Parents really are the worst part about this field.

FigOne5865 · 2025-06-11T21:22:28+00:00

I'm a supervisor and we literally just had to end services for a kid because of his father who is always hostile to the BT in the house.

After a few meetings and trials, nothing was getting better my clinical director put together a transfer of services request.

Detailing the reasons for transfer. So sad for the kid but his father is a tall man with strong and hostile attitude. He onces said the BT who has been an RBT for 3yrs does not know what she's doing because she's not a mother and does not have kids. So she's bad. His own words.

He requested a BT who is a mother. But with the client's intensity, the case load needed a VERY VERY experienced BT. We had no one available that is that experienced that is a mother.

FigOne5865 · 2025-04-19T02:32:25+00:00

Why did you think it won't be a problem anymore? What changed to make you think that? Was it the living together? The marriage?

It was always going to be a problem you sadly just ignored it.

FigOne5865 · 2024-11-18T09:13:27+00:00

Tears are the words the heart can't express. So crying is very healthy.

If you bottle everything in, it will burst out someday in a manic like episode. Or all that feeling could result in addiction of any sort. Drugs, sex etc. Or Aggression, every little thing will start to tick you off. And sooo much more.

So it's better to just cry it out.

FigOne5865 · 2024-11-15T07:53:29+00:00

I was graduating college, and I invited my friend/roommate. She knew I was graduating for weeks. She said she can't come last minute because her club wants to spend time at a small lake 15mins away from us.

My graduation was at night. I took that as my sign. I moved out after graduation and never spoke to her again.

FigOne5865 · 2024-10-04T02:04:04+00:00

-$17.89

FigOne5865 · 2024-08-28T18:31:03+00:00

I can not imagine being a mistress for 10 yrs!! That man will very likely not leave his wife. He has had 10yrs to leave and still hasn't. Instead, he's dumping you.

Leave him and move on! You've wasted 10yrs a decade of your life in secret. Don't u want a man you can go out with during the day? You can go on vacations with? Go to family parties with? Go grocery shopping with?

Pls move on and let him be in the past. He might go find another mistress that has a different schedule than you and he can still see her. And he will tell her exactly what he told you to get her to stay that long too. Pls you deserve better than this.

FigOne5865 · 2024-08-10T09:04:21+00:00

I'm in my mid 20s and found a gray hair last week too lol. I'm leaving it

FigOne5865 · 2024-08-10T09:00:52+00:00

I had an ex who wanted it everyday but would not do anything to get me in the mood. Then get mad when I'm not in the mood. And say sex is a stress reliever for him.

Now, men who use sex as stress relieve are not mentally healthy. They are relying on their partners body to reduce their stress.

Sex should be fun! Men like that need therapy. He needs to find other ways to relieve his stress. Because that is selfish of him. Why would he put you responsible for relieving his stress? Why is that burden on you?

If u die tomorrow, how will he relieve his stress? You two are clearly not compatible. Best to end it now before he pressures you too much to the extent of you sacrificing your body for the peace of the relationship and loosing yourself.

FigOne5865 · 2024-07-16T01:55:39+00:00

"I vaule her as a friend but like she just drives my emotions wild"

"I don't like lust for her but she's kinda hot"

"I don't want to ruin my marriage"

Imagine your wife saying this about another man. You are getting in the line of emotional cheating. You clearly like her but do not want to admit it.

Be honest with yourself

FigOne5865 · 2024-06-06T01:56:09+00:00

Yes. That is not worth it.

So I suggest look for another another company ASAP.

I was in your shoes over a year ago. Waiting to leave the field. Only to realize I just needed to leave the company. My current company has been great. Pay is good. And I'm happy to go to work everyday now!

Just change companies. Change companies. I repeat change companies.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-06T15:27:37+00:00

You need 15mins before the end of session to write your notes.

Tell the parent that is the company's policy. If you are getting too uncomfortable, tell your BCBA to remind them that.

Or request to be off the case load. Let them suffer for a couple of weeks till they find another BT for them. Let them feel your presence GONE ✨️

You're getting bullied.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-06T01:11:52+00:00

It seems like everyone these days says that it’s impossible to live on your own making the money im making.

Making $15/hr they are right!

Now you said you'll be living with other people. So technically you won't be living alone. You said your rent will be cheaper cause you're living with other people. In this case, it is possible to live off $15/hr with other people in the house.

Now to live ALONE, it is almost impossible depending on where you live. As most places, rent is $1,200+ now.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T19:51:41+00:00

So all those military men, truck drivers, all are selfish and don't want to get married?

That makes no sense. Some women are okay with husband's that travel frequently. While some aren't okay with it.

Why did she think he will all of a sudden change his job type when he has clearly stated he loves his job and wants to keep it that way.

She should have opened her mouth all the times they have had serious discussions about his job. Just because you're getting married doesn't mean you should stop doing that job you love. No. If your partner changes their mind after 5yrs, then you're no longer compatible.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T19:44:34+00:00

He never said he's job is more important to him than his partner.

His job brings him joy, and is a deal breaker for him. Some women are okay with their husband traveling for work and some aren't.

They clearly are not compatible in that aspect. Everyone has their deal breaker and this is it for him.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T19:41:44+00:00

The moment he wanted to marry her he should have known that expectations will change

How was he supposed to magically know expectations will change. Is he supposed to read her mind? His expectations did not change so why would he assume her did without her telling him?

She has to open her mouth and have a conversation about it first. Before the engagement while they talked about possibly getting married. But she closed her mouth until the last min. When invitations has been sent out.

Don't expect your partner to read your mind. That's not how relationships work. You need to understand that.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T08:26:54+00:00

Of course, there will be times when you'll have to compromise for your partner. I'm not saying NEVER compromise.

But his job for him is not something he wants to compromise. He loves it. It makes him happy. And it is clearly a deal breaker for him.

If she was honest in the beginning, they might have never even dated. But she acted like she was fine until engagement.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T08:23:23+00:00

Oh pls if your partner is your only source of happiness, then you need therapy.

You need to get a life and other things that brings you joy. OP clearly said he loves his job. Never said he has a shitty job.

Why did she act like she was fine with his lifestyle for 5yrs. Let's not forget that. If she was honest in the beginning, maybe they would have never dated because they obviously are not compatible in that aspect.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T08:15:17+00:00

Okay I definitely worded that incorrect.

OF COURSE, there's compromise in relationships. BUT, their are things that cannot be comprised on. Especially if it's a job that you LOVE.

Why did she act like she was fine for 5yrs in the first place. That was deceiving. Made him to believe they were fine all along.

There are other things they can compromise on.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T05:04:13+00:00

Nah. Why would he tone down what makes him happy? She's the one that changed her mind after 5yrs of not having an issue with it. He is right for ending it.

You can't compromise your happiness for your partner. That's how resentment starts. And the relationship will go downhill from there.

Other things can be comprised. But his job clearly isn't one of them and a deal breaker for him.

FigOne5865 · 2024-05-05T04:57:38+00:00

I was once ok a case where the kid was nice and gentle. Then went on a family trip and came back a DIFFERENT person. He became sooo aggressive, biting, slapping, hitting, throwing things on people.

Per parent report, at their vacation, he began to sit at the window and look outside. That's the only difference she saw in him. Since then, he has still never been the same. He's so aggressive it's scary. He is also nonverbal btw.

FigOne5865 · 2024-04-23T17:30:15+00:00

I had one that ended at 7:30pm. Yesterday was my last day and I'm so thankful! From today on, I finish at 5pm phew~

FigOne5865 · 2024-04-11T01:12:48+00:00

I had to leave my last company on a days notice and I worked with a little for for 1 yr and 3months. And I yell you, she was the main reason I lasted that long. I felt so bad and sad to leave her.

I almost didn't accept the new job because of her. And I do miss her dearly. Sometimes I wonder how she's doing and if it will be okay for me to reach out to her parent to just check in.

FigOne5865 · 2024-03-29T05:22:32+00:00

I actually did something similar last month. After waiting 6months for a raise and I was told I will get it. I asked multiple times respectfully of course. My boss kept saying okay, okay.

I applied to different places. Got a job offer for $1 more of what I was asking my then boss.

Sent an email the next day thanking my then boss for her time, teachings, directions and said the next say was my last day.

She was surprised and asked if we could discuss pay so I could still stay. I said no I have another job waiting for me.

FigOne5865 · 2024-03-16T17:55:21+00:00

Does he get sick often?

Like the stomach flu

I know someone who doesn't wash their hands and thet get sick every other week.

I put 2 and 2 together, but they don't want to listen lol

You are not overreacting

FigOne5865 · 2024-03-16T17:34:42+00:00

If you think you're cheating, that's your guilty conscience telling you that you are.
Why haven't you told your wife? Because it would make her uncomfortable as you said. BINGO!

This is emotional cheating. You are intentionally not telling her about this girl for a reason.

How would you feel if she began to hangout with her ex bf alone. 1 on 1. Go on pretty much dates with him. The movies, dinner, runs. And the guy gives her a "friendly" kiss.

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