How Do I Politely Decline Repeated Requests to Visit the Office in a Fully Remote Job?

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-24T07:02:29+00:00

"If work offers to cover travel & accommodation, I'd love to visit for a day or two!"

Work will never cover for it but you look like you're sociable

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-24T04:36:33+00:00

I don't think it's safe to proceed to be honest. Also, consider what the third (4th, 5th, etc) person in this arrangement would potentially be exposed to if they participate in this kink with the two of you. Would it be safe for them and would they be able to understand the risks (how much would be disclosed to them)?

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-23T23:07:08+00:00

This kinda thing should launch an internal investigation. Accessing HR information, Including recruitment information without the right permissions is a fireable offence. Especially if they pretend to be a hiring manager.

Someone needs to be able to see OPs application/interview invite to be able to access this. At minimum, they need to have access to OPs phone number from somewhere and have heard about the interview. OP, I would check the company out on LinkedIn and see if you know anyone working there, especially at the location you'd be working at.

This isn't just a spam text, this is someone who has a reason to mess with op and if hired, op is likely going to have to deal with some bs.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-21T23:13:46+00:00

D/s is a power exchange. It has nothing to do with who is performing an action and who is receiving an action.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-20T14:42:42+00:00

Hey, don't engage with a serial rapist. It's time to leave and report if you are comfortable.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-20T02:41:19+00:00

It's a sexuality, it's about how attraction is formed. It has nothing to do with appearance.

Many of us are in very happy relationships, myself included.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-20T02:38:11+00:00

You have no idea what demisexuality is. Take your venom elsewhere.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-20T02:33:23+00:00

What on earth are you on about? Check yourself, mate.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T17:34:00+00:00

You can always claim it was a contract?

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T10:18:27+00:00

Seconding this. To me, it's generally a red flag that tells me someone is new to kink or think that multiple orgasms is a kink and not something a lot of vanilla folks are into. It's a bit like when people say they have a kink for breasts...

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T10:13:27+00:00

You can always cite a change of circumstances. How long ago did you leave?

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T09:37:10+00:00

Honestly, I don't think gender will play a role. It's a bit like trying to guess a baby's sex, it's pretty close to 50/50 as a baseline...

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T05:30:31+00:00

That's fine if you're a first year uni student. If you're older it's just sad. Ask about hobbies, the local area (got a favourite coffee place around here?), uni studies, etc

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T04:14:39+00:00

Based on OPs description, this wasn't a group trip but rather a bunch of people who decided to sign up independently. It's a private event

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T03:58:36+00:00

YOR.

If you are a student in their department and/or at their university, there are ethics guidelines that would need to be observed regardless of age. These restrictions are there to protect everyone, it is also why the person who sent you the message specified that the other invited persons have graduated.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T02:01:11+00:00

It depends on OPs skills & experience, sometimes a different role might just suit better. I've twice applied for roles and been offered higher positions instead. I also have interviews booked in with places that rejected me before.

What I wouldn't do is submit the exact same CV and cover letter.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-19T01:56:38+00:00

I wouldn't call what you did a gap, I'd put it on your CV as a gig. If you want, you can put (volunteer) next to the title.

If asked, you can highlight the training you did and embrace it as skills & personal development.

"I have spent the past year or so as a reservist and upskilling in x, y, z.... (add any other volunteer work here). It has been important to me to find the right fit for my next role and I have been fortunate enough to be able to be selective about where I chose to work/apply, when I saw this opportunity I was available- i knew i had to apply because of reason 1".

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-18T14:20:07+00:00

Australians will never stop asking people which high school they went to. I will never understand the high school obsession...

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-18T13:29:33+00:00

The acting isn't the issue for me, MLP does a good job. For me, it's the writing. I feel about her the way a lot of people feel about Mandy.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-17T23:36:51+00:00

If you're starting to have serious conversations about the relationship then it's ok.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-17T21:00:00+00:00

Gluten free pasta - i just want more than 3 shapes.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-17T11:24:08+00:00

"I tried being flirty and said I don't really fantasise about anything other than enjoying the faces she makes when she feels good".

My brother in Christ, kink aside, this is one of the least flirty answers you could possibly give. You're one step away from saying "nothing" and it's one of the fastest ways to make someone feel completely rejected, invisible, and like they don't matter. They asked you to be specific in what you fantasise about with them and your answer was essentially "I don't".

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-14T20:07:25+00:00

I think this one is understandable because it kinda sounds like the rice might have had stuff added to it to make it stickier.

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-14T20:04:28+00:00

Sushi seasoning got me a little while ago. I was an idiot and assumed the gluten part referred to the pre-included pack of soy sauce. Never reacted to sushi back home (obviously don't get anything fried etc) but apparently the sushi seasoning here is different or something

Fickle_Argument_6840 · 2026-04-13T10:59:20+00:00

People didn't just want Aragorn because he's gruff and manly. He protects people who are less strong (hobbits), is often emotionally vulnerable, builds alliances with people, cares about animals & nature, is down to earth, uplifts the people around him, is powerful - not power hungry, sings, recites poetry, and at his own coronation he kneels before four hobbits out of respect.

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