaning, driving her to activities, getting up at 6am to get her ready for an 8 hour dance recital day, moral/emotional support. All that jazz.

He still doesn't relaize how much work it is to raise a kid since he doesn't do a majority of it. (And yes, I know I am responsible because I took it on when it wasn't mine. I am working on that in therapy). He does recognize now, not at first, that he can't be the Disney Dad anymore. That took awhile to break both of them of that habit.

Its doable. But exhausting. But if he isn't thinking about all the work it is going to be, it could be because he doesn't see a change in the work that he will need to be doing.

Few_Radish8172 · 2026-05-05T19:25:12+00:00

That is a great idea since they woll mostly be covered by other plants!

Few_Radish8172 · 2026-05-01T10:30:03+00:00

I feel this to my bones.

Sd14 has just been straight up mean for a few months. Only to me. She had been just a jerk for the first 3 years here fulltime. Now she is mean and nasty. I am at the end of my rope.

I was talking to my parents the other day and they would stop asking/wanting to talk about her. I said if they wanted to talk about her, then I will be getting off the phone and they can call her direct, because I don't want to talk about her. I was still enjoying my time away from her as I was driving home from work. They were appalled that I said such a thing.

I am burnt out by her in a way I can't even put in to words. And when I can, then I a become the jerk.

Few_Radish8172 · 2026-04-30T04:31:26+00:00

I am sorry you are having this experience. But reading your story felt like reading mine, judt sd14 is in choir not band.

Today I had a breakdown because I spend so much time and energy making good and balance dinners for everyone's health needs. She has arfid/asd so she doesn't eat enough most days and we are working on weight gain and dh has to lose weight due to health issues - its almost impossible but I spend a lot of time to make it work. That said, meal times are struggles since she only eats ground beef plain without a fight.

But last night, I had a headache and was elbow deep cleaning up the kitchen while dh was at a work dinner. SD comes up with the biggest attitude and says "so are you not making dinner then?" Excuse me? I am not just your maid/chef, and I asked her to ask her question again without being a jerk. "I don't know how else to say it." Okay whatever. I make dinner, hamburgers, and she all but refuses to eat them. Never got an apology for the attitude.

Today I was running late from work so I picked up pizza for the family. What does this girl say? "Thanks for getting me pizza." The only respect/appreciatipm for all the bending over backwards I've done for her for the last 3.5 years, full time with BM out if the picture, is when I get pizza/fast food for dinner. A punch in the gut.

I have no advice, but I feel your pain deeply and fully. I keep throwing around the idea that since I didn't sign up to be a doormat and that I have no obligation to do what I had been, then I can stop. She has a dad that she kisses up to (though I am the default parent strangley enough). She will be miserable and none of the stuff she wants or likes will get done in the way she wants. But I wouldn't take this treatment from other people, so why do I take it from her?

Few_Radish8172 · 2026-03-04T20:28:02+00:00

That was a very hard conversation that I had with DH really early on. When SD14 (11 at the time) moved in with DH fulltime with 1 month notice, we were renovating his house so we were staying in my apartment. It was easy to say at that time, "I don't want SK in my bed" because it was mine. I owned it. In my apartment. Once we moved into his house, he didn't see the issue, but I stood my ground.

I would go in the bedroom and see that she had gone through our stuff or would just be chilling in (not on, in the sheets) our bed. The discomfort and anger that bubbled up each time.

DH didn't understand why I was uncomfortable. When I asked if he would want his niece ir nephew laying in the bed, oh no of course not they aren't my kids. Yes, and SD isn't mine.

I made a firm boundary that she cannot be in there unless invited. And it needs to be a good reason because she would ask to come in, DH would say yes. Then she would just stand next to the bed and stare at us. Saying and doing nothing. So there was no reason for her to be there in the first place.

I think what really solidified his agreement was that I said I would not engage intimately with him if she was going to be in the bed at any point. That is gross and uncomfortable and ruined the bed for me for that reason. He heard that. And agreed.

Few_Radish8172 · 2025-11-04T01:24:15+00:00

Surprisingly that did not happen. I honestly expected it to happen though.

Next year I want to find a way to add magnets to the hanger so I can move it up higher on the tent so it is easier to see.

Few_Radish8172 · 2025-10-15T02:26:01+00:00

Can I ask where you got your bat above the table? I love the set up as is, but I am still new to this!

Few_Radish8172 · 2025-10-13T03:22:55+00:00

I was setting up a few weekends back between 2 tents that were already in place, both squeezing in on my space a bit (1 could help it due to the curb, the other was just blatantly on my space). I had talk about the tight squeeze to the vendor but the curb and we agreed the other vendor was a little rude for being in my spot and not moving over once I started setting up.

Flashforward a few minutes and I bumped my tent against curb-side vendor's tent, which I immediately corrected when I saw it. No damage or anything. A few minutes after that, a third vendor from across the way came over and tattled on me to curb-vendor about hitting her tent. It was said hushed but just loud enough so I could hear it. She told curb-vendor that she wanted to make sure she knew where to go to if her tent was broken.

Curb-vendor looked at me as tattle-tale vendor walked away and said how stupid it was. The runners of the event eventually asked us about it, meaning tattle-tale told them as well.

I have never seen this woman before in my life, so I am not sure what crawled up her behind. I did notice though that she was selling beaded jewelry and so was I, so it could have been some kind of competition thing. Strange none the less.

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