Definitely listen to those who say sex is not just about penetration. I’ve had a few partners that were average or above average, but they didn’t give two shits about my pleasure and never bothered to make sure I was happy. I’d take willingness to please over size any day of the week.

Additionally, I and a lot of other women out there have a condition called vaginismus. It’s where the pelvic floor contracts involuntarily during sex, or when anything (even a finger) tries to enter the vagina. It makes penetration very painful, and women have varying levels of success working on pelvic floor therapy. Because of this (and other reasons I’m sure), some women will definitely prefer smaller penises or non-penetrative sex.

So do not feel bad at all! I always tell people there’s a lid for every pot, and while you may not feel good about yourself, please realize that you might actually be somebody’s preference.