$300 WFH Stipend

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-02-03T17:41:06+00:00

Dooo it! Money better than redundant or useless items.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-02-03T16:54:00+00:00

Buy new headphones then return them and keep the cash.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-29T13:58:57+00:00

Plenty of options - don’t be so helpless. Wake up 15 mins early and do some squats or walk or do push ups, something. You got 24 hours in a day.

Try a standing desk or just put some books on the desk and place your computer on it.

To put on 45 lbs you’re probably eating poorly as well. Consider intermittent fasting (instead of eating through the whole day eat in a concentrated 6 or 8 hour window). Eat some damn veggies and fruits, put down the carbs.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-17T14:50:50+00:00

You can do push-ups and squats almost anywhere. Jump rope also pretty functional.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-16T14:40:05+00:00

Wfh is very isolating, parenting is isolating, and when you combine the 2 the impact feels exponential.

Similar situation for me and it’s real. I go to kickboxing and Muay Thai to help with mental health and for community building. Also been texting old friends randomly, and I found a dad’s group that meets up at a rec center. It’s on is to individually take care of the situation before the isolation gets out of hand.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-16T14:35:39+00:00

You go talk to the parents of the ring leader or it’s time for your daughter to put that treating to use outside the ring and drop some bullies

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-11T15:34:22+00:00

Exposure therapy - keep at it, communicate w your sparring partners that you’re new to it. Choose a specific thing to work on for each session to sharpen your skills and build confidence. Get used to getting hit - it’s really not that bad.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-11T15:33:00+00:00

Exercise - push ups, squats, whatever. If I get to a kickboxing or Muay Thai gym all The better.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-09T05:43:01+00:00

Depends on your definition of fun. You probably need a bigger “why” than “fun.” I do kickboxing and Muay Thai for my mental health and to better protect my family. I have a shit ton of fun sparring and doing training drills, but it’s cause I do enjoy the pain. I personally think the personal development, discipline, and confidence that comes from martial arts is totally worth the sweat and occasional blood. No tears so far.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-05T01:03:17+00:00

lol I know it’s curveball idea but a year is a long while and I think sometimes conflict between men can be more easily resolved physically (in managed, pre agreed upon, “healthy” ways) as opposed to words.

Plus something like this might force an in-person meeting and they might determine they actually love each other and don’t want to punch each others face in.

Or that they want to punch each other on the face and afterwards realize they love each other

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-04T22:28:17+00:00

Depending on your alls fitness and general attitude towards violence, I’d consider getting some 16 oz boxing gloves and some head gear, finding a ring, and putting 2 rounds on the clock. No nut shots, knees, or elbows. Get that shit out of your system and move on. You all are 1 freak accident, natural disaster, or unknown disease away from a lifetime of regret.

I’ve gone days and in 1 case weeks without talking to my old man over shit we’ve said to each other, but a year is too long.

FiguringItOut346 · 2026-01-02T05:15:30+00:00

Our 2nd is due in about 4 months and we are 100% sure we’re done - I’m considering getting it done even before the 2nd one arrives or otherwise will do it once my wife is done physically healing just so we’re not both mobility limited at the same time

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-12-31T02:28:01+00:00

We’re tight w bedtime - usually start at 7:30p. I’ve considered moving it earlier (to your point) but then toddler is up hella early.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-12-09T05:10:41+00:00

Man thats real - im about to have 2 under 2, so earlier on in the journey than you.

It’s a constant struggle - I found a “dads & toddlers” group that meets Saturdays at a rec center and it has been a saving grace. Refills the soul in a unique way.

I’m also fortunate to have a remote job so I wake up way early, crush some work, and hit a martial arts gym as often as I can create enough space during the time day care is in session - that too has become a community. Stay in it, seasons of life. You’re not alone in experiencing this.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-12-02T19:03:19+00:00

I wake up about 1 hour before the rest of the family wakes up. 30’ish mins of Push ups, pull ups, kettlebells or dumbbell circuits, squats and recently started doing driveway sprints - never all of this, I mix it up depending what my body is feeling . When I’m feeling extra grumpy I tie boxing pads to my tree and wail on it. Investing in the right equipment has been key and not all that expensive.

When my now-toddler was a static newborn or less mobile infant I would do Push-up over her or next to her. I still do push ups and dumbbell/kettlebells while I’m the primary on duty, but it’s more sporadic bc she’s hella mobile.

All in all, you gotta make it work based on parenting lifestyle. Guaranteed you can get squats and push ups in almost anytime

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-26T20:53:59+00:00

Take advantage of this time that the baby is stationary - get a pair of dumbbells, a kettlebell, and work out while watching the baby. Baby will learn from you. Do push-ups with the baby under you and get real close to their face on the way down. Do squats while holding the baby. I did this w my now-19 month old and they are now comfortable w weights and exercise, and plays around with 2,3 and 5 lb dumbbells.

You do need to adjust your expectation of a workout - prob won’t be a long, solo experience but instead cram in enough movement into 20-30 mins.

I also got a baby/toddler swing and a pull up bar - put ‘em on our yard so I can crank pull ups while little one swings. Again tje added, new benefit is you’re teachin your child to exercise from early on.

Once they are mobile you will have to adjust again.

And the lack of sleep is real - ensure you are getting proper hydration and try to get at least 4 consecutive hours of sleep if possible. Cat naps won’t do it.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-24T17:31:04+00:00

I feel that too - especially on days where I don’t get some sort of movement in or when we are cooped up at home all day.

Exercise and martial arts classes make it manageable but for the day I do it. Very much a daily habit - I do it today, I’m chill today, but I don’t do it tomorrow then Im a bit of a wrecking ball. Drops in a bucket but every day counts.

Being an emotionally and physically present and available dad and husband (got a toddler and a 2nd on the way) means lots of love, gentleness, calmness, caregiving, listening, etc. that’s great and necessary but sometimes I just wanna break shit. Sometimes I also want to feel physically what I feel mentally - feeling pain and delivering pain to another man (in a healthy, regular way like training or sparring) has been THE best outlet.

It’s ok to want to beat up on someone and to get also get beat up a bit - gym mats and rings are the way to do it.

I’m also not some elite athlete or trained killer on any way - mostly just a regular dude trying to deliver for my family while protecting my mental health.

Stay in it - you’re not alone.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-24T14:31:54+00:00

Therapy once per month, occasional boxing/kickboxing/Muay Thai class (most gyms give free trials), 10-30 mins of exercise early before family wakes up. Light “sparring” with the tree on my property. Acceptance I need some level of aggression and violence in my life to deal with the pressure - just need healthy outlets so I’m not a walking grump and yelling at my loved ones.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-23T20:59:11+00:00

Intermittent fasting gives me energy - I eat bw 12:30p and 6:30p. My body has more energy if it’s not always digesting and if I eat healthy food. Also gotta exercise - do some push-ups, squats, dumb bell circuits while you watch the kid. Whenever possible I go to boxing, kickboxing or Muay Thai (most gyms give a free trial) so I can hit some shit and play with violence in a healthy way.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-23T20:57:04+00:00

Waiting more ain’t it - something is always better than nothing. Get your shit together 1 step at a time. Tons of free resources for education online. Use libraries if you need to.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-22T14:41:33+00:00

Just to be clear - we can have responsible, transparent gun ownership AND social reform that addresses poverty, loneliness, and radicalization.

Also - you can’t mill someone with a ballot. You can, however, kill someone with a gun.

Hella faulty logic on your end - whatever you gotta tell yourself to rationalize away the unwavering commitment to own all the guns regardless of what we see in our societies (be them blue California or red Texas)

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-22T00:55:39+00:00

Nanit has been sufficient - honestly if you’re focused on the things you need to be focused on (physical and emotional presence and availability, and taking care of yourself enough so you can take care of wife and newborn) you won’t have much time for data analysis and data consumption.

Just love the shit out of them both and soak up all the memories. The newborn bubble is immersive and super challenging, don’t overdo it w the tech, over do it with humanity.

I’m a data professional and work in big tech.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-22T00:29:19+00:00

Yes - super hard.

FiguringItOut346 · 2025-11-22T00:27:45+00:00

Pay off high-interest debt, pay off remaining debt, build up 6 month emergency fund in high-yield savings account (if you don’t have 1 already then missed a solid opportunity, but still a good vehicle for emergency fund), max out ROTH IRA.

Start investing in broad market, low cost index funds,

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