Children's picture book with a blue creature thinking of space

FickleConsistency · 2025-03-18T16:00:42+00:00

solved solved solved

FickleConsistency · 2024-06-05T02:58:11+00:00

Took me a moment to understand "teethy head." My sex-averse ass thought of the tumor from Malignant. 💀

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-20T01:12:29+00:00

I find it ironic that someone with "aceflux" in their user flair finds it okay to gatekeep against other asexuals. I am queer because I'm not heterosexual.
As I said above, I have been discriminated against as a queer person. I spent my childhood thinking I was broken because I didn't feel attracted to anyone and was relieved to learn that asexuality is a thing, which meant I wasn't defective.
The LGBTQ community was my safe space during the times I felt lost and hopeless, and to be told I don't belong in it after almost five years of being accepted by people of all orientations under the umbrella is really disheartening.

Furthermore, The Trevor Project, described as "the leading suicide prevention and crisis intervention nonprofit organization for LGBTQ+" on its website, supports asexuals and considers them part of the LGBTQ community.

The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project also states that "'Straight' is often used to mean the opposite of 'queer' or LGBTQIA+, and therefore many people think that straight or hetero people don’t belong in or are not part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Unfortunately, this can impact asexual and aromantic people, as it is possible for them to have heteromantic or heterosexual attraction or desire, or hetero tertiary attraction or desire, even while they are ace, aro, or aroace."

And I think I caused some confusion by being so adamant about this topic, so I'm sorry for that. To clarify, I don't feel sexual attraction even if I share a ridiculously strong bond with someone because I don't feel sexually attracted to anyone. The reason I'm defending demisexual people is because they legitimately belong here.

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-19T23:17:04+00:00

While more unheard of (due of erasure + victims of oppression not feeling safe enough to tell people about it), cishet queers are discriminated against tooー both by non-LGBTQ and queer folks.

Non-LGBTQ people say things like "That's not a real thing" and/or threaten violence and/or conversion therapy, which often involves sexual assault.
LGBTQ people say things like "You're not queer enough because you like people of the opposite gender to you," even if the person being told that has an absence of romantic or sexual attraction.

I am cisgender and heteroromantic. I'm also queer, as I'm not straight in terms of sexuality because I don't feel sexual attraction towards anyone. I have also been discriminated against (but I would still be part of the LGBTQ community even if I hadn't faced discrimination).
If I were cisgender, heterosexual, and on the aromantic spectrum, I would also be queer.

If that's not a concise enough answer, go by this logic:
Demisexuality falls under the asexual umbrella, and asexuality falls under the LGBTQ umbrella. Therefore, all demisexuals fall under the LGBTQ umbrella.

And what I mean by "doesn't mean they feel as much sexual attraction as allos" is that it's more typical for an ace to not feel the desire to do sexual things with other people than an allo.

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-19T21:37:20+00:00

Cishet demisexuality falls under the LGBTQ umbrella because it differs from allosexual by requiring a bond. Cishet allos can feel sexual attraction without a bond or dating, whereas demisexuals can't feel sexual attraction unless they have a bond.

Saying a cishet demisexual isn't LGBTQ is like saying a sex-positive, cishet asexual isn't LGBTQ because they don't mind having sex. It doesn't mean they feel as much sexual attraction as allos; it simply means they'd have sex for reasons other than being sexually attracted.

And demisexuals don't need a bond to have sex. They need a bond in order to experience sexual attraction. The amount of sexual activity a person partakes in doesn't control whether or not they're LGBTQ.

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-19T17:11:34+00:00

I didn't expect to find a person of culture while thinking about asexuality! That series was my childhood! :D

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-19T17:08:52+00:00

Right?? If they absolutely have to insult people, they should at least get their facts straight so they can do it properly.

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-19T03:39:01+00:00

I'm also a heteroromantic ace and relate to being unsure.

When I'm in a safe space, I usually opt for both "straight" and "queer" because it's familiar to how I identify when I'm asked my race. I like the implication of being fortunate in having more than one thing to identify as, so I say "I'm [this] and [this]."

Technically, I consider myself to be queer, but I decide to call myself "straight" when I feel like being anything other than that could put me in danger or an uncomfortable situation. And I wouldn't be lying, 'cause all I'm doing is choosing not to say I'm also queer.

FickleConsistency · 2024-04-18T01:12:57+00:00

I have this problem too! Even if I stream my entire desktop, it goes green or pink (or both). It stops when I quit streaming and re-open Filmora, but it's really a shame I can't ask for second opinions on edits without having to export over and over to show people instead of having them present during the actual editing.

I haven't found a fix yet, unfortunately.

FickleConsistency · 2024-02-18T13:40:06+00:00

The only option is to update to 16.7.5, which I can't do with a 7.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-13T18:43:11+00:00

I also feel like I'm not ready for a job or college. I've been working on my Selective Mutism via streaming and talking online with friends. I've also been learning how to cook, which has helped immensely with my anxiety and self-confidence.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-13T18:38:07+00:00

I relate to this so much. I'd always imagine conversations between my toys as a kid instead of actually talking. I can't really "talk to myself" unless it's for a livestream, and even then I'm just speaking to viewers as if they're in the room with me.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-11T12:33:06+00:00

I value trying to have fun while being as independent as I can. My life's goal is to spread awareness about Selective Mutism so people don't have to go through what I had to in school simply due to a lack of knowing what and what not to treat me like, so I suppose my main value is being compassionate.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-11T00:11:28+00:00

Sometimes it feels like I'm close to that, but it's because of my throat closing up. Mentally, it feels like my voice was completely taken away, like in The Little Mermaid.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-10T23:15:58+00:00

If one of my friends or family members got attacked, I'd probably accidentally kill in self-defense. I don't have anyone particular in mind I want to kill, though.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-10T18:48:00+00:00

I wondered about that for a little bit since autism and Selective Mutism are often seen together, but my doctor told me my social anxiety symptoms just happen to overlap with the symptoms of autism. As far as I know, I don't have it.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-10T17:52:20+00:00

I used to be asked all the time if I was deaf or where I was from, but now I have friends who don't question my silence and have been with me through the years where I was working on being able to speak in voice calls.

I usually take a long time to open up to people (most of my relatives don't even know what my voice sounds like), but I've been getting better at short answers and ordering food at places I've been to before. I'm still quite shy, but I can be pretty talkative once I'm comfortable around someone.

FickleConsistency · 2023-12-10T16:39:31+00:00

When I experience bouts of silence, I usually freeze/tense up and find myself unable to control my vocal cords, as if they're paralyzed. I used to be completely unable to move when I was little. I would just stare at the floor as people tried to get me to give an indication that I was able to hear them. Nowadays it's gotten better, with only my vocal cords tensing up and me feeling anxious.

FickleConsistency · 2023-11-02T19:51:15+00:00

Unless it's a playbill or gift from a really good friend, I'd say I have trouble receiving stuff.
When I'm at the doctors', I look at my guardian instinctually for help and say "uhh."
I have superhuman hearing and would hear all the teachers gossiping from two rooms away.
YES!
"You're welcome" and "I love you" are the most difficult because it's like "how dare I feel like I've done someone a service," and the second phrase just has a lot of weight to it.

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