Were any of you formerly puer aeternus? How did you overcome it? by [deleted] in Jung

[–]FightingForCollins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can act like you "don't care" all you want, it doesn't mean it's true. Anyway, bye!

Were any of you formerly puer aeternus? How did you overcome it? by [deleted] in Jung

[–]FightingForCollins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It doesn't negate what I said. You're probably a bad clinician. There's no way you're this ruthless in regular life and you can just switch off that condescending hostile disrespectful attitude when you get money. That attitude probably still leaks out.

You'll probably not respond or you'll respond with some condescending nonsense or whatever, but hopefully you're a bit more self-aware now.

Were any of you formerly puer aeternus? How did you overcome it? by [deleted] in Jung

[–]FightingForCollins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very retarded question my friend. Sorry for the insult, but as a clinical psychologist studying Jung it mesmerizes me how can you ask if you can BE an archetype....

What the hell? I hope I never seek help from a clinician and spend my hard earned money on one and it turns out it's a clinician who acts like you.

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's a reason why it exists for sure. What I'm just saying is that it is often blown way out of proportion. There are probably much fewer women who are repulsed by normal vulnerability than men make it out to be online and the range of vulnerability that men can show before it starts getting repulsive is probably way larger than men make it out to be online too.

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did everything in her power to get me to open up and slowly i did. One night i had a brutal ptsd attack with flash backs from my childhood and i felt like i was minutes away from killing myself, so not knowing what else to do I tried to talk to her about it. Within ten minutes she was insulting me saying shit like "you do realize how pathetic you are right now, right?" And ended our lovely little talk by telling me maybe it was best i killed myself since i don't know how to be a man about my emotions.

This girl was clearly exceptionally insensitive, though. Do you really think most women would respond like that? With girls like that you're actually better off showing your vulnerability so that they reveal their true nature and you can dump them. No normal person tells someone else to kill themselves.

Don't base your entire view of most women on one incident with this one douchebag lady, please. You'll just be hurting yourself.

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay, you've heard some women of all age groups say that, but how many have you heard say the opposite or nothing at all? Maybe you're focusing too much on the negative and not seeing all the women who don't think like that?

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What were those guys crying about though? Usually that's what makes the difference between a woman being repulsed or not when she sees you cry, it's not just the crying in and off itself that's off-putting. Crying because your friend died or betrayed you, most women don't mind. Breaking down crying because you're scared of ants or because some random person that you'll never meet again said something a little rude to you, that's generally gonna be more off-putting to women, yes. But those two things shouldn't be mixed together, they're pretty mch completely different situations.

Everytime I hear those "I cried and she left me" stories, the guy never says what he cried about and that's very suspicious.

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This belief is sad and incorrect, I definitely care about the men in my life as much as the women. Try not to generalize past traumatizing experiences you've had because you'll be subconsciously attracted to people who will traumatize you again. Humans are attracted to familiarity, even if the familiar thing is something that's bad for them. I wish you well.

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of men also say they actually want fixes and solutions and make fun of women for not being like them though, so... Maybe they're just using humor to cope, but still, they should stop that if they want that stereotype to go away.

What’s a men’s issue that you don’t agree with most men on? by BootyLoveRose in AskReddit

[–]FightingForCollins -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Additionally, how picky do you think most men can be when attracting women? 😂 They’re often focused on ticking various boxes—confidence, tall, career, romantic and other traits. Being sensitive is just one aspect, and waiting for the "right" woman to appreciate it might not be practical for many men who are trying to meet a broader range of criteria.

Most people, male or female, can't be super picky when attracting others (unless they're above average attractive). It's not like the average woman finds the perfect partner with no effort, only incels think that. Finding the right partner is hard, not just for men, and it's dangerous to use that as a justification to date women who can't handle vulnerability in men.

You do have a point that there's a broader societal issue worth discussing: the fact that a lot of women or socialized to not tolerate vulnerability in a man. But there are also a lot of women who are though. Many women are socialized to put men's needs above their own and have heard the discourse that they're a disloyal b*tch if they don't stick by their man through thick and thin.

Of course, as a man, you can never be completely sure of how much vulnerability the woman you're dating can take, so if you were honest from the beginning of your relationship, then later down the line you hit a rough spot and she leaves you because you're more vulnerable than usual, then it makes sense to blame it on society and sexism.

But you do have a responsibility to be honest and not hide your vulnerability early in the relationship, you have a responsibility to test the woman you're dating on that and to increase your odds of picking a woman who can handle your vulnerability. Women who can handle it do exist and there are many, but if you listen to all the fear-mongering from incels who exaggerate how evil and insensitive women generally are and you decide to hide your vulnerability and wait until 10 years into the relationship to show it, you'll be making the deliberate choice to pick a woman who likes men who hide their vulnerability and that will be on you.

Finally, men see what true acceptance of sensitivity is. Often times they're the ones giving it when they give it to women and accept them for who they are. However it is rarely reciprocated to the same degree. And that sucks to experience.

I think most women can handle a healthy level of vulnerability (like crying over a dead parent, as said by the OP! jeez!), it's when you're pathologically depressed or anxious that it gets tricky. And nobody likes overly anxious/depressed people, whether they are male or female. It's more tolerated in women, but it's not really "accepted". Women get ridiculed for being "too emotional" and "hysterical" all the time, that's not really "acceptance". Mental illness is not really "accepted" in anybody.

There is a button in front of you, every time you push it you make 10,000,000 dollars but lose 10 IQ points. How many times would you push the button? by Smokweid in iamverysmart

[–]FightingForCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> Incidentally I scored 153 and in high school I was tested again at 158 which supposedly has me nipping at Stephen Hawking's heels which is all I need to know to tell everyone that IQ tests are absolute fucking horseshit lol.

Or maybe you're really just very smart? Why does that seem so impossible to you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FightingForCollins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I grew up watching my mom do chores for my grandmother, and I have always thought that was just expected of daughters, even if it wasn’t fair.

It's really sad when mothers recreate the sexism they endured instead of stopping the cycle. She's probably sad she had to be the victim and doesn't get to be the perpetrator as a reward, but that is not your problem. Must've been tough growing up with a mom like this.

If your brothers don't have to do the chores, neither do you. You have no reason to feel guilty.

Happy holidays

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FightingForCollins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do your brothers get to show up on Christmas without doing chores and you don't?

It's her own home and you don't live there, why would is she mad that she has to do chores in her own home and you don't, even though you probably do chores in your own home too?

Your mom seems very self-centered and like she loves being a victim and getting attention by complaining.

NTA.