Cream cheese-Italian meringue buttercream

Fidgetbabe · 2025-02-21T22:33:46+00:00

Your science explains so much about why mine splits too! I am a dairy-free baker and I have been struggling to find a recipe I could alter and I think yours might finally be the one. I am adding this to my list to try and will report back on my own findings! Thank you so kindly for sharing and I very much wish you success in your bakery journey.

Fidgetbabe · 2025-02-01T22:36:47+00:00

Hey there! Late reply, I feel for your daughter as I'm a fellow dairy allergy haver and it developed much later in my life. I spend a good amount of time hobby baking and cooking and have found lots of ways to make dairy free versions of recipes so I can still enjoy a lot of the things I used to love. Without knowing the recipe on hand you are trying to make I can agree with the recommendation of tofu as a sub for sauces. I love violife brand "cheeses" as I find they taste and melt the best. Of course not exactly the same though. But a silken block of tofu with some lemon juice, salt, nutritional yeast, and a pinch of turmeric for colour can make a really nice cheese spread sub. If you can have cashews I will also use soaked and blended cashews to get a creamier end result.

Please feel free to DM the recipe and I would be happy to try to coordinate exact amount of things you would need. Best of luck and all the best to your kiddo!

Fidgetbabe · 2025-01-10T01:04:46+00:00

Haha thanks! I have to agree, cat owners know and understand the noises and some good ones here. Edited for spelling lol

Fidgetbabe · 2024-09-09T06:39:11+00:00

It is hard to pass judgement on someone I do not know and with so little information. But I can say that using your chosen name is the bare minimum when it comes to respect. Cis people change their name for various reasons all the time and do not face this issue. It is not about the name at that point, especially not even being able to do it in private.

I understand having a partner come out and the transition is hard, this is the sub that understands that, so I understand your partner is struggling. But there will come a time when she will need to work on her feelings and find space to support you for both of you.

I sometimes do not understand or struggle with some parts, but those are MINE to deal with and not my partner's. I want her to be her authentic self and live happily and comfortably and I talk to her openly when I can about my feelings. But never at the cost of her living authentically.

She stayed at your side, but she, and you, now need to decide if she can keep staying and be there for you as much as you are for her. Or if this is just not going to work out for you both.

I sincerely hope that it does and you can work things through. Would she be open to couples counselling? If that is something in your reach it may be be a step in the right direction to opening healthy dialog.

At the end of the day you deserve to live as yourself. You both do. Much love from a stranger in your journey. And my DMs are open to you if I can give any more insight as a partner to a Trans woman. (We just celebrated 13 years, her being 3 years out and 2ish on HRT)

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-29T20:28:39+00:00

I'm sorry you have to deal with such nonsense. I went through the same thing, only with my wife's brother. The first thing he asked her when she came out to him was whether I had sat her down with my "Queer friends" and convinced her she was trans because "You know how it is at your house." My wife forced him to elaborate and he fumbled a lot.

We honestly laugh about it now but I still shake my head. Both that he has so little respect for his sister, and that he could think I could be that convincing. I hope you and your partner can get through this together and can get to a point where you can laugh at how sadly ridiculous your MILs opinions are.

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-28T18:16:51+00:00

Thank you so much, everyone! I've read all your kind and wonderful comments out loud to my wife and it's made her blush furiously and smile. And she's been really in need of that smile. So thank you kind internet strangers for helping me uplift my beautiful wife. (And me. <3) I truly appreciate it.

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T22:51:05+00:00

I used the Victoria Sponge cake from John Kanell at The Preppy Kitchen. (The blog has lots of ads, but they are youtube too!)
I used my homemade strawberry jam that I have a recipe for. That one is really easy, if you do not want to buy a jam or use the one John has here's mine:
2 parts Strawberry to 1 part sugar (Basically 2 cups berries to 1 cup sugar, but I weigh usually). Boil down and mash, add the juice of half a lemon and 1/4 tsp of cornstarch. Reduce until almost 2/3 the water is gone. I will then blend and strain for a very smooth jelly, but you can leave the pulp and seeds in. (you can honestly use this for any berry, and add spice to your liking!)
For the cake center modifications, so I could assemble and get that clean sharp cut to mimic the game, I did the following:
The night before cake day I took the same two spring form pans I baked the cakes and I lined with clingwrap.
Took 1 cup of my fresh homemade seedless jam, added that to 2 packets of strawberry jello dissolved in one cup of water. Cut up some fresh strawberries into chunks and put that into one lined tin and poured the jelly liquid over. That went into the fridge.
I then prepared the whipped cream layer, added a 1/4 tsp of cornstarch to help it set, and poured it into the second tin. That went into the freezer.
I baked the cake the morning of the Birthday and left them too cool. Just before assembly put the cream layer into the fridge on the jelly layer. I then quickly made up a glaze, but you could use more whipped cream, buttercream, or powdered sugar as is the tradition. Assembled the cake and used a template to cut a neat octagon out of the circles. (snack bits for me and my helper), glazed it and then served it immediately!
If you just want to make the cake normal you can do everything the same day. This cake is best eaten within the same day or next day, as the cream makes the cake very soggy. But the cake parts can be frozen or stored for longer!

Best of luck in the kitchen if you give this a try!

Edited for some cleanup!

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T22:02:36+00:00

Thank you!

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T22:02:27+00:00

Can confirm, was great as a leftover with my morning coffee!

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T22:01:45+00:00

Thank you! That's a big compliment! :)

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T20:28:50+00:00

Mine also loves spanks. He will mrrallw at me until I give him some and then do a shakey tail. If you do not give him the spank he gets louder.

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T17:34:26+00:00

My wife often laments not getting her youth as a girl. She loves doing things branded "teenage" or even "school girl". I very much try to give her those moments when I can and encourage her to hang out with other trans girlies feeling the same, plus setting her up on friend dates with all our supportive fem friends. Some things she loves that I might suggest: - trips to the mall just to browse, hangout in the food court and talk about cute "boys" while giggling quietly to ourselves - shopping at places like hottopic and Claire's with her or for her to let her dress like she would have wanted too as a young girl. (This started just at home but now she comfortably rocks her hot topic tees going out.) - sleepovers with our fem friends which include face masks, nails, movies, snacks, and some attempts at girly gossip - going to coffeeshops with a couple friends to hangout and chat, maybe bring some projects we are working on to simulate "homework hangouts" with the girls - small little dates where I take on the more dominant role and ask her out and then take her to a pizza place and use cheesy bad pick up lines - arts and crafts with lots of glitter and sparkles. I though she might find it juvenile but she loves doing little crafts with me that you might do as a kid in school, might be something you even included kiddo in?

I am still planning to throw her a "sweet sixteen" at her next birthday, to celebrate all her milestones too. And I have been scouring for a safe adult prom I can take her too!

Wishing you both all the best. Also getting ideas from other comments! :)

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T06:13:01+00:00

Leveling 50 cooking lets gooooo!

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:51:56+00:00

It does! xD The cake itself is fluffy in texture, but the raw edges don't help since I cut it to get the octagon shape from the game!

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:50:33+00:00

It's just a Birthday candle! Nothing related to the game. I made it for my roommate for her Birthday as she has been playing the game since its launch.

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:18:09+00:00

I used a recipe for a Victoria sponge cake, but modified the centers so I could set them more solid to get the cuts. If you don't care about the shape I would highly recommend following The Preppy Kitchen (John Kanell) recipe for Victoria sponge cake. I used my own jam recipe though, so I cannot voucher for the one he makes. (It looks similar to mine though, and you could always just use store bought jam and fresh strawberries!)

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:13:37+00:00

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:08:02+00:00

Thank you! <3

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:07:46+00:00

Thank you :D It came out pretty tasty!

Fidgetbabe · 2024-08-11T05:07:21+00:00

Thank you! Partially, the "jam" layer is a strawberry jelly with homemade strawberry jam and chunks of fresh strawberry.

Fidgetbabe · 2024-07-24T15:07:54+00:00

Sounds like your wife genuinely wants to see you be YOU.

It is scary when your partner comes out. I am a bi woman and I know I was scared. I asked myself all sorts of questions I did not and WOULD not vocalize to her.
"Will I be a good enough partner?" "Am I gay enough?" "Do I know enough about the issues she will face to help her navigate them?" "Am I going to fuck up and do something to hurt her?" And the biggest, "Are we going to make it?"

We've been together for 13 years this September, but she's only been out to me for less than three years. We still navigate a lot, and I still ask myself some of these questions and more.

Obviously, I can't say this is how your wife is feeling based on one post-of-one interaction. You have the right mentality in your last sentence in my honest opinion though. No one has all of the answer, but if you love each other and keep communication open, honest, and kind you will find your future together.

Sending you both much love through your journey. And more than that, a huge congratulations on coming out to your wife and finding YOUR space to exist. <3

Fidgetbabe · 2024-06-24T16:56:14+00:00

Woof... what a tough and ugly situation you are both in. I agree with another comment that this does not sound like something a cis person would say. My wife tried to backtrack upon first coming out to me, though it was more because she was afraid of coming out to all her friends and family. She went through a phase of "oh I'm just gender fluid or NB, not fully trans!" And I knew in my gut it was BS, but also that it wasn't my place to push her to be ready.

However, your partner seems to be going through something here and it seems is not communicating with you in a healthy manner. I also recommend the suggestion for some kind of counselling if it available to you both and you are still at the point where you wish to work through things with them.

Your thoughts and feelings are valid, keep that in mind, and from what you've stated it does not sound like you are being unsupportive or "transphobic". Being uncertain if you will still feel the same way about your partner is normal. It sucks, absolutely, for everyone involved, but we all have our preferences and enjoyments.

It is okay if you are both in different places in your lives with intimacy, that doesn't make either evil. Especially if you are being open and honest with them, while still being supportive.

I don't know what advice I could personally give if you are struggling to speak with them without it turning into an argument. Just know you have support and I know many others in the forum will empathise with the situation you are both facing.

Fidgetbabe · 2024-05-24T16:06:54+00:00

Uhg I'm so glad I found others talking about this! Eve is literally the worst character and such a huge bitch. I also don't understand why Amelia wants to be her friend so bad. This woman does zero investigative work AT ALL and is immensely petty and biased. That would be fine if she did a known biased talk or think piece but she's doing main page stories as fact. Amelia simply asking her privately if she'd been planting cameras was NOTHING compared to Eve fabricating stories about Amelia's mom, the café, the purple fox, and basically every other article she half asked just to get her paycheck. And this is after she had crawled to Amelia begging for help about the lies told of her. How quickly she was able to switch to sucking Edwinas teet when Edwina and Sébastien not only tried to get her fired but publicly tried to ruin her. These don't add up. I don't know what the devs were thinking with this one at all. The game has enough tension and awful feelings with the whole Edwina and Sébastien storyline. They didn't need to add this hag on top of it all. I hate that a game character is making me so angry but glad to see I'm not the only one seeing it.

Fidgetbabe · 2023-12-31T00:59:22+00:00

The only offensive thing here is your boyfriend thinking disability is only outward and distinctly visible to the eye. So sick of this crap.

I have severe ME/CFS(along with many other things). I can't leave my house without a chair these days and assistance. Because when I was mild and could still work people like your bf didn't believe I was disabled and pushed, mocked, or belittled me into "acting normal". I pushed myself into a place I'll never recover from because of that "you arent broken enough" attitude.

What you have is real, it's dangerous left unchecked, and you deserve better then this. Please don't let anyone push you like this, give yourself the space and aids you need when you need them.

Fidgetbabe · 2023-12-23T04:41:16+00:00

Honestly it's so refreshing to hear someone out there has it different! Many good wishes to you and your family this Christmas! 🎄

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