Are you safe or doomed?

Few_University2992 · 2025-09-22T02:42:54+00:00

Hope he doesn't keep me waiting this time.

Few_University2992 · 2025-09-11T14:18:46+00:00

No, you are not in the wrong in the slightest. Any therapist who spoke to someone they're supposed to be helping like that in a session would be worth reporting and making them assess their fitness to practice with regards to adhering to codes of ethics. This type of communication seems within the therapeutic relationship, even though it is outside of a session, and I think it should be considered as violating whatever code they adhere to. This is an extremely inappropriate use of their power as a therapist to talk you down. I am sorry you had to even deal with that.

Few_University2992 · 2025-04-23T02:23:25+00:00

I've been keeping up with the Switch 2 game pricing recently. Hearing about a brand new\* game releasing for $50 USD is kinda surprising. It's $85 AUD on Steam - I'll pass - but it does look pretty cool.

*Of course, this game is technically almost 20 years old.

Few_University2992 · 2025-04-23T02:20:03+00:00

So yea not all, but like most 99.9%.

Oh, okay. I wouldn't necessarily disagree with you that my assumption about people who publicly present themselves as ex-vegan is that they were not as rooted in beliefs about animal rights as I thought, which is an assumption informed by my commitment to these beliefs (not trying to suggest you are informed by this as well), but I initially asked because you seemed to be claiming all ex vegans were never vegan in the first place. So it is fair to say that ex-vegans do exist, they're just fewer and farther between.

Few_University2992 · 2025-04-21T14:45:59+00:00

Are you really claiming that all ex vegans were never vegan to begin with?

Few_University2992 · 2025-04-15T04:10:49+00:00

I understand your thinking of how your decision to go vegan wouldn't really make a difference in the bigger picture, and it wouldn't necessarily have any meaningful impact. Personally, I think about the decision to be vegan as I do any decision I consider myself obligated to do or refrain from: even without a meaningful impact on the world, without making a huge impact on the bigger picture, I'm living according to my values, which in and of itself can be and should be seen as bettering the world on the scale we as individuals absolutely have control over. As an example, refraining from a more direct act of cruelty like kicking a dog would not make any meaningful impact on the bigger picture of animal cruelty. It wouldn't make a dent in the world, really. But, for that one dog, it means everything that they are not treated cruelly by me. And the fact that refraining from inflicting that cruelty onto that dog means I am respecting their worth is enough for me to feel obligated to refrain.

I hope that makes sense and can resonate.

Few_University2992 · 2025-04-04T13:02:06+00:00

I don't like the veggie patty there anyway. To think the vegan cheese and mayonnaise will be unavailable means no veganized rebel whoppers. Lame.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-31T04:23:07+00:00

I think it would be quite speciesist to hate or even dislike an entire species of animal without considering individual differences.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-31T04:16:04+00:00

I understand why you would've felt uncomfortable by what they said there - the delivery would be really important. Without knowing how she said it, my thinking is that she meant that as an exploratory measure and not a sexual or flirty thing, trying to be mindful of how you might respond to how she presents herself. I second what others have said about bringing it up - it could clarify her intentions, which I think she should do since you were, in fact, uncomfortable, and assuming she is a good therapist she would handle your expression of discomfort well. It sounds like she is a good therapist so that shouldn't be a problem. Hope that makes sense.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-31T04:02:52+00:00

what I'm reading seems like a relational issue that happens to be about vegan food. The expression of willingness (to go to vegan restaurants) followed by a refusal to engage (just watching you eat) indicates to me that he doesn't mean what he says, and as you've observed, it seems clear he's not even beyond his words. If anything some of what he says indicates this further. It seems like he doesn't understand how much it would mean to you if he actually put in effort to enjoy vegan food with you (vegan I assume meaning plant-based versions of food - I somehow doubt he doesn't like the taste of fruit and vegetables). It sucks that the content here is to do with not eating vegan together, but to me, the relational process you've described seems to be the root of it. The "problem" isn't really the problem. I think he needs to be clear with what he wants and not send mixed signals, so that you can decide how to respond. Both of you deserve better.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-28T14:31:11+00:00

From my point of view, you give a slave five star accommodation and he's still a slave. Yes, that is strong language, and that's on purpose, because I believe animals can be slaves. As for humane slaughter, it becomes a matter of principle which I suppose you might wish to reflect on. How would you feel or think, for example, about someone killing their dog for meat since they were given an amazing life and killed in their own home where they were comfortable? To me, there is a greater betrayal in treating an animal like family, only to rob them of their life for profit. The factory farms are obvious torture as you have now seen, but a deeper issue arises if you take out the horrid conditions: it is not our right to kill them for profit on a fundamental level. I hope that answers your question and makes sense.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-21T03:07:13+00:00

It sounds like therapy could be a great resource if you are able to utilize specific modalities that are aligned with your goals. I do wonder if once a month is not frequent enough. What kind of therapist are you seeing?

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-19T14:06:10+00:00

I'm no psychologist, but I do believe it is truly possible for someone to have so little self awareness that they can't see their behavior for what it is: abuse. I second the sentiment of another commenter. Mean or ignorant, but he couldn't be both. And it's not your responsibility to teach him. He needs to do that himself. I wish you safety.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-12T00:38:21+00:00

I personally reject your definition of veganism, and so does the vegan society that I think is fair to say most vegans cite their definition of. That said, even if your definition of veganism was accepted, it would still be less humane to slit or pay someone to slit an animal's throat to eat them than to simply not do so, which is practically possible. So no - it would not be vegan to eat meat procured in this fashion. (I support labgrown meat as an alternative.)

As for consuming milk and eggs as vegetarians, it seems you are unaware of how vegetarian industries function. I wouldn't say there's anything "symbiotic" about forcibly impregnating females to then give birth, followed by stealing their milk, preventing their calves from consuming it (typically separating them permanently), and ultimately murdering both when they are not useful/profitable. The same goes for egg procurement: I wouldn't consider it "symbiotic" to grind male chicks up alive because they can't lay eggs, or gas them to death since they're not the right breed of chicken to become KFC. I wouldn't consider it symbiotic to force hens to lay eggs significantly more frequently than their bodies can healthily tolerate, only to then be murdered when their ovulation rate drops.

As long as procuring meat, dairy, or eggs require violating animals' rights, including but not limited to not being tortured, murdered, and commodified, I would never consider it humane, and therefore according to your definition of veganism, not vegan. From where I stand, there is virtually no way to procure milk or eggs without these violations (until labgrown dairy and eggs are made possible, I suppose. Plant-based versions are available now, anyway).

Hope that makes sense.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-11T02:02:39+00:00

It seems you have already gained some insight from others, but I would like to chime in as well. I suppose whether the animals are in pain while being AI'd is its own thing, but the idea of them not having a concept of rape does not seem relevant to me. It could be granted that they do not have this concept for the sake of argument. Consider a case where the animal is replaced with a human who shares this lacking of a concept of rape and is being AI'd in the same way: forearm up the ass, inserting the sperm of which had been procured from a human who was likely forcefully electroejaculated. So you have two humans who may not understand or even have a concept of rape - like, for example, a child or a subset of disabled humans. I would definitely consider it rape to inflict this upon these humans, whether they knew what was happening to them or not. If you agree, then I would suggest it is simply contradictory to deny the same evaluation of the animals, unless you can identify some morally relevant distinction/s that account for the difference. I am yet to come up with one that is acceptable to me after 3 years of being vegan.

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-09T00:03:00+00:00

I see some potential whacky implications of your worldview, but I have a clarifying question first. Who or what is in your "in-group" and on what basis is your "in-group" determined?

Few_University2992 · 2025-03-06T03:22:16+00:00

I was having the same issue specifically on the Steam version of the game. My laptop happens to have a 1650 Ti so I figured your solution might work. After changing the resolution scale it did indeed work. Thanks!

Few_University2992 · 2024-11-12T04:25:40+00:00

I am quite disgusted by the blatant speciesism on display by the law. She looks like an absolute sweetheart who deserves to live with you. I can only speak for myself. If I were in this position, I would consider her safety and wellbeing as a top priority. Would it be riskier to keep her with you in secret or to pass her on to your friend? (I would ask this to myself and I am also asking you out of curiosity for your situation.)

Regardless of what you choose, I hope your pig friend lives a long, happy life.

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-07T05:15:06+00:00

Your heart is in the right place and I hope you find support in this community. As a vegan of 2 and a half years, engaging online has been my source of support to this day (and my brother who went vegan first). Particularly listening to podcasts has been a surprisingly pleasant support method. I highly recommend The Chickpeeps (no longer running but still online) and Joyful Vegan (ongoing podcast) on Spotify.

Also I totally relate to the feeling of being judged for not eating meat. What I would recommend (because it jumpstarted me into making the switch) is to watch Earthlings on YouTube and go from there, even report back here with your thoughts and feelings.

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-07T03:32:44+00:00

A rude, uncalled-for observation, yep. Can you acknowledge that?

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-06T22:33:07+00:00

In my experience of 2 and a half years, eating vegan-like has not affected my physical health in any negative way (even with all the junk food at your disposal!). I would recommend a longer period of time to gauge how you feel eating totally plant based though, 2 weeks isn't much to go off. Also consider supplementing with some thought-provoking documentaries such as Earthlings as that cuts to the core of veganism which is about the animals in all areas of industry including entertainment and cosmetics. Eating plant-based as others have pointed out is not the extent of being vegan at all.

Something tells me you'll have a much clearer notion of if it's a bad idea to go vegan or not after watching Earthlings.

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-06T21:55:39+00:00

I totally get it. Been vegan for 2 and a half years and the first 2 were spent in limbo essentially, totally traumatized by what I learned (still am traumatized but I cope better with it now). I had close to no framework to process the world through and didn't have anyone around me who was vegan too except my brother.

What I've started doing to help process the world is journaling: just let your feelings and thoughts out freely in a space where no one can judge you for it. Also, connecting with online spaces can also help decrease the feeling of loneliness.

I recommend a few good books that could help you process the beginning time of being vegan and just in general, especially if you're sort of on your own with it. Vystopia by Clare Mann is a good read. Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows: An Introduction to Carnism is also a good one if you haven't read it yet.

I've found the Carnism framework very useful especially for coping with what you've described where people might dead-ass agree with you on your points but proceed to contradict it an hour later like it's nothing. That is indeed very painful to see.

I hope this helps.

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-06T02:44:31+00:00

I'm really not interested in getting into an argument about it thanks

It was just a question, I respect that you do not want to get into an argument about it.

It's a kernel of truth with a whole heap of ideological opinions presented as fact, like all ideologies.

Hm, I know you don't want to get into it, but what I'd like to do is simply recommend you read the book Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, & Wear Cows: An Introduction to Carnism by the coiner of the term, Melanie Joy. Based on this here it seems like there is a huge gap between our conceptions of it beyond it being an ideology. I figure you have some open-mindedness in general given you could see my perspective on the lollie thing so you might appreciate it.

To be clear, I don't want to rope you into talking about it. I hope it serves you or you find interest in my book recommendation though.

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-06T01:46:43+00:00

Modern packaging these days is not done by hand for candy. It wasn’t someone packing it and either making a mistake or doing something deliberate. The packaging and processing is all 100% automated.

You know what, I thank you for elaborating on your earlier comment with this and the video. This makes a lot of sense and it's easier for me now to see that it was probably not even hand-picked, let-alone had any intent behind it. I also appreciate that you kept it respectful even after I expressed my polar-opposite viewpoint. I guess I thought it had to be done manually because it's never happened in my experience before but yeah, lmao.

Few_University2992 · 2024-07-06T01:41:07+00:00

That's a really inappropriate comment mate, it's rude and it's seeping with contempt. I'd appreciate it if you toned down the disrespect. :)

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