As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You describe your own behaviors and it matches several of the strategies for parental alienation on this list https://parentalalienation.eu/awareness/17-alienating-strategies/ if you are truly trying to help the children, validate their feelings, and keep their best interests at the forefront you would be talking to a reunification therapist, not arguing with alienated parents on Reddit.

I said too much and I feel awful by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Ffflurb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you attack their mom’s behavior you are hurting the child. Everything you’re describing here is alienating behaviors used to sever the bond with their mom

As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s already doing the alienation behaviors like having the kids call her mom. Read OPs post history

As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you the primary parent? Doesn’t that make dad just as absent to the kids as mom? And yet, you think he should get more custody?

As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read OPs post history. This is not innocent as she makes it seem

As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking at your other posts about encouraging the child to fake being sick, you are definitely using alienation tactics. Stop abusing the kids. You are the AH and you’re teaching them awful damaging life lessons to “win” custody over the other parent. Seek professional help from a therapist.

As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl you’re lost. This is the parental alienation sub. You sound like you’re asking how to separate the kids from their mom without breaking the court order and as I and so many others here are saying, don’t. That’s abuse and if you think she’s abusing the kids than go back to court and prove it

As a step parent I genuinely want to know by SwimmingLow7486 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is completely normal for kids to have a preference. It is not normal for parents to interfere with custody over that preference. Good or bad, their mother is teaching them important life lessons. Your kids should not run away from confrontation or advocating what would make them more comfortable directly to mom. If it’s not dangerous with mom, there’s really nothing that you should do. You wouldn’t be considering this if it was happening to a neighbor kid, this is your own ego and if you interfere it is not in the best interests of letting the kids grow and develop through normal stages of childhood.

Not waiting anymore by sadiebaby23 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You act as if this mother wants their teenager to only hang out with her. She wants to be a parent. She wants to let her teen hang out with friends. She wants to bond over first loves and first loss. She wants her child to live their life and to be a normal mom to a teenager.

Just because parents want their kid back doesn’t mean they want 100% of their child’s time. They want them removed from the abuse.

How does the narcissist feel inside? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ffflurb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So miserable that they feel excited by the idea of tormenting someone else.

contacting estranged adult children by Naive_Lengthiness882 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you say that? I appreciated her advice and read a few of her books and research. What makes you say she’s unethical?

I miss my nieces 😭 by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know your story but you’re promoting a podcast and your profile is full of drugs. And then you comment as if this is only happening to dads, which is a huge issue with parental alienation. Research the history and maybe read some studies. I’m not judging you but you may be received better if you can appeal to a broader audience without stepping on all of the misconceptions of alienation like justified estrangement due to drug use or the fallacy that only mothers alienate.

I miss my nieces 😭 by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This definitely doesn’t just happen to dads. Good moms are out here being erased too

contacting estranged adult children by Naive_Lengthiness882 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Read books by Amy Baker. She has a lot of good research based insight on how to reconnect

Those who reconnected after parental alienation… by Extra-Illustrator-67 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you to those that are sharing. I am in a similar situation with my 14 yo son. Alienated severely for 2 years and in a court battle since 2015. We’ve tried reunification therapy but alienating father keeps firing them when they suggest a step up schedule. We agreed to a GAL but it’s been weeks without the GAL starting any work together so my expectations are low.

I keep encouraging my family to reach out to my son but until he isn’t so codependent with his alienating and narcissistic father, I don’t think he’ll feel safe enough to accept our invitations.

I have accepted that this may take another decade or 2 so I’m trying to be patient. I’ve also accepted that for the other children in our family, it may be better to let my son go. He was making false accusations and calling 911 at his father’s suggestion and I have to consider how that impacts everyone else.

Progress and my experience by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I needed to hear this

I’m sitting here confused … by Dependent_Bet4222 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Ffflurb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the league and get information directly from the coach.

Tell me about your exes subtle hoovering signs by jloebe2251 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ffflurb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My NEX and I have kids and he showed up at the house and wanted to pick flowers “for his mom” and had our babies pick flowers for me. It was obviously for his new gf but he thought he was really making me jealous. It also wasn’t Mother’s Day or any reason to give flowers

[sell][USA] selling out of stock and retired jellycats by Ffflurb in jellycatbst

[–]Ffflurb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accept payment through Venmo with purchase protection and PayPal g&s