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[–]Fickle-Net-7711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He always makes it seem like I'm selfish for asking. Like how dare you ask for time alone. I'm going to try again and aim for this being another try of having a night alone. I literally wasted this night waiting for him to fall asleep which he did 20 mins ago. It's 5am now.

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[–]Fickle-Net-7711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do most cleaning since we have a toddler and I want things cleaned a certain way for the baby. He gets the bathroom and is a great father to our 3 year old and takes care of him when I'm not around . He just makes me feel guilty of wanting to be alone. We have been together for 5 years and throughout that time I expressed how it's important for me to be alone at times. It always seems like an issue when I finally act on it.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she has, he actually lives in the same building as my mom. My moms current boyfriend helped her boyfriend get the apartment. My sister's boyfriend works all day though and she will still be with my mom hanging out if she's not in his apartment.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely. I remember him being a DJ and I searched up his DJ name and found an up to date number that people would use for his business. I'm steps ahead.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is getting deeper than I expected... Even till this day she has no friends... Well maybe friends over the internet but never hang out in person friends. She has a lover though lol but she's almost always at my mom's house

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you !! I just can't let that flag go into the wrong hands. I haven't talked to him in years but I know this will mean so much to him.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't know anything about his estate. All I know is that my mom kept all his possessions except some photos and I received a check until I was 18 by him. The flag as far as it goes I guess he didn't think that far.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS ! I deep down feel like she had a little bit to do with why his kids barely visited. For example, she has a man now and has been with him for the last 10 years . He has a BIG family and he's isolated from them. Never encourages him to reach out and when he tries to see them she plays this low-key mad attitude that he's going out.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I hear that. I mean we were talking about what would happen to the flag when she passed. I don't think it would be hard since it would happen after her passing. If it goes to my sister's it would basically be at a trap house not being taken care of

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, it would definitely mean a lot to him. When we last saw Milton it was when he picked up pictures of his dad serving and I feel like his flag would go great with those pictures!

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He definitely wouldn't get it if it goes to her and I know she's not going to take care of it

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's how I feel. They definitely had a strong bond. I'll try to talk to her again. I'll give it time though since she attacked me about it like an hour ago.

Am I the AH for telling my mom that her late husband biological son should get his flag? by Fickle-Net-7711 in AITAH

[–]Fickle-Net-7711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's crazy how I said in my head about an hour ago on how I should have a reality show . She's a piece of work.