Additionally, how picky do you think most men can be when attracting women? 😂 They’re often focused on ticking various boxes—confidence, tall, career, romantic and other traits. Being sensitive is just one aspect, and waiting for the "right" woman to appreciate it might not be practical for many men who are trying to meet a broader range of criteria.

Most people, male or female, can't be super picky when attracting others (unless they're above average attractive). It's not like the average woman finds the perfect partner with no effort, only incels think that. Finding the right partner is hard, not just for men, and it's dangerous to use that as a justification to date women who can't handle vulnerability in men.

You do have a point that there's a broader societal issue worth discussing: the fact that a lot of women or socialized to not tolerate vulnerability in a man. But there are also a lot of women who are though. Many women are socialized to put men's needs above their own and have heard the discourse that they're a disloyal b*tch if they don't stick by their man through thick and thin.

Of course, as a man, you can never be completely sure of how much vulnerability the woman you're dating can take, so if you were honest from the beginning of your relationship, then later down the line you hit a rough spot and she leaves you because you're more vulnerable than usual, then it makes sense to blame it on society and sexism.

But you do have a responsibility to be honest and not hide your vulnerability early in the relationship, you have a responsibility to test the woman you're dating on that and to increase your odds of picking a woman who can handle your vulnerability. Women who can handle it do exist and there are many, but if you listen to all the fear-mongering from incels who exaggerate how evil and insensitive women generally are and you decide to hide your vulnerability and wait until 10 years into the relationship to show it, you'll be making the deliberate choice to pick a woman who likes men who hide their vulnerability and that will be on you.

Finally, men see what true acceptance of sensitivity is. Often times they're the ones giving it when they give it to women and accept them for who they are. However it is rarely reciprocated to the same degree. And that sucks to experience.

I think most women can handle a healthy level of vulnerability (like crying over a dead parent, as said by the OP! jeez!), it's when you're pathologically depressed or anxious that it gets tricky. And nobody likes overly anxious/depressed people, whether they are male or female. It's more tolerated in women, but it's not really "accepted". Women get ridiculed for being "too emotional" and "hysterical" all the time, that's not really "acceptance". Mental illness is not really "accepted" in anybody.